Why do we simply fall in love even when we know we can't get the person we want?

Pakistan
January 11, 2007 9:37am CST
Sometimes in life you fall in love with a person you really adore but you know that your paths of fate are way different. I know its just .. natural but any other reasons as well?
12 responses
@ram2aug (59)
• India
25 Jan 07
we fall in love but that actually is not love its just "like" that we missinterpret its just that we start to like that person and want to live with them. and when this feeling comes we tend to think everything positively we never think anything negetive about which we are so determined. and the second reason is because of films in which they simbolise romance as an integral part and we try to develop fantacies,finally we try to do the same to accomplish our fantacies.......
• Pakistan
26 Jan 07
Indeed and when we pursue those fantasies, we end up getting more hurt than loved. Good Answer.
@sayuri001 (130)
• Japan
25 Jan 07
i guess it is because some things are not meant to be. no matter how far you are a part or how long you've not seen each other i believe that if you are destined to be with each other no matter how many years passed fate will always find its way to bring you back together again. Who knows..you might fall inlove now with the person you can't get then after years you will fall in love again with the same person and this time you will probably have him/her. love always find it's way.
• Pakistan
26 Jan 07
So true, Indeed true love does find it's way.
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thats what you call life and I dont look at the person for their religion anyway because religon is a wonderful thing and if someone loves someone that was GODs will to bring them together!
• Pakistan
26 Jan 07
Indeed, Thanks for your perspective :)
@gurubhai (79)
• India
22 Jan 07
Haven't you heard the very old and popular saying that "Love Is Blind" . Love ke liye saala kuch bhi karega
• Pakistan
22 Jan 07
True, magar sala roze roze marna parta hai!
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
what i notice is sometimes people fall in love in the person that they see everytday. set example for me i sometimes thought that i admire the person who is a lot thinker and humor than i then suddenly if this guy tells me that he already have a girl in his life,i just feel as if there is a knife in my heart, maybe i fell in love because that attitude that the guy have is the reverse of my attitude, that will complete me.
• Pakistan
22 Jan 07
Excellent Theory! I do agree to that, maybe people just can't help falling in love.
@destroyer (785)
• Pakistan
22 Jan 07
its not always the case! some people do acutally get the person they want! Love isnt a disease that can be prevented! when you fall in love their are no preconcieved notions of not getting who you want! it just happens! you cant help it! even though you wont get the person of your dreams no body can help not falling in love thats the beauty of it!
• Pakistan
22 Jan 07
True ... Well thanks for answering :)
@nanands (122)
• India
26 Jan 07
I think most of us keep falling in & out of love (I mean serious stuff not just social endearments!) with more number of people than we care to admit to anyone. This is because most of these 'loves' cannot be realised because of social, familial or plain incompatibility reasons. But things get complicated if the other person also has feelings similar to yours and in a weak moment both of you just happen to share it. Then you have the comfort of love and discomfort of other pressures. Best is to try to prevent yourself from expresssing those of your 'loves' which have hardly any chance of success- easily said than done.
@fabwisp (1328)
25 Jan 07
I think its the luck of the draw. I thought I'd metthe man I would be with forever. But it wasnt to be and we seperated. Now with 3 kids and still no man am wondering if it will ever happen. All the nice men seem to be taken now! And if they are single can't help but wonder 'wats wrong with you then!'
@ihr485 (117)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
Love is a deep word...There are things that only the heart can see & understood, Sometimes Love moves in a mysterious ways in which one morning we juz woke up and find ourselves inlove with this person that we know from the very start not meant for us to love...
@pendragon (3352)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Sometimes you fall in love with someone because they are "safe" either very taken or will not be in your realm of things for very long, then you're in love, but the hapless victim as well, you don't have to try etc etc, you can breeze through the experience with an essence of non-commitment.
@sweetrala (1439)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Because u dont choose who u love and that the more u cant have it the more u want it.Its human nature.
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Sometimes there are obvious reasons like physical attributes but almost always it's just that 'the heart that has reasons that reason itself cannot understand', if you have heard of that line. Maybe that's why they say love is blind.