Question for parents

United States
January 13, 2007 8:11pm CST
My son is 17 mo. old. Since he was around 9 or 10 months, he's had a habit of hitting himself on the head when he's angry or frustrated, especially if I'm telling him no or taking something away from him. He seems to really slap himself hard, too, right on top of his head. At first I thought it was kinda funny, but now I'm wondering just what's up with this... I'm a little scared he's going to hurt himself. Not only that, but who would believe, "he did it himself"? I mean, I even took a little video of it, just in case he did hurt himself, so I could say, "See? He hits himself." lol Have any of you had children who do this? Why do you think he does it? Any advice on getting him to stop? Thanks!
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10 responses
@Piratesware (2890)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 07
well...it's one of bad behavour of mental sometime brought from was born.. I think u'r son need psycolog..ask an expert of mental for cure..ok
• United States
14 Jan 07
Ummm.... Ok, so you're saying my 17 mo old toddler has a mental disorder??
• United States
18 Jan 07
I dont even understand your sentance, but i think you are saying its a mental problem from birth? Well all of my kids did it, they grew out of it, and none of them have mental problems. Im taking you dont have any kids?
• United States
18 Jan 07
Thank you. I'm glad it's not just me thinking that!
@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
12 Feb 07
My son did this too, he did eventually out grow, now with daughter when she began has tantrum when I'd tell her no, And I had a friend tell me about using a spray bottle of water, I tried it, only had to do it twice, now if she feels a crying fit coming on she'll run to her room and cry in her pillow, she's only 2. I prefer this fit better.
@chaptermm (734)
• Malta
19 Jan 07
not very easy to do
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
My son did this also when he was a baby. Hear this. At first we thought its just kinda natural, looking maybe of a bit attention. Little did we know that this is a manifestation of a behavioral disorder. Until he turn 2, he was diagnosed of ADHD? Heard about it? It is a sort of behavioral disorder, a sign of hyperactive. They are not serious mental problems but if left untreated will lead to non-focused of the child to study or things that he does. My son under went theraphy for 6 months and now, it was corrected. My advice, is to seek help of a pedia, and let him assess your son's behavior. Its better to be safe than sorry. Hope I help you in a way.
• United States
19 Jan 07
It could be that your child is just unable to express himself , but know what he wants. It happend with kids this age and sometimes will disappear once he can communicate his feelings. Otherwise I would bring it to your DR. attention and see what they think.
• United States
18 Jan 07
I have gone through this with each one of my kids. I would not worry too much as he will outgrow this. He is just trying to get your attention. See it worked, he has gotten you all worked up. As they get older they will learn new things to do to get your attention.
• United States
18 Jan 07
I have 5 kids and one right now is that age. They all have done it, including the 14 month old. But they grow out of it. I never worried about it, unless he had a toy in his hand, then i took it away. But they do eventually grow out of it, and smacking themselves in the head or the stomach isnt as bad as it looks, their little hands dont have enough strength to cause damage. They will grow out of it, I promise. When they arent hitting themselves anymore and hitting siblings, lol, you'll wish they were back at that age.
• United States
16 Jan 07
yeah. my sisters kid would hit his head too when he was having a temper adn my son holds his breath until he passes out cuz he know he will wake up in my arms. its a way of getting attention from you. i read it somewhere that they do it for attention. you just have to make sure hes in a safe area. its crazy. all we can do is hope he grows out of it soon adn make sure he doesnt hurt himself really bad. my sis. says that she has to lay on top of him and restrain him so he wont hurt himself. then he eventually gets over it. youhave to let it ride out. i hope it helps.
@kies09 (11)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
i have a 6 yrs old son now. what i did to him was, everytime i tell him no, i explain it to him why, everytime i get something away from him, i also tell him why. what our kid is doing to him/herself is a way of getting our attention. it is something like "testing their grounds" as to what strategies they can use to get what they want. explain to them every action you do, like why they can't have this, or can't go there, or can't buy that. and don't belittle your child's understanding, coz they are way smarter than we think! that's what i did as soon as my son started interacting with others, around 4 months i think. and also, if he start hitting himself, just tell don't do that coz you'll get bumps and then you ignore. ;) happy parenting!
@amber81 (288)
• United States
14 Jan 07
i dont have a child who does but my nephew does it and the doctors said its cause he dont like to talk... and thats how he lets you know hes mad or such.. but he finally grew out of it... and hes two now... but yea we were scared he would hurt him self too!