adult kids living with parents

After I got married my husband, me and our newborn daughter moved in with my parents (we had been living with his parents for a couple of months from the time my lease was up on our apartment until the baby was born). We lived with my dad for 5 years. We have no lived on our own for a year and a half and plan to move back in with my dad in the summer. We don't want to live with him but we don't have a choice. We just can't afford to live on our own with the amount of debt we have. Well, we can but we just get farther and farther into debt. Mostly we are moving back to where my dad lives so my husband can get more overtime at his job and make more money to pay off our debt. Only problem is we can't afford rent in that city ($700 for a 2 bedroom and we have 4 kids). So we will live with my dad again. He lives by himself in a 4 bedroom house so he has the room. Before we were mostly "living off" of my dad I guess. He never asked us to pay a cent to him while we were there. I would try to give him money if we ever had any extra but we rarely did. We did buy all our own groceries, though. This time we are making more money then we did (what a difference just a few years makes on pay) and plan to pay him about $400-$500 a month for rent (we pay just under $500 here) and will probably take over paying the satellite bill for him. I don't see anything wrong with it. In fact it will benefit us all. We will be able to afford to live in the city and my dad will have someone to fix up his house and help pay the mortgage. He is about to retire and is afraid he will lose his house because he can't afford it any more. I actually feel bad that my dad never made it clear that he wanted rent from us. If had put it in writing I bet I would have made a better effort to give him money. At the time it still felt like "my house" since I grew up there. We plan to make up for all the "mooching" (as some people would have called it) that we did years ago by repairing the house for him so he can sell it once we move out. Now I do have a problem with adult children living at home with no jobs and just living off their parents and expecting an allowance like they are 12. My husband worked very hard while we lived there and most of our money went to pay our debt (which never seemed to go down).

I feel that married adult children living with their parents is OK. Living off of the parents is wrong. With todays economy, it is much easier to support the household with more incomes. There is also more help with the children/grandchildren and with cooking and cleaning. If the house is large enough, the younger married couple could still have the privacy a new marriage requires. I do not object to it at all.

to live with elders members of family its nice because help is around always.

I do not think that someone should get married unless they can make it on their own. I do understand the option of "Sh** Happens" like loss of work, house fire, robbery, etc... but if they have no way of supporting themselves they have no business getting married. I think that when a child ends their schooling they should find a job and leave the parents home to start their own life. Until they are able to find a place of their own, fine but they better be doing something. Thank you for the good discussion and have a great day!!

I think "married children" living with parents it`s a nonsense! And I think so because, in my opinion, before you get married - especially as a man - you must first be sure that you can provide your new family everything it`s necessary for a decent life (a house and a decent income that can assure you - as a family - a normal life)