How long does it takes you to trust someone?

@mjalingo (169)
Nigeria
January 16, 2007 9:40am CST
I believe in sincerity, I always fall as a victim of circumstance due to trust.A friend gave me some money to keep and he asked me if i am in serious need i can use it then refund him when he wants it back, then another friend asked me to borrow him and i confidently lend the money to him, at last he never refund the money back so i had to refund the money from my savings!!. so please do you think i should trust a friend?
6 responses
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
It's difficult to put a time table as to how long does it take to trust someone. It depends on the circumstances involved and how well do you know yourself and the person. But there are some truths worth considering. First, trust doesn't grow overnight. Second, trust grows and develop in the atmosphere of openess and trasparency in the relationship. Third, trust when broken, in most cases can not be regained easily and sometimes just impossible to regain. Yes, time comes in our life that we have to trust somebody and we need to earn a friend's trust too.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
1 Feb 07
I think that u should be able to trust a friend. if u canĀ“t then he or she is probably not a true friend. I know my TRUE friends could do anything for me, and I for them... Real friendshipis all about love and trust!
@ilunice (947)
• Netherlands
20 Jan 07
I am so easily taken aboard at every little acts of goodness. I only become wary when I hit a hard rock. Sometimes I can still follow sheepishly giving the person a very long rope to pull. The problem is that once I say no, it would forever remain no.
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
You can trust a real friend! Not everyone though unfortunately can be considered a real friend! I for one also fall victim of trusting one too easily but i guess that we all must live and learn right!!!!
• United States
16 Jan 07
I think when it comes to trusting someone, with time, it is differant for evey person you meet. However when it comes to trusting people with your money always make them sign something. they may get mad but if they really need the money they will do it. I even made my brother sign a piece of paper saying he would pay me back. His reaction was like WHAT? but when I explained to him why I was doing it he completely understood
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
im the kind of person who make friends and love to have friends as long as they like plus too trusting too. i only know when that person don't want me as a friend when i can't give them they want especially when money is involved. i just cant believe that you will loose friends because of money.