Cancer - What do you do when you have a friend who has it and is very negative
By coolcatzz
@coolcatzz (1587)
Canada
January 12, 2007 10:04am CST
I have a friend who has had cancer in the past and knows she has it again. My heart goes out to her and I know it must be difficult to live like that. I find for the most part she is negative and says things like I know I'm going to die or I feel like this is it. What do I do. How do I make things better or else what is the right thing to say??? I'm so torn and I try my best but maybe I'm doing the wrong thing.
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@Dseacrest (203)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Coolcatzz just listen to her. Remind her that you are by her side. Many cancer survivors that relaps tend to become negative when they are ready to give up. It is also a side effect from cancer. Many people become moody and are just tired of dealing with the medicines and the worry of whether they will defeat it or lose it. I have lost many family members to cancer and if you need anything I am here.
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@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
When you say she knows she has it again, has it been diagnosed. If it has tell her she was a suviour once and she can be again. Also, research support groups in your area and suggest she hook up with them. Try not to make it the main area of your conversation everytime you talk. Try to have fun, go for coffee or just go for a walk together. Tell her she has to be positive to beat this disease.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Please seem my discussion at
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/584635.aspx
I also have a friend who is fighting generalized cancer. They have not given her a bright outlook but she continues to have a good attitude. I pray your friend will receive comfort from you and other friends and family.
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