Successful career or happy family. Do we have to chose only one?
By ivymarie925
@ivymarie925 (2)
Philippines
January 11, 2007 8:11pm CST
I am now standing on the crossroad of my career. I have finished residency training and planning to subspecialize. I also have a charming 7 month old daughter and loving husband. Since I gave birth it was hard for me to go back to "high gear" in my career. My priorities have changed. But if i will not pursue the career that I worked so hard for, the future that me and my husband dreamed of will not be a reality. We cannot give the best future for our daughter. Please share your thoughts and your experiences.
2 responses
@pratikshah (87)
• India
12 Jan 07
I am studying at this moment of my life but i think a HAPPY FAMILY is more important than a making a succesful career.A career is also very important for making a succesful life but a person should not always think of his career he should decide about the future also.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
12 Jan 07
No you do not have to choose only one. When I had my son, my husband and I were both in the military. We made sure he had a private home day care provider for when we could not be with him. This let him be raised in a family type setting with a few other children - not a big impersonal daycare. We always took a few minutes when we picked him up to check and find out how the day went, new things he had learned, any problems, etc. When he was with us, he was WITH US not cooped up in a playpen or propped in front of the TV. Either my husband and/or I had him right there where we were and we paid attention to him and /or involved him in what we were doing. When he was sleeping my husband and I could get a little alone time. We made sure we took a vacation together each year (sometimes it was just a couple of long weekends, other times a couple of weeks). If you and your husband approach it as a team, there is no reason to sacrifice either your career or your family.
