How do you deal with Obsessive Compulsive Husband???

This man needs to see a Doctor. There are medications that can help. Tell your family Doctor what is going on. Let the Doctor diagnose this condition. Don't even mention Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. He sounds to me like a time bomb that is ticking away. If it goes off you don't even want to be nearby. Be prepared if it does. Have a backup plan on where you are going to go if it happens.

Lord that sounds just like my brother in law his wife will clean and he will go right behind her and clean again so she gave up. She told him that she wasn't wasting her energy cleaning just for him to go behind her and do it again. Plus he does the laundry also he thinks he does it better. He belittles alot of what she does and it causes alot of stress in their marriage due to his impulsiveness. I guess you can either still clean and deal with it or quit and tell him you are happy to let him do it. cleaning sometimes is hard and dealing with kids all day the last thing a person needs is belittled and told they aren't doing it good enough. My husband started that to because evidently his brother made comments about my house cleaning ability and I just told my husband fine then you do it and I did quit mopping,dusting. I continue to do the other things but if he gives me grief about them he knows he will be the one doing them from then on. He needs to realize that women aren't robots and we aren't all perfect. Nobody is perfect,therefore nothing is perfect. I hope you can get this settled because if you don't it will get to the point that things will either have to change or someone will leave. Hopefully it won't have to come to that. maybe with lots of prayer and maybe have somebody talk to him about his problem and his belittling you and he might realize what he is doing to you and change. Well here's hoping you have a good day!

oh friend sorry for u u ask him how should u work so that he will satisfy with ur work

You should bring your husband to a psychiatry,to prevent his unusual behavior,Its very hard to live with obsessive personality,there is a medication for this kind of behavior,before its cause a misunderstanding to your relationship,help him to be rehabilitate so he can back to reality.

I understand your predicament. I lived with some such people earlier and partially even now also . People with obsessive compulsive disorder never admit of having a problem . They are quite natural with them and feel all others are wrong. I had an uncle who used to keep news papers in chronological order every day and never allowed anybody to pullout an old one even for reference leave alone to wrap something. He founs pleasure in it and finally sell the waste papers to the vendor ?! The people around him still suffer and adjust. As regards cleanliness My spouse is also not different. She cannot adjust even a small spot or piece of paper on the floor and make her life miserable. We had always bouts of laugh though I support her and make her realize the situation. But such behaviour patterns are difficult to change and we have to live with it. Ofcourse in extreme cases you need to take the help of a clinical psychologist or even a psychiatrist. Be cool and leave his things to himself. Do not over react and persuade him to seek help at the appropriate time. If you can't do it seek outside help from friends or relatives. Good luck.

You said his mom is also like this,it s a inherited disease like others. You sound and look so happy and healthy and a wonderful personality with a christian background.HE is blessed first of all to have you for this long, as I would show him this post because if he doesnt get help, if his condition gets worse are you going to let him pull you and the child down to his illness? Is he a christian? If he loves you he must get help and it will get to the point that you will have to save the child from his behavior. pray and insist he gets help. lulu

i used to be an obsessive-compulsive to the extreme. my husband, being a psychology major, he just ignored my behavior and just show he's cool about it. he showed that he doesn't worry about me being like that and instead he show how relax he is even if his car and office is so dirty, while there i was always getting busy cleaning and organizing stuffs at home. he would sometimes go home with a real dirty shoes and tops that would make me freak out. he wont let me get them to clean and instead he will ask me out to dinner or he would put a dvd movie for us to watch together. i was able to realize then that he is happy and worry-free than me. that i am more stressed out worrying something i should not. until now i'm still trying to cope up more. but i worry less now and feel better about it.