why do people cheat?

Japan
January 15, 2007 10:43am CST
ok ok so people who are gonna say well the person is unhappy well then how come after the person cheats they beg you not to leave and that they made a total mistake and they love you so much? Then they expect full trust from you which I dont think i can ever have for a person who after being with since the 10th grade and two kids and 3 years of marriage could do to me. WTF seiously??? So my question is why do people in What i thought was a happy marriage cheat, and then beg you to stay????? Just curious!!!
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@myjewel (268)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
they cheat because they do not believe in karma or maybe they think they can cheat karma also.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
First, its not your fault the person cheated. its because they are lacking something and maybe dont know how to convey to their partner what they are missing. not sayin that it is right but sometimes this is the issue. if you would choose to stay this needs to be talked about, resolved and then never spoke of again!! im not saying forget, but forgive. counseling might be an option or maybe visting with your minister. Wish you the best!
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@bodomgirl (1618)
• Italy
15 Jan 07
people can cheat because they are unhappy or because they don't have respect...all the people have desires but if they have respect of the girl/boyfriend they can just say no..also when they have a family with kids..but unfortunatelly it seems the people of the future are cheaters...
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15 Jan 07
People cheat for different reasons and no specific reason.one of the very reasdons peolpf cheat is lust.Human nature has been progammed to desire and unless this is put under control the tendency is to satisfy this desire.The difference between a man and other animals is control.whev this ability to control is lust of the man or woman satisfies his desire with whoever is available.Also deprivity could also make people to cheat when they have been deprived of the essential things that keep a relationship going
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@shah_1448 (156)
• India
15 Jan 07
they do so because u have what they want
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• India
16 Jan 07
God created all humans in this world with equal hands and legs know, then why one get into jealous of another. What you've is yours and what i've is of myne. All the best!
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@Mecboy (1051)
• United States
15 Jan 07
sometimes you can't hold it, sometimes you can. I never will. But are sure that guy cheated? even he really does mean it. Well, maybe hopefully it was an april fools thingy sometimes people unexpectly get, and gets happy and get back together and forget the problem.
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@Aloeli (398)
• Portugal
15 Jan 07
i think they cheat because they want to be better than others
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• India
15 Jan 07
people cheat for diff reason..n its depends on the situation n ur age..
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• United States
9 Jun 08
i don't understand why people cheat. I would never even think about cheating on my husband. Maybe they think that they can get away with it.
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• India
16 Jan 07
cheating in marrage can b because any any numbr of reasons. you CAN NOT genralise. that would be like asking 'what is the cure to all ill?' every marrage has its own issues ,positives and negitives. but i guess tthe most common reason is the proverbial 'physical attraction'
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• Philippines
16 Jan 07
i don't know.....
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@maru_047in (1007)
• India
16 Jan 07
Cause i think so they are foolish and at that situation or scene they ll b proper and they ll tell all the good words and then they ll do all the nonsense things and then realize in the future which ll b too late and then they suffer.
@josan181237 (1205)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
cheating really is a bad thing. it ruins relationships. but if the person sincerely regrets his mistakes and asks for a second chance then there may be a room for forgiveness. but if he does it the second time around then it would be foolish to accept him again.
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@luckyali (316)
• Pakistan
16 Jan 07
i dont know beacuse i m not cheeter...i hat those peoples who break other peoples,s hearts and cheat him...i m fair a nice man who love any body..
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
i think the reason for that is there are a lot of temptations around us and people cant control themselves. that is how we measure our faith for our partners.
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@maikeeho (196)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
i think cheating is fun. i love to cheat like in school, relationship, work etc. The feeling after u succesfully cheat something is so awesome. It makes me so proud of myself.
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@kulanuwun (1405)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 07
Because all of people have sinned, so they act udner of devils power
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@Bhutto (742)
• India
16 Jan 07
They cheat because they dont beleive in them selves and want easy money without hard work.
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@chargoans (940)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Okay so far good responses but to give you an idea, here are a few answers that I have heard through the grapevine. "It was more exciting because of the fear of getting caught" (someone who got caught w/boss' wife in closet at work!) "I wanted to see if I still had 'it'". "It was an accident...I let it go too far" "The thrill of a new person"
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@Sawsen (795)
• United States
16 Jan 07
That's a good question. I ask myself that too sometimes. And this is the answer that I usually tell myself. People cheat because they know they can. And then after they cheat, sometimes, not always, their conscience gets to them, and they want to right the wrongs they do. And other times, it's not their conscience that gets to them, but their partner, who finds out, and wants some answers. I think people cheat because they want to try something new, and after they've tried it, they can't go back to the old.
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