Difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?

United States
January 11, 2007 8:15pm CST
Could someone please define this for me? I care about this man a lot and put up with a lot of cr*p from him (not always available, claims he doesn't like to chat on the phone a lot, etc) and while I do care for him a great deal, I'm not sure how exactly to put my feelings into words (mostly for myself at this point). I feel like I'm falling for him, he's totally not my type (11 years older, not exactly thin anymore, not one of those guys my friends would notice), but when he looks me in the eyes, I can see something genuine there. I'm so lost about this, I've gotten conflicting answers from people (as well as the web)--can anyone help?
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3 responses
• United States
25 Jan 07
First of all, it is okay to be confused. I feel that to many opinions will only make things worser for you. You need to believe in yourself and follow your heart. Find someone you can trust and talk to and keep it at that one person. To many cooks in the kitchen will complicate things only for you. Loving someone is like a friend, or a co-worker, class mate someone you just care about. Being in love is genuine. Your heart flutters when he walks in the door. You can not stop thinking about his every move. You cant not wait until he comes home from work. Being inlove is very special and I feel true love is hard to find, so if you think you have found it, take your time with it and the right answer will come.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
THANKYOUTHANKYOUTHANKYOU!!! You've answered my question...I finally understand how I feel about my guy and on Saturday I realized that I am in love with this man! Thanks for explaining it so well!
@lilkim90 (133)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
You might be in love with him but most likely you are attrached to him for some reason. Maybe emotional attraction. It could be physical attraction as well. I do not know. Good luck with finding the one you truly love!
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• United States
12 Jan 07
But how will I know who I truly love? I'm asking for someoe to define the difference between loving someone and being in love with them. There is some physical attraction, but...I know there's more to him than that (and he's not Mr. Universe to anyone but me!) Thanks for the answer anyway.
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@musha_ali (391)
• Pakistan
12 Jan 07
sorry dont know........