Bringing up children

India
January 11, 2007 8:29pm CST
Children now a days become irresponsible, Cold and lazy. They do not respect elders, do not help parents in work and set their own priorities! What is wrong with our approach to upbringing??what could be done? share your experience whether good or bad1
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8 responses
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
6 Feb 07
Well, my daughters are still 2 and 5 years old but i assure you that i for one try to do my absloute bst to make sure they are brought up with respect! I feel that children act the way that they are raised and i think that it is wrong as a parent to let your chldren walk all over you as well as others. I believe that firmness needs to be brought back in parenting now a days!
• India
7 Feb 07
You said It. The lesser child syndrome has brought unwanted care and pampering of children that has hampered their character and manners. It is high time that we realize this and be strict with them and show them the right path.
@amish2222 (235)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Well, it is a very generic statement. We cannot generalize that all are being not nice. Indeed with the greater media exposure they are getting they tend to be ahead of us in their learning. However, we need to keep tab on them. I have seen many people simply ignoring the wrongdoings of their kids at the tender age and then when these small naughty things become habit then the parents get irritated. First and foremost is to determine whether we are treating the kids in the same fashion as our parents treated us. Some stories from grandparents about our own upbringing can inspire the kids in the right direction.
• India
21 Jan 07
A very good response. It is true that we need to look back to our old days.
@Dolcerina (3379)
• Hungary
13 Jan 07
I think there were not- are not- and will not be bad children. Only bad and unpatient parents. Our task to teach them for the life. God gives us to raise them. And we have to do our best. We have to listen to them. I am not a good parent neither. But I know about it,and I try to better.
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@jade01 (803)
• Australia
12 Jan 07
well as a mum i see alot of other mums letting there 5yr olds get away with being naughty, these are the ones that will grow int the ones you describe. I think parents need to take more control of there children, and I understand that is hard these days because you are not aloud to smack them you cant even ground them these days or police will charge you with deprivasion of liberty so it hard
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@argelo (65)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
Teach them by example!!! What they see is what they do!
• India
12 Jan 07
It would have been nice If they did! I am a workaholic but they(my kids)would like to sleep and watch T.V.I feel discipline is a must from the early age . We pamper them a lot now a days. and then regarding little punishments, I do not think any parents did it wrong in the past before these rules were framed.
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• Australia
7 Feb 07
Our older children had to deal with their parents being divorced. They seemed to devlope their own issues, yet they are respectful. I actually deemed my older son extremely lazy, but now I look back and he was too busy having fun. I was probably expecting him to be like me, If I wanted anything I worked for it and saved. I have to accept he is not like that, he wishes to earn and enjoy life. As long as he is making his own way I have no problems with it. I think personnaly as a parent I was short sighted. After all he may be my child, but he is not me. I am happy with my children as they can be outspoken, but still respectful. Its really hard when the kids are born without a instruction book. Trial and error I guess
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
14 Jan 07
American society at least; we prefer careers instead of family and children so we put them in child care and put them in school sooner. When one gets home from work, we send them off on a million afterschool activites that impedes parent child time. I understand due to our society we kinda need a 2 income family, but there are things like night jobs and internet jobs, babysitting, etc. My mom did it, I did it, my sister in-laws did it. We put our children first, we wanted to instill in them the difference between right and wrong compassion and love. They are only young once, and need you in their early years.
• United States
14 Jan 07
My children are ages 3 to 10 and we are teaching them how to clean, cook, and respect others. My oldest of course knows more than the others, but in time our children will be independent leaders of their own lives. The key is start while they are young. My three year old knows a lot more than he should. He knows homework has to be done (A,B,C.'s)plus says yes ma'am and no ma'am. We try to tell our children the way they are being raised might seem strange now, but they will appreciate it later.