I lost my girlfriend, but I've learned a few things about depression.

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About a month ago, I created a post mentioning the fact that I was afraid I was going to lose my girlfriend. I didn't want to lose her, but she was afraid that my lack of motivation, drive and ambition would jeopardize our future. She didn't want to be stuck with a person who didn't know how to focus, especially when children might become involved, or what not. While my question was on how to gain motivation, I was told how to tell her I love her and that (due to my poor explanation of her concerns) my girlfriend didn't deserve me, and vice versa. I also was advised to consider counseling because I gave the vibe that I suffered from depression. I took the advice on looking into depression. I went online and read a few definitions and what not. Not that I am a hypochondriac, but there were things that sounded like I should consider them. So, I went to a therapist, and today I had my first meeting with her. She spoke to me for the hour and suggested a few things for me. First, she believed I suffered from Dysthimia, which is a chronic mild depression that may or may not be triggered by a life event. More on Dysthimia: People with mild depression can still function, but they suffer from a chronically depressed mood, low self esteem, and mild depression. Because there isn't necessarily an even that triggers it, depression of this type can be the most frustrating for spouses and loved ones. One website I visited trying to explain this post, compares a person with mild depression to a slightly flat basketball. "I look like a basketball. I am round like a basketball, and I can be rolled like a basketball. However, if you want me to bounce, it will take a whole lot of effort. I am not responsive the way I was when I was full of air. i am not any fun to play with anymore." The suggestions given to me were plentiful. One included creating goals, which I already do, but they do help a little. Another suggestion is to visualize myself doing what I want. I imagine myself being a full time realtor, doing full time realtor stuff. Another suggestion? Medication. Finally, the one suggestion that she says is the most effective: exercise. Exercise, she says could put pscho, hypno, and pretty much all therapists out of business. If more people ate healthy and worked out vigorously three or four times a week, the endorphins spike up. One statement she made, and I saw a billboard that said the same thing a few weeks ago. "No one has ever said to themselves 'I wish I hadn't worked out yesterday.'" Also, as a follow up to those who were interested in the last discussion. My girlfriend I broke up on New Years Day. While she maintains she still had to think things over in her head, I believed she mentally removed herself from the relationship. With that said, I broke up with her because I didn't want to wait around anymore waiting for her mood to settle in on whatever she felt was right. I must admit that, although it hurts and I miss her, making a decision relieved a lot of pressure. I want her back, but I won't consider it until the end of the month, to see if things may or may not work out. In the meantime;I will attend a few more sessions of counseling; make sure that I work out consistently, look into meds; and most importantly...exercise. I signed up for a swimming class that starts on Monday, actually, starts on Wednesday as MLK is that weekend. So, to those of you who feel like you might lack motivation. Give a counselor an opportunity. If you feel like nothing really excites you, but there isn't an event that is keeping you down, you might consider talking to a counselor. If you need to buy a home in the san francisco/bay area, consider sending me a message. LOL, just kidding, sorta. Anyway, let's all promise to exercise and kick up the endorphins.