My daughter just had her lip pierced.
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
United States
January 11, 2007 11:38am CST
I am trying not to be to critical regarding her decision to her latest piercing. She pierced her lower lip. She had her nose pierced and wears a ring in the piercing. This isn't the first she has done with piercings or other things. She has had her tongue pierced (but removed it because of not being able to play clarinet), dyed her hair an outrageous shade of red and once orange. Her siblings have had similar piercings. I often feel she is doing it so that others don't feel she is just a goodie-two-shoes. I know that I will most likely comment on the protrusion in her lip. She will expect it.
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@navinshan (3933)
• Canada
11 Jan 07
I don't think there is any thing wrong in piercing, i too have pierced my one ear, since i have heard that piercing is good for your body, since there would good flow of blood, and secondly it todays fashion trend,
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@BigBenas (943)
• Lithuania
11 Jan 07
I don;t like that kind of things and pierses is bad for our body i read it in some magazine and that is realy bad if you have alot of pierses it is realy bad i just can say bad for girls that gas there pierces :( . What can i say more you have alot of message and i make and idea yyou realy like to post here .
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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11 Jan 07
Oh my! I don't know how I would handle something like that. I can't relate to kids doing these things. When I was a kid, I did my own thing, never was one for the trends. I never cared who thought what of me.
Have you told her, those peicings were first started by people wanting to be diffrent. With so many doing it now, it's considered "normal" now.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I remember her talking about the people who were into piercing their bodies or dreadlocks, etc. She thought it was a phase for them. She is now 28 years old. I just can't figure out where she is coming from. Maybe she has tried to be the norm for many years and wants to stand out for once.
@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I had no piercings but earings until I was 39. Here's my funny story about it.
A friend of mine wanted to get her tongue pierced..why I could never figure out. But I said I would go with her and get my eyebrow pierced. I liked the way it looked on alot of people, so off we went.
Well she insisted I go first. So there I sat and waited. I had talked to many people and most of them said it didn't hurt anymore than getting your ears pierced. Wrong... when the guy stuck that needle through my brow, I thought for sure.. My eyebrow had been ripped from my face and blood was pouring out all over the place. I must have been white as a ghost cause the guy said "Are you okay?" All I could say was " I don't f***ing know"
There was no blood and my eyebrow was fine but OMG did that hurt. It was only for a second but he must have hit a nerve when he put the needle through. I still wear my brow ring 6 yrs later. I like it.
My friend never did get her tongue pierced..lol They told her that her tongue was "inadequate" scarred her for life..lol
@BigBenas (943)
• Lithuania
11 Jan 07
I don;t like that kind of things and pierses is bad for our body i read it in some magazine and that is realy bad if you have alot of pierses it is realy bad i just can say bad for girls that gas there pierces :( . So What can i say more just have a great non rainy day .
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@SisterLove (304)
• United States
11 Jan 07
This is your daughter you are looking for her best interest. You dont want people to judge her and comment on her appearance, and your daughter cant see that right now. From the ages 17-21 I did plenty of piercing and my mom told me it made me ugly all kinds of things she said for me to get rid of them. But I'm telling you as someones daughter I didnt want to hear my mom or understand where she was coming from. What end up happening is that I had to learn on my own, I already know I probaly will have the same problem when I have children. Maybe if you made her feel a lttle comfortable she will take it on her own to please you. But me being where she was I didnt want to take it out for my mother because I wanted her to except my choices for myself. Good luck with your daughter you guys have to enjoy each other dont fight over things that cant be made right away.
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Please tell me she is 18 years old! If she is, then I guess she has the right to do as she pleases. Not that as a parent we like it. But...that is a part of becoming an adult.
Some kids when they have controll and no one to tell them that they can't do something, this is what they go through. Heck, if my partner would agree, I would have a few tattoos and a nose ring also. But, I also have black and purple hair and he doesn't agree with that either. LOL
It is just a form of expressing one's self. I know it is for me.
She will either grow out of it or it will become who she is and you will see her as that person. A lot of people that first see me are not sure that to think. But once they start talking to me, they all comment that my hair does fit my personality. :)
Just give her time. :)
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@Withoutwings (6992)
• United States
11 Jan 07
If you are talking about a labret peircing - my brother has one of those. It's really bad for your teeth. My aunt is a dental assistant and told me all kinds of horror stories. I was going to get one but thought better of it. My brother has a monroe as well (cheek piercing) and one of the piercings - the skin grew over the back of the peircing and he had to break it back through. How gross!
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Yes, it is a labret piercing. I will have to point out what damage can be done to her teeth. I am sure that is something that she hasn't considered.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
12 Jan 07
She has had to give up the clarinet because of her rhuematoid arthritis.
@Withoutwings (6992)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I would think it might affect her clarinet playing too.
