should i leave or stay?

Romania
January 14, 2007 4:25am CST
i have a bad relationship with my parents. my mother always yells at me no matter what i do or i do not and my father is an alcoholoc and i never know what he will do...sometimes he is nice and other times he gets aggressive. what shloul i do? leave? my salary is hardly enough to the monthly rent and food. or should i stay?
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@bogdanel (1208)
• Romania
14 Jan 07
I think is your chioce.. but.. if you relly love your parents.. stay with them... I think you growed up in that place and you can handle it till you'll have a husband to go and stay with him.. Is hard to stay alone .. and if you don't resist anymore.. go.. and make you life as you wish! With respect, Bogdanel
7 people like this
• Romania
14 Jan 07
thank you for your response, it really helps to take a choice
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@jwfarrimond (4474)
14 Jan 07
If staying is making you unhappy, then leave. Your own happiness is the most important thing here and if as you say, your salary is barely enough to pay the rent and food, you will at least be independant.
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• Malaysia
14 Jan 07
I don't suggest you to leave your parents especially your mother. After I have gave birth to my 1 year old daugter, then only I understand how great a mother is. I suggest you to find out the problem for the bad relationship and try to solve it, may be you can have a talk with them.
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@brendalee (6083)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I would also suggest you move out and find a roomate to help with the bills. Your profile says your 24 and most kids leave home before that. I left home at 18 and it was tough at first but it felt so good to be on my own and away from a tough situation. But if you decide to stay, i agree with the other poster, you need to talk to your mom and tell her how you feel. Good luck to you.
6 people like this
• Dallas, Texas
14 Jan 07
Leave!!! It may be rough at first but you will make it if you have the desire to do so! Just keep your faith and you will be fine!
6 people like this
• Romania
14 Jan 07
gooooooooooo! defenitely! live your own life, don't do it like i am doing...
4 people like this
• India
15 Jan 07
see it depends on your perception and if u dont have love towards ur parents go ahead to leave them
@imakella (665)
• United States
14 Jan 07
i think u shd stay. but u shd nt disclose ur family matters to others. u r grown up and try to decide on ur own ! what about u ?
@raveena (1353)
• India
14 Jan 07
These are the very parents who brought you into this world. Just because you have started earning now you are thinking of leaving them and that also you are rethinking not because you love them but coz you cannot afford to live alone. Isn't that selfishness? Can't you speak to your parents and sort it out or take them for counselling?
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@kgwat70 (13392)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I agree that she should talk to her parents and see if they would be willing to go for counseling to improve her relationship with them. I would still concentrate on saving up money to get your own place since we all need to move out of our parents place at some point whether we get along with them or not.
@kgwat70 (13392)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I agree that she should talk to her parents and see if they would be willing to go for counseling to improve her relationship with them. I would still concentrate on saving up money to get your own place since we all need to move out of our parents place at some point whether we get along with them or not.
@ddm610 (117)
• Philippines
14 Jan 07
talk to your parents first, their your daughter so you and you are affected by what they have been doing so you have the right to open this matter to them. if they don't listen to you and they continue with what they have been doing regardless of what you feel, then maybe you should leave. if you have relatives in other areas then go to them to save money even for a while...
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• India
14 Jan 07
frstly abt ur mom.... may be she is under serious pressure or some tension... try tokin to her as if u understand dat she has sm problems in her life and den try convincing her that smtimes she acts wierd... and as ur dad is gud smtimes dat means he likes u for sure .. its jst he is into double mind about you.. may be dat he wants to tok to u abt certain thing or may be he is under sm pressure at work smtimes....u shud nt cm to a conclusion by thinking for only single aspect.. luk into every aspect.. think more when dey r gud to u ... and try o remember what made dem feel gud abt u...!!! BE JJOYFUL no matter what..!!!! as it goes... u say too-- " HARE RAMA HARE RAMA RAMA RAMA HARE HARE HARE KRISHNA HARE KRISHNA KRISHNA KRISHNA HARE HARE " TAKE CARES!!!!! :)
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• United States
15 Jan 07
I think you should stay with your boyfriend or husband if you have one.Otherwise try to find a nice job.It is sometimes very hard to ignore things which are constantly bothering you.
• United States
15 Jan 07
your mother is your gift from god. Speak to your mom about your feelings. Ask her in plain language if she would rather you left home? If she say no ask her what you need to do to get the yelling to stop. You may be the outlet of her issues with your father. You say he is a drinker right. Your not able to make rent payments. buy food for the house,pay a bill or even give cash to your mom. It may help you in the long run.
@hcprasad (1012)
• India
15 Jan 07
There is a proverb "be a Roman when you are in Rome". Hence correct yourself drinking with your father out of his money and live in the same place
@mr_ilham (1611)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 07
leave or stay depeend on you but if i feel my home is heaven thanks
@blueman (16513)
• India
15 Jan 07
strugle is a part of everybody's life and you should stay and work until you earn enough to be independent by yourself.
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
whether you go or you stay they're still your parents. if living them give you peace then do it. just do what evr you think makes you happy.
@kartz19 (58)
• India
15 Jan 07
Comeon show some responsibilty. They took care of you for years, just becuz of some adaptibility problems u want to leave? just think how u might feel if ur daughter levaes u like that...just think
@adnan82 (672)
• Pakistan
15 Jan 07
you dOnt have that much of a prb to leave home. So stay with them..
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
hey bro i read ur msg... i think my suggestion is simple... if you love your family try to understand them... is ok if you leave your own life but leaving your family with that situation i think is not the best way to solve your problem... my suggestion is simple try to talk to your family heart to heart... know what's the problem really are?....
@neon2000 (2758)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
We had the same situation before. But if you love your parents you can stay and just let pass what you hear on the other ear. I am always thinking before to leave them because I had work enough to support me but I choose to stay because I do not want them to be all alone by themselves.