My husband

@Trace86 (5033)
United States
January 13, 2007 7:49pm CST
My husband's mother passed away on Tuesday evening in FL. I am in IL. They aren't going to have a funeral, just a memorial service later. My husband and brother-in-law just left to go spend a few days with their dad. He didn't want my sister-in-law or me, just the boys. I dropped him off at the airport and came home to an empty house, his son went out. The plane hasn't even left yet and I am so lonely already. I even volunteered to work tomorrow afternoon to fill my time until he returns. How am I going to survive until he returns in a few days?
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@sunrisekn (1466)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Everything will be fine. The woman that helped raise my husband passed away on Dec 26th so my husband had to take a trip to Maryland, we live in South Carolina, and I was alone for New Years. I have a 9.5 month old but you know it's not the same as having your husband. So, I totally understand your lonliness. It will go by fast, just keep a positive outlook. Working will help also. Don't forget about us at MyLot. We'll be here for you!
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@getnbuy (1314)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Don't be so dependant on your husband for your happiness! Its good to love him and enjoy his company, but you should be able to entertain yourself, too! Could it be that you feel a little rebuffed because your father-in-law didn't want you to come? I would feel bad if that happened to me.
@coolcatzz (1587)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
First of all I'm sorry for your loss. I guess your husband figured it would be better for just the boys to go back and they could spend some alone time with your FIL. I can understand that. Less commotion that way. I know it is hard being alone when you aren't use to it but you will survive. Just spend your time in mylot posting away and making some money. Take care, you'll make it.
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@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
14 Jan 07
Look at it as free time, do a few things you might not normally do, spring cleaning myabe, it is good to have some solo time, reflection time...
@rosie_123 (6116)
14 Jan 07
I agree too.I love my partner very much, but frankly I would go crazy if he was around 24/7!I love it when he goes away on business because I have time to myself to think, and I think "me" time is very important for everyone. Sometimes I watch a few old movies that I know he doesn't like and I probably wouldn't normaly watch when he is around, and I usually go out with my girlfriends one night too. Enjoy the time, and if you get lonely remember there are always people here to chat with.
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@matlgal (1687)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Well gosh I personally love that alone time, but... apparently that doesn't work well for you. I would start planning a very special return dinner for him and the kids? something they love, you know the old saying? The best way to a mans heart is through his stomach?. Buy a new table cloth, and fix a great fancy dinner. Get him a special card of make one that shows that you missed him but yet has condolences. Wear his favorite outfit. Record him his very own special CD that reminds him of you, or all his favorite music. Re-arrange the furniture, clean out the garage, go get your hair and nails and feet done?. Have lunch with a dear friend that you don't often get to see? Hopefully some of these will help you get through your lonely time. Good Luck. It will be Tuesday before you know it,
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@sindai (204)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
I'm sorry to hear about your your mother in-law. You will survive the loneliness. Just keep yourself busy. You must understand how your husband is feeling. Losing someone is a far worse feeling than loneliness! You are an independent woman. Go out with some friends. Shop! You'll be fine. It's only a few days!
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• India
14 Jan 07
try doing wat i do....sleep a lot
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Wow! i'd be so happy to have a few days to myself! i could sleep without snoring going on, watch tv shows i like, rent movies I want to see, many things i could do. don't be sad that they went without you! I noticed your where your from and i live just over the boarder-your the first person i've responded to that is nearby! I thought for awhile there were only people from other countries on here!!!
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14 Jan 07
Just remember that he is coming home to you. Use this time to do something for yourself.
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• Malaysia
14 Jan 07
hi tracy, i know you bored and lonely without your husband. don't worry he'll be back soon. he didn't go for the long time. in order to to vanish your loneliness, do some works that you really like at. so that you could do it in passion and it makes you happy. anyway it's nice to see you share what do you have in your mind instead of keeping it in yourself :)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I would take advantage of the time and take hot baths and read a good book. Are you not used to being home alone? Do you have any girlfriends that you can come over and keep you company? Maybe you can catch up some good movies. Good luck. I hope things work out for you.
• Melbourne, Florida
14 Jan 07
OK, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. But come on, 'how are you going to survive a couple of days without him?'. Walk around the house naked. Take a day off of your domestic duties. This could be like a mini vacation for you. No one to cook for, no one to clean up after. Take some time to pamper yourself.
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@itsjustmeb (1212)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
*hugs* Im so sorry to hear this!
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@Piratesware (2890)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 07
well... do what must u do.. don't make u'r self suffering.. well look enjoyed and relaxed activity.It's will help u.
@marcky (77)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
In order for yuo to survive until he returns in few days, you should get around.You can do fishing and you can go to mountain in order for you to have a fresh air around. You could chat to anyone.Or spend your time in discussions here at myLot.
@nmw2005 (1197)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Take some girl time for yourself. Rent movies that your husband won't watch.
• United States
14 Jan 07
Keep yourself busy. Treat yourself to something you usually don't have the time to do when your husband is home. And keep reminding yourself it is only a few days. He will be back before you know it.
• United States
14 Jan 07
I would take time out for yourself. Take advantage of it. Maybe relax in a bubble bath and dim the lights. Just curl up and read a book. Do anything now that you haven't been able to do with them there. I would enjoy. You know they will be back soon. I hate even going to the store without calling my husband, so I know how you feel. There is a time once in a moon time that a woman needs some peace and quiet all to herself.
@kareng (30787)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I agree that this is an excellent time to do things you normally don't have time for. Go to the library and get a stack of magazines and a couple of good books. Take a long hot bath...get some soaks or bubble bath. Relax! Go to the mall and do some shopping or just get out for some exercise. Staying cooped up at home may get boring. Get outdoors and get some fresh air. You will be fine...you are just dreading being alone. And I'm sorry to hear about your mother in law. Take care!
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Stay busy and remember that your husband just lost his mother so you must put your husband's needs first. Expect him to be sad and grieving. Do your best to give him space and emotional support.