My current Relationship

Philippines
January 12, 2007 9:57pm CST
I dont care if you read this or disregard, but this is my way of expressing myself, first of all i'm in a situation that is so complicated. we were on our 3rd month now and its seems to be like a year becuase we just see each other always.... we were happy and I never felt lonely... time goes by, its seems that when time chages people change to, we had arguement now, I know that it is normal for a relationship to have arguements but its not normal to argue almost everyday, and i always make the peace offering. this will be my diary... you'll hear some more tomorrow..thanks for listening.
2 responses
hassanchop
@hassanchop (820)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Get out of there. Relationships almost always have a submissive and a dominant, and if you are the one who is always making peace while she gets her way, then you are the submissive, you are causing her to lose respect for you, and you are also subconsciously training her to believe that acting up will cause her to get her way. If you are not happy fighting all the time, be a man and break it off.
k1ndred
@k1ndred (50)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
I really dont know man, maybe she might change in character, or she might realize it later, I just can't call it off, we have good moments, and I'm in love with her. understand me man..
hassanchop
@hassanchop (820)
• United States
13 Jan 07
No, she will not change. The very DEFINITION of insanity is to do the same thing over and over and expect different results. Ever heard of Pavlov's dogs? You are TRAINING her to know that starting a fight = getting her way. You have to be willing to throw away the very few good moments for the opportunity to become your own man again. It's going to suck but it will be well worth it. I speak from your viewpoint because I have been in your shoes, and I have made the decision to throw it away and become my own man again, and I have been much happier and grown a LOT since then and because of that.
k1ndred
@k1ndred (50)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
You know what! we had a great time last night, no arguements of somesort, just me and her, I tried to be polite and honest. I'm always thinking of what comes of my mouth that would make her angry... but the thing here is I'm not being me anymore.
rein2410
@rein2410 (809)
• Australia
13 Jan 07
Talk ur feeling to ur partner. Kindly said all ur feeling and how u want ur relationship to continue. At the point of relationship, there is a point where u would argue everyday and lost ur feeling. If u can get through it. then he/she is the one for u
k1ndred
@k1ndred (50)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
yeah, i'm telling her about something that would do good for our relationship, when we talk for a long time, it leads to argue. I dont know where the problem is. here is an example, I got these celfon number before she came and I got some friends there specially girls, so I changed my number because I know where it would lead to. but the thing is she wants me to use my old number because she wants to know who will txt me. that is why she gets angry everytime someone sends me messages over the fon.