which comes first?

I dont think we will be able to decide these things.For a normal person earning an average income will give importance to your family. But if you are blessed with some talent and fortunately recognised you will give importance to it,if you are the type of person who works hard.[Money,career or dream,]Then you expect your family to adjust with you.

my priority has to be me..withouth me,i can't help anybody..

well for me my family and my love both are equal and the rest comes later on