Can anybody suggest me what should I do??
By ichampin
@ichampin (593)
India
January 16, 2007 1:23am CST
I am unemployed and I am looking for a job, I am 25 years old,
I always dreamt about a good job so that I can return my family some part they have spend on my education.
But my problem is not unemployment, my problem is that, I know that I need a job badly but I hardly do any efforts to grab a job, I am in such a vicious loop these days that I do no more do efforts to find a job, I like my life as it is, I also study no more. I spend my day on internet and doing nothing at all, There are many things in my mind that I have to do, but I can't do them, I have lost the interest in everything now. I am unemployed for 2 years now.
I can't concentrate on anything, I don't know what should I do, I make plans everyday, but i can't follow them, there is nobody with me, I live alone away from home.
I can't spend mylife like this and not earning anything, How can I make my interest again studies and in getting a job, I don't know what to do, can anybody suggest me some tips so that I can't get out of this loop in my life??I am not doing anything for fulfilling my dreams.
Thanks in advance, as i need your help badly.
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47 responses
@somnolence (460)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Any possibility that you are depressed? Losing interest in everything is a big red flag, as is being unable to concentrate. I would get in to see a psychiatrist. They can screen you for depression. It has been two years so it doesn't seem likely to me this is something you can pull yourself out of on your own. Depression can be very debilitating, but it's also very treatable.
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@somnolence (460)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Absolutely. It can only help. Good luck, I hope you find some good help. Depression is so hard.
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@srlxmi (253)
• India
17 Jan 07
u kno there was a discussion sayin"mylot is for lazy people"...i thought that ws stupid...but i guess not...i guess it is 4 lazy peole...but wat the hell..if u like ur life the way it is jus leave it alone...but if u really wanna make a difference i think u should do something about it instead of sittin in front of a machine which does wat u command it to without havin an opinion of its own...but it seems to me that u dont really wanna do anything about it..because if u really do i think u would've done something long bck...but hey its never late...
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@classy56 (2880)
• United States
16 Jan 07
if your not working how do you pay your bills if you live alone? im just asking.but you need to get your butt off that computer an get a life.25 years old is to young to be wasteing time sitting around doing nothing.eigher seek help.or put your own shoe up that butt an get out of the house an start looking for ways to improve yourself
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@only4you99 (57)
• Pakistan
17 Jan 07
Dear, U need to leave internet cafe and left home at 9:00am to search the job in every office with full confidence and them the officials what can u do and what abilities you have. The same problem i was in 2001 but know i don't have to sleep even................ organizations are behind me and i hope you have the courage to do your best for the good interest of that organization which you will work. Don't think about money, think about work and learning process. If someone offers you volunteer work, do that task without money, it helps to increase ur skills and satisfaction.
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
My son went without a job for a while and started to get depressed and the whole world was against him. That doesn't work with me.
I sat him down and explained that if he would get out of bed and get out of the house and find any job at all. He could then look for better work on his days off instead of partying with his buddies.
Well it took a bit of convincing and I had to get his butt out of bed, but that was over a year ago and now he has his self esteem back and his complaining and depress have gone.
Take any job you can just do it.
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@CuriousPrincess (48)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
well if you wanna have a nice job do some actions right NOW. Get your butt up and start looking for a job. Remember you are not getting any younger, most companies prefer newly graduates or early twenties at age. If you want some change of career, try enrolling yourself to a crash course offered 2 weeks to 6 months to most of schools or better self study, there are lots of sites in the internet providing stuff you wanna know. And if you still feel lazy in looking for a job try to get some capital and start your own business. In that way you could be your own boss.
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@melody1011 (1663)
• India
17 Jan 07
I think you need to figure out first of all if you want to study or take up a job. Being in the state you are you cannot do 2 things at one time. Where are you going to get the money from to complete your education?? If money is a constraint getting a job is a more viable option. Set yourself some goals like you will work just for a month initially. And when you complete the month, with your salary buy yourself something small. Start like this and soon you will realise the good effects of working. More energy, more money to spend, less dependence on other people. Good luck to you.