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@suscan (1955)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I remember tryin my mothers patience when I used to roll the top of my skirt up under my sweater because I didn't think it ws short enough. WHen my son was in his teens He wanted a mohawk,and it was a high one We were in a grocery store and here he is 6 foot ,black mohawk, pierced ear.black biker jacket.He got quite a few stares. Quite a sight But still my baby. Ha HA. I thought,hopefully he will grow out of it,and he did . He is almost thirty and no mohawk.
@kitchenwitchoftupper (2290)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Butterfly, You know that the more you say, the more rebellious she will get - leave it alone! If she is under 18 and you have dental insurance, take her to the dentist for a cleaning - she will get the shock of her life there! I have nothing against piercings or tatts of any kind (although some of them make it rather difficult to get a job in the real world when you become an serious job hunter); but a friend's son had his lower lip pierced and when he went to the dentist, the dentist told him that if he didn't want to lose his lower front teeth in the next 5-8 years he would remove the piercing, as it rubs against the gum, causing erosion, weakening, and infections of the gum and surrounding areas; thus leading to the teeth falling prey to either deadness or falling out ~Donna
ps - you could suggest that if she remove that you would pay for a more dainty and delicate eyebrow piercing (they really are cute)
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Donna...thank you for that tidbit of information. She has lovely teeth and it would be a shame if she lost them due to her piercings. I will pass the info on to her. We are seeing her this weekend. BTW, she is 28.
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
13 Jan 07
Piercings and tattoos are pretty popular right now. She's just doing what's fun among the people in her age group. I wouldn't worry about it too much.
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@sandeeppai (101)
• India
11 Jan 07
At this moment you need to explain your daughter that it is not good to peirce like that. Tell her not to simply pierce and give pain to her body parts. Tell her that she will look beatifull with ordinary make up. By piercing and wearing a ring in the piercing will remove all her natural beauty as well as may cause deep pain if the ring getts pulled accidently. Convince her that it doesn't look good in anyway and she will look good without those things. Also advise her not to dye her hair because it will affect her looks in the negative sense.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Nose rings make me thing of bulls with the ring in their nose and this is for being able to lead them around. May the young people are being "led" around by their peers.
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@ComputerK1ng (79)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Im a guy... i dont think it makes a diff though. Im curious, Does it bother you that she has piercings or does it bother you what other people think. I have done the piercing stage and still have a few. The things she is doing is just a way she shows her self. maybe its a fad and it will go away but maybe not. If you try to stop her she will resent you and later on she will hold it against you. My mom continued to stop me until i was 18 so i did all the tattoos where she couldnt see them and when i turned 18 i got 16 piercings. 3 below the belt. All that because i could now do it. If you let her do it now when she gets older she will grow out of it at a earlier age. Besides some of the richer women in the world have pink hair and even some with piercings.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
12 Jan 07
It does not embarrass me. I just don't get the need for such things. Especially when it costs money to do this and she doesn't have money for frivalous spending.
@ComputerK1ng (79)
• United States
11 Jan 07
just to add on, most people that are freaking out because there kids are doing things like this is because they dont understand the youth and usually they dont understand thier kid. a lot of other kids would be doing the same thing only thier parents are worried about what the other parents will say or they are embarraced to be seen with what they think is a freak. Dont be embarraced. your just letting yoru kid express there self
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@flowerchild4gb (5)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I was raised in a religous household, when I turned 18, I let my mom know that I was going to pierce my belly button, And that she could come with me if she wanted to, But that I did not need her consent. She told me if that was the worst I was ever going to do, so be it. That there were alot worse ways I could express myself that doing something temporary like that. I got it pierced, loved it, and still have it ten years later. But the most important thing to me was that my mom trusted me to not go out and do alot worse....I think if you hold kids TOO tighly, they will respond by rebelling more.
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@Echo123 (155)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Now that I have a daughter, I see how it would be a shock to watch her alter her body. But, I still try to remember that things like hair dye and piercings are things that can be undone, for the most part. You mentioned she had removed her tongue piercing and I am assuming it has all but healed.
I guess my opinion begins to alter as the topic moves to tattoos. Those are alterations that are forever. Even a laser remval leaves a scar.
Hair grows. Piercings can close. As long as your daughter is not dealing with behavior problems, she is just experimenting in ways she can later go back and change her mind about. :)
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@chanfrado (1157)
• Portugal
12 Jan 07
It's temporary belive me! Sooner or later she will have enough of it and will remove it.
It's not bad for her health so no big worries about it ;)
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@jbones32103 (717)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I think it's just a phase. Just watch her and make sure she knows the risks of too many piercings.
@cyb3rjunk13 (470)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Pearcing is not a bad thing..They are in fashion now..Some ppl pierce because they wanted to show they belong to a perticular community so its not a bad thing at all.
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