Is marriage dead?

@ugachaka (297)
United States
January 15, 2007 10:52am CST
Both my mother and my father have been divorced 3 times. Once before 1 was born, they divorced each other when I was 4, and then again later on in life. My girlfriend's parents fought constantly but waited until the kids were 18 to get divorced, which probably only screwed them up worse. Now, I'm 25 and watching my friends slowly get married off, only to see that end in a messy divorce. My girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 years, but based on what we've seen, we're in no rush to run off to the altar. What are your feelings on marriage? Is it required for a relationship to be seen as legitimate?
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• India
15 Jan 07
I personally think that marriage is necessary when couples decide to have children, because then they are taking on a major responsibility and there should be a formal way of declaring their love for each other.
@ugachaka (297)
• United States
15 Jan 07
We already have a 7 month old daughter. While being married would make some of the paperwork easier and clear up some confusion, it's really not proving to be necessary.
@Muslimah (811)
• United States
15 Jan 07
Whats a relationship without marriage? Dont judge off of all the bad situations look for the good in it. Marriage brings together famlies, the kids are legitimate your not just someones "babies dady", Marriage is a commitment yall cant just one day say "hey im tired of him/her so im going to leave" at least with marriage its a process you have to go through. That process has a wisdom behind it durring that time you get to think about what your letting go and weigh your options. If you say you love someone why not make her your wife?
@Brooke3 (614)
15 Jan 07
So rather than staying wiht someone because you love them you stay because it's toomuch hassle to get divorced?
@Brooke3 (614)
15 Jan 07
I don't think you need to be married to have a legitimate relationship. In fact I think many people who are married got married for the wrong reasons (because it was expected, or they wanted a big wedding etc.) In my opinion the only difference between married and non married people is that married people get tax breaks and if you break up there is more stress if you are married.