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
17 Jan 07
I totally identify with your situation - atleast i used to. I had gone to the US to study and after i finsihed I just wasted my time over there, spending days on the internet and just hanging out with friends. I used to tell people Im looking for work but never actually follow up on it. My findig work used to be restricted to maybe just goingto a company's website and doing nothing about it. At that time, i decided to move back home to india. A change of environment did the trick for me. I came back home,a change of place also motivated me to start looking for work, I did so and now Im at a good place in life.
I strongly suggest you move to another city or back home and try something there. Sometimes just a change in place can bring about gr8 changes in u.
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@shemb1 (464)
• Sri Lanka
17 Jan 07
hey why dont you try to do online data entry stuff but i know for that you have spend more money like $45 just like that for one year. or if you are good programming or web sdesigner you can get project and contibute your talents to some companies. and also if you earn in here just post 400 replies per day then you can earn $40 per day just try this while you get the job.
@aalekh12 (111)
• India
17 Jan 07
As you have said.. you spend your day on the internet the whole day.. you can also find jobs on internet .. If you cant go out and search for a job do it on the internet.. it might help you.. There are many such jobs available on the internet which pay you according to your education and experience.. And plzz dont get discouraged at all .. Mayb after some months we'll find you as a CEO of some big company..
nJOI !
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@urbandekay (18278)
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16 Jan 07
So, what your saying, if I've understood you correctly, is that your too much of a lazy a*s* to go and look for a job?
all the best urban
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@cool_xanders (121)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 07
Try to be focus. Set your aim lower, be realistic.
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@michaelkaer (254)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
Looking at this from a Peak Oil perspective, I would learn all I can about gardening and farming, hand tools, bicycle repair, worm composting, organic farming, biointense farming, humanure,doing more with less in general. Cooking will also be one of those jobs that never goes away, no matter what. I hope that helps.
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
you just need to know what you really like to do. BUild up your self esteem. Make an action. try to do what you have in mind. Dont let yourself sit and brood all the time. Make use of your skills. If you plan something for the day, try to finish it. Choose friends that can inspire you. Go out and see what your worth.
@graciegwapa (36)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
that would make the 2 of us! i am depressed and unemployed...if only there's no hindrance for me to apply for a job, i would definitely grab it.. i have medical issues that's why I can't find a day job.. *sniff*
@arpita_onlinejob (508)
• India
17 Jan 07
my dear friend u already what ur problem is. why dont u just use this internet as a means of looking for a job. go ahead and register urself on job sites. and once u get calls go ahead and attend. u know this saying "god helps them who help themselves." i know u r upset why dont u just go back to ur parents and spend some time there and come back with a fresh mind to start a new life. your parents will prove to be ur greatest strength. all the best
@rapsody_14 (6)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
you really need to get a job, its for your own good u will benefit your earnings sooner when you decided to have a family.
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@chimchim (5)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
ichampin,
I am not an expert in these things but i suggest that you focus and be a positive thinker. Do not always think that 'you need a job', rather, think that you 'want' a job. I guess that you have finished studying already, if so, then that is an advantage. Use your skills and what you know to pull you up. Do not look for a job because you 'have' to but because you'want' to. It's like starting a hobby, it is easy to start but hard to keep. Once you already have a job, try to have a positive outlook on each day that you go to work. Do not think about others, think about yourself first and how you want yourselt to be. I am sure that you do not want to stay unemployed for the rest of your life. Try to do reverse psychology unto yourself sometimes. One good way to start is to read what you have posted here and use this as a motivation to do better. Always put in mind that you can do better. Try to look for a job that you want and you know that you'll enjoy doing and you would never have to work again.
@ashuknp (33)
• India
17 Jan 07
I have already read all the messages and I think that what all the people are trying to say that its time, its time to do something, nothing will happen by itself, I have to run after jobs and get the first one I can catch, That would motivate me.
Thank you and Thanks everybody for helping me finding my motivation.
