should people keep a few secrets or should everything be out there???

You would be right about anyone who is human having made a mistake or two that is best left behind them. As to these people "letting it all hang out" don't worry, life will teach them the lesson about why this is not such a good idea. In other words, I don't think you are in the minority among the over 30 set.

I myself have a few secrets yes I think for the most part it depends on who you are talking to. Like my password that is a secret. Depends on the subject and who I am talking to. I've always heard mystery is good.

I think that you are right, and I fully agree with what you say and feel. I'm way over 20 and have quite a bit of secrets. :)

You're so right. As for me, privacy is very important to me and I'm choosing very carefully what I'm telling - not only there but even to my closest friends and family. But of course, I'm not 20 anymore... lol! Besides, in my country a lottery winner has also a privacy right, and as much I know, the most of the winners are wise enough to use it. But the reality shows... I'm not fond of them and I've always wondered why people want to do such things. The worst example was there a couple of years ago, the show was called "changing wives". Young women (and mostly with small children!) went for weeks to live with another family. As much I understood, the show tried to bring out the diversities - a mom of a rich family went to a poor home, a total freak to a conservative home, and vice versa. It ended up with a scandal. A daughter of a family participating there refused to talk to her mother again. Everything was discussed in tabloids for months, and you know, how nasty they can be. If an adult person choose to reveal all his/her secrets, it's his/her (bad) choice, but there were children involved! I find it disgusting.

I don't get it either. It's like the new form of light conversation or the new way of supposed intimacy. My thing is that I really don't want to know all the personal laundry of a stranger. It's like accelerated friendliness.

Well, I know from my posts that it seems that I share absolutely anything and everything but I really don't. There are some things that I wouldn't share ever, mostly because they are so deeply personal OR are so totally wacko that I won't be sharing them with anyone. They aren't bad secrets that would hurt anyone, just stuff better left inside my head. I don't think that you are in the minority in your thinking and I have overheard some of those discussions too where people are blabbering all their financial information or something horrible that happened to one of their kids that should never be shared with anyone ever. Tonight on Home and Garden television there was a show called "Secret Spaces" that was about the secret passages, secret rooms, secret hiding places that people have in their homes. The show gave the people's names, the towns they lived in, showed their houses from the outside, showed their houses and the contents on the inside AND THEN told about their secrets like a SAFE and even said that's where they keep their valuables! I was a little in shock. Isn't that asking for trouble? Isn't that almost like asking to be robbed? Because now any "bad guys" who watch TV are going to know exactly how to find your safe, which secret door to go through, which vase turns to expose the finger identification scanner, well, really all the info. needed to rob them really. And that whole lottery winners being front page news, that's definitely asking for trouble, you are right. Because the next thing you know, all the shade tree relatives and so-called friends are going to be at the door begging for money since they know you have some now. I'm not even sure why people would share some of the things that they do especially when common sense would tell you that it isn't a good idea. But that's a whole 'nother discussion, people displaying a lack of common sense!

I think it is good to have a few. If you tell everything what do you have. I have learned to keep my mouth shut. I just smile.

Hey, this is something I've been wondering for quite a while now. Where do I draw the line as to let something out or not! I seem a bit confused whether people should know a certain bit about me or not; whether telling a particular thing would mean gaining sympathy or it's ok once in while to be pampered by someone else once you tell your problems; whether sharing my knowledge about a particular thing would mean showing off and making it all public when everyone should be doing their bit on their own or knowledge is meant to be shared? Just where do I draw the line?