Autistic children - How do you know if a child is autistic?

@Elaeblue (144)
United States
January 12, 2007 11:17am CST
What behavior do they exhibit? My friend has a child who is always out of control even tho the mom does discipline. She has always been a difficult child from day one, she would cry when ever anyone but Mom held her(even her Dad) and has always been hard to handle, you cant tell her no for anything without a tantrum, you cant ask her to do anything and no amount of discipline(and they have tried everything) makes a difference. When she was young she acted like she didnt want to be touched at all and now still only will hug someone if her Mother insists. If you have an autistic child were they like this? Please share some of your experiences with me.
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• United States
12 Jan 07
I am not 100% sure on this subject at all, but I can offer a little advice at least. I know these types of children are usually extremely intelligent in one area, usually math, and can just rattle off facts like nothing to it. They usually don't have a good attention span and they are all over the place. Other than those things, I do not know too much more about that. Like I said, I know a little bit, but not enough to be an expert at it. Hope it helps a little bit!
• United States
12 Jan 07
i have to comment here first and would like to direct you to a website http://www.brighttots.com/Myths.html as i feel you have been very much misinformed... but i thank you for trying to help even though i didnt start this discussion.. i myself have a nine year old son who is autistic.. unfortunately i think the movie "rainman" is waht alot of autistic people are thought to be like and its just not true ..please check out the site!
• United States
13 Jan 07
Interesting site- thanks for sharing the link! :)
@ahsan15 (334)
• India
13 Jan 07
thanx for that link...
@telulas (459)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 07
i related your discuss, many problem coused autistic children, i observed in my place, autistic caused affraid to their parents
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• United States
13 Jan 07
huh?
@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
14 Jan 07
my experience from my close friends daughter. When she became 3, all of a sudden she stopped doing the normal things she would be doing. Then she got so out of control such as would literally be climbing the walls to get up to the cabinets.
13 Jan 07
Autism has such a wide spectrum and each child is different. However one of the traits is lack of social skills and eye contact. They have difficulty in responding and understanding social interactions with adults and peers. Your friend should take her child to be assessed. It could be an emotional and behavioural problem as well. She needs to seek professional help.
• United States
14 Jan 07
Although even these traits depend on the child, and how much therapy they've had. My son is 3, and he great eye contact now! He still sometimes will look at you out of the corner of his eye and turn his head funny.. sometimes won't look at you at all. But generally speaking, he does give eye contact, as far as I can tell. Also, socially, in the classroom my son initiates well with adults (especially when he wants or needs something), but not with his peers. however, at home, he gets along fairly well with his sister (who is 4 1/2). They have more or less a normal sibling relationship. He is also now asking me to play with him and to read books with him, which he never did before. That is a big improvement. He's just starting to appreciate relationships with others that don't revolve around helping him when he needs something.
• United States
13 Jan 07
I to am not the best on this subject but can offer a little insight. I had a friend a few years back that had a severe autistic child. I currently have a friend who has a child with mild autism. What I have found out and notice is that autistic children tend to not like touch. They like repetitve activities (putting markers in taking markers out)sometime there eyes are not quite right. For example they are looking at you but not really looking at you. I also know that autistic children can be very hard to manage. I hope this helps.
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
ive been with autistic children before and i can say that most of them have similar physical features like the eyes and the alignment of the ears. as to behavior, they seem to have their own world, sometimes they tend to keep quiet but there are times when they are very active. when it comes to intelligence, they vary. there are some autistic children who are very intelligent and even excel in art and other things. they have also repeatitive behaviors. patience is really needed when caring for these children. they are really lovable and friendly once you understand them.
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@kittykatzz (1132)
• United States
12 Jan 07
im not sure that i could tell you that the child seems autistic.. although autism is very "difficult" on a parent, and alot of autistic children demostrate some very "odd" behaviors it seems from what you say id look more closely along the lines of ADHD first, but also wouldnt rule out autism or anyof the other PDD spectrum disorders.. tell your friend that she should look up some things online to try to match characteristics but ask her doctor if he thinks the child's in need of a formal evaluation..
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I can tell you that my son (who is 3, and is "high functioning" on the spectrum), has many moments where he is difficult to handle. Telling him no, yelling, ... you name it, and it seems like nothing makes a difference in terms of turning his behavior around. It's very frustrating. But to be quite honest, I don't know how much of this is the Autism, or his age? When my son was younger, and upset, nothing helped to soothe him. If I tried to comfort him, he would straighten himself up and stiffen up like a board. Or go limp, and fall to the ground. He does this less and less. I don't know why he does this.. But he is very affectionate, generally speaking. He loves to cuddle now. I can't say either way if your friend's child has Autism- there *could* be some red flags, but I don't think these things you mentioned are necessarily Autistic traits- perhaps the lack of wanting to be hugged or touched, but not necessarily the discipline part. Some kids just act out a lot. It's always good to address the issue with a doctor if there's concern. And to watch for other signs- delays with speech, other "odd" behaviors, etc.
@bryelee (451)
• United States
13 Jan 07
We are having our 4 1/2 year old diagnosed. Its not easy to see Autism becasue most people know nothing about it. My child didn't speak at age 3 1/2 since an infant she would look at you mostly out of the corner at her eyes ahrdley right at you. I could write a book about life with my child an what is going on. Have you tried doing a search on Autism Spectrium? That may help you. One problem we have is in my aerea it is not easy to ahve soemone look at my child, they keep wnating to wait 6 month, try new things. It has been very frustrating. Finally I got 1 dr to say I should have more testing done. The best advice I can give you is keep learning. If your child does have Autism you will have nothing but problems getting soemone to understand and pay attention to you.
@NancyLobo (680)
• India
13 Jan 07
Autism is noticed usually by 2 to 21/2 years before that there may be a delay in speech and language which will be mostly a indicator that something is wrong, Autism is a spectrum disorder so each and every child will show different charachters, children with autism will not appear from their face to have any disability they usually look very nice so parents may miss the point, they will not poin tto things, they will usually take the adults hand and use that to point or demand something, it is more common in boys, they will not play with toys in an poopriate maaner, they may line toys in a row or turn the toy cars to look at the wheels or spin the wheels, they also will show hyperactive behavior, some may not sleep during the nights.
• United States
13 Jan 07
I can't relate to the autism child, but I don't think that the mother should make her child hug anyone. Not saying thats bad but if a child dosen't want to show affection for another person it shouldn't be forced, so they don't think they have to please someone just because they were told to.
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
autistic child is always acted like an early child,they do what they like to do,sometimes if you control him he will cry,and if you give what he likes he will happy,It so sad to hear that they will grow up not like a normal child,they need a special attention,Support and family care is needed if you have a child like autistic attitude.
• India
12 Jan 07
treat as normal as possible you.
@maikeeho (196)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
autisitic kids tends to be having their own world.. silent...not being with the crowd. Most of them are intelligent and exhibit patternd activites. They can be hyper sometimes or uncontrolable. try watching the movie mercury rising.