Should I say no to someone who loves me but i am married

Surely this isn't something that the people on this board can decide for you. Do you or do you not want to cheat on your wife and children? If yes, and you are sexually attracted to the woman at work, then go for it. But be prepared to take the consequences if your wife finds out, or if this woman suddenly decides that actually she wants you full-time. If you are anti-adultery, then tell her that you're very flattered by her interest, but you won't be taking part in any kind of personal relationship with her. I have one piece of advice though - if you decide to turn down the advances of this woman, tell your wife what has happened. It is entirely possible that the woman at work may take it badly and try to make contact with your wife and tell her that you are having an affair even if you're not. So tell your wife that you are having a problem with a woman at work who is making unwanted advances to you, and that you are making it very clear to her that you are not interested.

I think you should be honest with you wife and please egnore other relationship because if once you accept this relation then you will loss any one and you can get more tension with other relation. So please ignore it.

if you love your wife an kids,than you wouldnt want to have anything to do with her except to be freinds.ask yourself! is this women worth loseing everything you have?

love is different from marriage

Don't confuse yourself, if you love your wife then forget that lady, otherwise she would ruin your marriage life. Make her clear about your intentions that you don't want to ruin your marriage life because of her and you love your wife and you are happy wit her.

Cmon my friend, dont spoil your happy married life. that lady dont love you at all. if she did she wont ask you to ruin your life. She is only looking for lust which she can get anywhere.

be a honest always . having a lover after marriage for friendship purpose is OK agreed but your relations ship should be a restricted on e. no bodyly touchings . having a lover for marriage after u hav already married is a sin . it should not be pls ignore this idea

hai,i am shokhin from indonesia was what you experience of very human.it is fair according to yours me is in test by thick the infinite how you believe.your is given on to among choosing family which you have formed or choose the him which your own not yet known or you not yet recognized him more. you must choose family,wife which you have recognized as well as you child requiring figure a father that is you. trim,s

why are you in a dilemma? you say that you're happy with your marriage and kids! so there shoul'dn't be any problem at all! If you're really thinking about it, you're not as happy as you say! So don't even think about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let that woman go and say NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

simply stay away from her bcoz it will ruin u,ur family n ur children n wht not ....she may be desperate for u but that dosent mean u should cheat ur wife n children..wht wrong have they done to u

be frank is she is the only one who want it or you too are getting involved. you should think of the consequenses first before moving, cheating is not a easy game.

why are you even thinking about it you are married you say i am flatterd but no thank you i am married and have children end of story no you dont cheat you are married

yes, it will be nice at starting and you may enjoy if u want. but at any time ti may a big problem for u. please take a right decision at right time that not lets u to stop ur happiness. have a peaceful life with ur dreams that comes true. keep smiling

I'll give it to you pran. your honest and you don't seem to be in denial. I've always been of the opinion that dilemmas bring out the true character in people. I'm not telling you what to do or what not to do, but I will say that you will know a lot about yourself depending on the decision you make. Me personally I wouldn't do it. You have a wife and child and I don't know the situation at your home but will will probably make it worse, if there is one, by having a relationship with this woman. And one last thing. Don't confuse lust with love. I'm a man I sometimes find myself thinking with my "little head" and not the one I should. Believe if you get with this other woman she will do the same thing to you.

Turn around and run fast. YOu will ruin your wife, emotionally, and destroy your marriage. You children will be fatherless or wish they were. They will resent you for destroying their childhood. Then they will most apt follow your example of destruction in their own lives. You do not NEED the love of another and her need for you is self-centered. Satan can work through nice people to accomplish his destructive ways. If you run fast and do not look back, your lady friend will move on and find the next married guy to entice into destructive behavior for her selfish motives.

i will not advice you to say yes to her because it will certainly jeopardise the relationship with your wife and family..

I think you've already answered your own question. Listen to what you are saying. This other woman doesn't want a committment with you and you will not have something with her in the long term. You have a supportive wife and kids at home. You say you are happy in your current relationship with your wife, so why look somewhere else that isn't going to give you the same quality of a relationship? You must also remember that if you take this course of action and pursue a relationship with this other woman, you will not only damage your relationship with your wife, but with your children as well. Sounds like you have a lot more to lose by pursuing a relationship with this other woman than you have to gain. When you look at your pros and cons it becomes very simple.

If you truly love your wife and kids you will not do this to them. When you get married you make a commitment that goes against it if you go with this other lady. Think is it worth losing your family for a few nights of fun when all you have to do is talk to your wife to have the same fun. I would say stay away from this lady if she comes around leave or complane to your bord family is everything and if you dont have that than what do you have.

If you are in a happy marriage i don't understand why you would even consider this. You would loose your wife and your children or at least loose their trust and respect. If you are not in love with your wife you should think about divorce. After that you can think about the other woman.

Certainly you should say no to it, infact it will be sin for you to do that, you can be strict towards here (infact try to break her heart) this will put her on defense !