Why do we cheat????

@ronita34 (3923)
Canada
January 12, 2007 1:22pm CST
Why is is that when two people are together they tend to go astray. Whether their partner is gone away for a weekend or at home in bed. Why is is that hormones take over instead of our common sense??? I believe personally that people shouldn't cheat if you don't want to be with someone than don't be but don't think you caqn have the best of both worlds either it aint fair!
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14 responses
12 Jan 07
I completely agree with you -- if you're moving on, it's only right to let your partner know, and if you 'love' them, but continue to cheat anyways, then you're a pathetic excuse for a human being in my books -- after all, love's about respect, and no one can honestly play someone like that and still claim to 'love' them -- it's just plain wrong.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
12 Jan 07
Thats right because if you don't trust a person than no matter how much you try to even lie to yourself you don't really love them. You see trust is the basis for love without trust you have nothing!
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
12 Jan 07
My bf cheated on me and it is a hard thing to deal with. I can not explain how hurt I was by his betrayal and I would not want anyone to have to go throug that experiance. next bf that cheats on me will probably never walk again *ha ha * Ju8st kidding =)
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
2 Feb 07
LOL...You are absolutely right that it really does hurt alot! It is the betrayal part of it that cuts so deep! I would also never wish this upon anyone else and God bless!!!
@imrajesh (1967)
• India
12 Jan 07
this is not fair i know but this happens most of the time that man cannot keep control over his emotions and he falls in the temptation of that one minute pleasure. i won't do that at any point of my life.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
It is true that it isn't fair but it also happens so often that it blinds us. So many people today have affairs and cheat on their spouses which shouldn't be the case at all but it is fact.
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
we cheat to find some answers and to make our work more easier!...In exams, we cheat to have some correct answer on our testpapers!...Sometimes, we cheat because we find it difficult and need the help of others!...thats all!...lolz
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@magarboyz (568)
• Nepal
7 Feb 07
well people cheat because they can get something by cheating.they wanna take it in easy way so they cheat.but they dont know that they are cheating their self.
@Demonix (294)
• Canada
7 Feb 07
So true, I personally have been the victim of far too many of such dishonest relationships and cant see why people do it, it doesnt make sense either youre in a relationship or youre not, if you feel your time would be better spent with someone else then be with that someone else, dont drag on a relationship that you are killing by being with other people
6 Feb 07
I think cheating is an instinctual thing. Human's, at the most basic level, are animals, and animals are scavengers at heart, therefore as 'scavengers' we are always on the lookout for just that little bit more, no-matter what we already have - just look at how many times we hear the phrase 'the grass is always greener on the other side'. I do agree with you though and feel that cheating is a terrible thing. I personally don't believe that I would be able to continue my relationship if I ever cheated on my partner.
@Cephoozee (374)
• United States
6 Feb 07
people mostly cheat because they are unhappy in a relationship, and because they don't necessarily love the person they are in the relationship with. I know that if I ever stopped loving someone for whatever reason and was more attracted to someone else..I would break it off and give myself some time to work things out in my head, and then just let things roll, you know? When it comes to the heart you can't think things to thuroughly. Leave the mind to thinking and the heart to feeling and your soul for being.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I think people always think the grass is greener on the other side. People don't want to admit, or to think that relationships, no matter who it is with, take alot of hard work, that it means compromise and commitment. SO when things get tough, they are start looking for someone else. I think it's sad and horrible and I have seen many lives destroyed because of it.
• Australia
6 Feb 07
Hi Ronita. I've passed over this discussion a few times for obvious reasons, but thought I'd better reply. I'm afraid I can't understand why anyone would think that way. It would never occur to me - or to my husband - to "go astray". Our hormones would never take over: they don't respond that way. We made a commitment to each other nearly 47 years ago, and that commitment is just as real - and desirous - as it was then. The thought would never enter our heads. I believe the problem if people do feel that way, is through a lack of commitment in the first place, but never having been in that position, I suppose I can't really comment.
• United States
6 Feb 07
It depends on what you are talking about. Some people are just cheaters - they don't commit to one person. That is just their nature. They won't ever change because they really don't see anything wrong with their behavior. But others are committed and get to a point in their lives where something is missing and they find it from someone else for whatever reason. They don't set out to cheat, but it just sort of happens when a missing piece of their lives is found.
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
well my answer is just an educated guess because i am not an expert on this issue. Male species tends to rule with their animalistic instinct instead of common sense. it is my honest belief that most men shy away from commitment they will regret later on, generally speaking. Some men who hastily went into commitment abhors domestication. some men adheres to the old cliche' that familiarization breeds contempt. Again generally speaking and no offense intended to both female and male genders.
@sajila (50)
• India
2 Feb 07
i know my b/f loves me alot and he can not live without me ... but still i always fear that i am being cheated i know i am wrong but i always carry this fear with me that he will leave me one day.
@cwilson26 (2736)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I don't believe in cheating. I think that if you want to be with someone else then break up with the person you are with. My husband asked me one time when we were watching something on t.v where someone was cheating on their spouse if I would ever take him back if he cheated on me and I said no way. He said yeah right. I asked him and he said no he wouldn't take me back. I get so mad at women who try to get with a married man knowing he is married. Why can't they find someone else instead of going after someone's man? My husband's ex cheated on him a lot when they were together and after 7 years of being with her and having a 3 year old son at the time he got fed up and walked out. He wasn't married to her but it was the idea they had a kid together and they were together for so long. So for the first few years we were together it was hard for him to trust me. But I would never do it because I don't believe in it and don't want it done to me. :)