How Do You Deal With Your Child Misbehaving In Public?
By biwasaki
@biwasaki (1745)
United States
6 responses
@sabrinam (1203)
• United States
13 Jan 07
At age 3 my son got to a place where he was beyond my control. I decided that was unacceptable so decided discipline had to change, from that moment on, the number I counted to in the store would be how many licks he would get from the paddle upon arriving at home, the first few times, he got so many licks we had to ration them over a few days, because at three more than two licks was too much, but after consistently doing this after about three trips to the store under the new rule, he stopped acting up after number 1. That was the most effective thing I did, and talking to him before we went in telling him not to ask for anything or he would be in trouble and letting him know that we were only going for certain things and the budget doesn't allow for splurging, that also teaches them to mind their budget later because you led by example.
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@sabrinam (1203)
• United States
13 Jan 07
The times my son threw tantrums, we left the store, I'm not going to make other people listen to my child scream, all children go through this, but all people in the world don't have to go through it repeatedly. One time my son threw a tantrum in Blockbuster for a second movie, we were each going to get one, he was four. He had picked one out and wanted a second and when I said no, he put his behind right on the floor and started screaming and crying. After getting beyond my disbelief at him, I picked him right up and said, "Now you don't even get one, we'll go home, and I'm coming back to get MY movie and not yours." We didn't even make it to the car before he started apologizing and begging to go back in, but we went home and I went back and got my movie. He never did it again.
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@biwasaki (1745)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I'm glad you found a method that works for you. Every parent knows that each child is different; what works on one child may not necessarily work on another. I think its a matter of following through with what you say you are going to do, and it seems like you are doing just that. Great job!!
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@kittensmommy (386)
• United States
14 Jan 07
If we're out on adult biz say shopping ,visiting someone who doesn't have kids , I understand they are bored , so now I take the amazing gameboy with me for onsite bribe,but if we are out at the playgrond or at the zoo or over their friends , i'll take them to the side remind them that we can leave right away , and if it doesn't stop i leave .The key is to be consistent , follow up on what you say , do what you say you are going to do ,
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@timou87 (1638)
• Singapore
14 Jan 07
Reasoning never works. I do not have a child myself, but from what I hear from conversations, two techniques work well. One is a light smack across the cheek after some reasoning does not work. The second, if say you brought the child for an outing to the zoo or the mall, is to simply go home straight and send the child to sit in one corner of the home.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Shopping with the kids was not always easy. I had 4 children and the youngest being twins. Often times we would enter a store, they would behave for about 5 minutes and it was back to the car and then to home. I refused to allow them to behave badly. I would rather do it at a later time. After a few times, they realized that if they didn't behave, there would be no shopping.
@vivek_max_vivek (373)
• India
12 Jan 07
salp him in front of everyone would u do ?????
i wont sorry i would make him understand nicel
first of all he wouldnt misbehave in this way at all .
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@thatmom2 (126)
• United States
13 Jan 07
OMG!!! isnt that the worse...? i have a 6 and 3 year old. and (thank god) i dont have any worries with the 6 year old, the 3 year old is a test for me. especially since we cant 'discipline' children by the physical nature in public. back in the days children would not dare..ok. now, these kids are jumping u and down, screaming at the top of there lungs in supermarkets. pulling from you in parking lots. phew. whenever i go thru these moments with my 3 year old, i threaten...lol. it may sound distorted, but i do that tight lip thing, and talk without moving my lips....u ever seen this? sometimes i get immediate results, other times......
i also try the method of patience and squatting down in front of him and talk to him like he was an adult...albeit a fragile adult, but one nonetheless.
one thing i have leaerned, pinching, plucking, grabbing hands and squeezing, these things just make them scream louder, "YOUR HURTING ME OUCH!!"
LOLOLOL what do you do?
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@mystic2mom (346)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I ignore my 3 year old when he throws a tantrum in a store. I tell him that I can't see him when he throws a tantrum. As he is screaming, I walk to the end of the aisle, keeping him in the corner of my eye. As I move further away, he gets quieter and quieter. This worked with my daughter as well. Tantrums are an attetion ploy, no attention for them means a quick end to the tantrum.
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