is it necessary to love?????????
27 Jan 07
without love this world is null or void here by love it's not only th boy girl love but i am talking of various other forms of love as well yours parents love for you,your friends love for you,and so on so if all these is gone then the world might just end as far as i am concerned
15 Jan 07
Relationships and Love In every situation in life you have a certain amount of control. So no wonder relationships frustrate us the most, because the one thing you can't and shouldn't control is another person's free will. Love and relationships make our lives fulfilling, so no wonder a lot of people come for readings to get answers on this subject. Lessons are often repeated until we get the point. I have found this in past relationships when I discovered a pattern in the personality types I would get involved with. As the saying goes "the height of stupidity is doing the same thing, and expecting different results". Sometimes it's hard to see those patterns when you are living with them. It's like looking at a picture too closely. In a reading, Spirit will show me a pattern in the behaviour of the client's life, which is stopping them moving forward. Thus giving them the key to learn the lesson of how to break that chain. I used to believe that it was important to suffer, as I find I learn the most from the hardest lessons. But I have also found that you can learn as much from standing still and watching, as you can running around like a loon. I think Spirit does want us to be happy. But like love there isn't only one kind of happiness. There are a lot of hurt people out there who needn't be, in a sense we are conditioned to a way of thinking, based of self-protection. It seems that in this world we have to look out for our own interests, whilst desperately wanting someone to love us in a way that we want to be loved. We spend so long wondering if he or she loves me, that we never think how we want to love and the kind of love we can give. The energy of love is transferred in a contract. It has boundaries and restrictions in it, which makes it tainted and black. Pure love with out condition it much nicer. Something I find being repeated in readings is that you can only trust yourself. I don't mean this because everyone else isn't trustworthy. I mean if I trust myself enough to know that whatever happened, whatever a person throws in my direction, I will be OK. To reach this point comes from knowing yourself. It comes from life experience. To have lived and had disappointment or hurt and know that you are still OK. Time does heal. It comes from knowing that feeling something is far better than feeling nothing. If you truly trust yourself to look after yourself, you are whole; you can share that wholeness without fear of being abandoned. In other words it gives you the opportunity to love unconditionally. This trust in yourself brings self-love. With that self-love you also have the strength to walk away if you are not being treated in the way that you should. This is most important. Who hasn't wanted to know the outcome of a relationship, and whether this person is 'the one'. There will be many right ones in a person's lifetime. We learn from each other, and that can be just simply why a person is in your life. It's a shame to put a value on relationships by how long they will last; surely it's the quality and not the quantity of a relationship that counts. Some of my most meaningful experiences have been with loves I have met while travelling. These can only be short lived if you are on the move. Somehow that adds to the intensity of emotion, because there is no reason to hold back. We meet and we grow with people. But there is a strong need for soul mates. I think there are many soul mates at every stage of your life. The fear of loss makes you want to stay with one person for the rest of your life when that journey may not be right for you. The vows becoming like a prison bond. Never make a promise lightly or in ignorance of the fact that both of your journeys may pull you apart, and that in itself can be a very positive thing. I think it stems back to the need to control. The only thing that we can't in someway turn to our advantage is someone else's free will. ...Oh, and the weather! When we make love with some one or even sleep next to them, cords of attachment are formed between the two souls. It helps us find each other when we cross over. That's why when you are trying to get over someone, you can still be pulled around emotionally by what they are doing in their life. It's a good idea to be careful about who you want to be bound to. Getting to know them first is always helpful. It goes back to what I was saying about trust. The best relationships are formed when you trust yourself, that way you can be honest within the relationship, knowing that if the reaction to your honesty is negative, you will make like a rubber ball and be ok. Two people choosing with live their life together in a healthy way is a wonderful thing. Being in a relationship with that intention is the best you can do.