Do you believe parents should spank their children?

@rlporter (516)
United States
October 4, 2006 11:19pm CST
Is it discipline or child abuse?
16 responses
@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
5 Oct 06
yes I believe in spanking , it should not leave a bruise or anything though. I think kids who arent discipline like spanking are in more trouble
@rlporter (516)
• United States
5 Oct 06
I agree...but I also think parents should try other methods of discipline first. Don't get me wrong, I am not one to "baby" my kids. BUt if I can discipline then with other measures, I'll do so first.
@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
5 Oct 06
I do but if it dont work then i spank, what methods do u use first
@rlporter (516)
• United States
5 Oct 06
I speak very frankly with my kids, give them choices, tell them the consequences, and most often removing them from the situation (time out) is all that is needed. I've never put up with alot from the get-go, so I'm really positive this has helped.
@chihouse (213)
• United States
5 Oct 06
It all depends on how the spanking is administered. there are legal guidelines that say what is acceptable or not. I was 'spanked' ( or whooped as most blacks say it) and I'm 24 and I survived. I fact I perferred it over punishment. but spanking should not be used as the only means of displine. not only will it become non-effective, but I'm sure it can become abusive after a while.
@dellion (6706)
• Malaysia
19 Oct 06
I agreed!
@tvnaresh (1583)
• India
19 Oct 06
even i too....
• Australia
19 Oct 06
Agree, rather than spank them, better to give them punishment that could educate them
@phyxius (3465)
• United States
5 Oct 06
I think spanking is ok as long as it doesn't turn into a beating.
@rlporter (516)
• United States
5 Oct 06
Geez, I would hope not. Are you thinking like one spanking with a hand or several?
@phyxius (3465)
• United States
5 Oct 06
Let the child know that they did wromg however no reason to do it hard enougth to leave marks.
@moneymind (10520)
• Philippines
5 Oct 06
i see it as child abuse if done with out acceptable reason. greetings. : )
@rlporter (516)
• United States
5 Oct 06
I agree that some parents get on a "power trip" and use this as a means of control. It is actually the easy way out, if you think about it. Real discipline (without physical) is more difficult to establish, reinforce, and be consistent with.
@van123 (1288)
• India
5 Oct 06
child abuse
@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
5 Oct 06
spanking is not child abuse , it depends on how u do it . if u leave bruises ect then yes it would be
• United States
5 Oct 06
There is nothing wrong with "spanking" a child. The problem comes when it becomes ineffective and goes to more than 1 or 2 swats on the rear. Also I think that the only thing that should be used is your hand. NO BELTS, CORDS, CLOTHES HANGERS ETC. That Is child abuse.
@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
5 Oct 06
thanks i agree although i have used a belt once or twice, but never the others
@fatpixie (101)
• South Africa
19 Oct 06
It depends on the situation. If the child has done something and you have asked once for them to stop and let them know what is going to happen if they do it again and why you don't want them to do it, then yes A spank is fine. But if you are frustrated with your day and you take your anger and emotions out on your child, that is wrong.
• United States
19 Oct 06
Spanking is not a child abuse if you control your strength. If you hit the child like you are hitting someone who is stealing something from your house, than it a abuse toward children. These days, spanking is needed to discipline children. I got spanking when I did something bad and learn not to do it again. I turned out just fine.
@missybal (4492)
• United States
19 Oct 06
Every once in a while it may be necessary but not to any extreme that really hurts them. If another method will work do it first and spanking is a last resort.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
19 Oct 06
Absolutely not! Parents should not spank their kids. Yes, I know they learn not to do something, but I believe they can learn other ways. One thing spanking teaches a child is to hit. That can't be good!!
@sherinek (3323)
• United States
19 Oct 06
No body should spank children. Thats how I feel.
• United States
5 Oct 06
If you have a bright kid the word "no" repeated a few times should do the trick( after all they need time to learn english) if you have one dumb as a box of rocks ( not the regular rocks , but the really slow ones ) then a SMALL amount of pain is correct to use until they catch on to the game" if I don't stop when mommy says no then my butt will hurt". You can spank them at 5 or the law will put them to sleep when they're 25! think about it
@Draxx76 (27)
• Namibia
5 Oct 06
definatley!!!!.... just not in a kinky way
@sunsham68 (1378)
• India
5 Oct 06
Depends- I got spanked and I am proud of who I am today - disciplined and correct. I see many people giving their children the laissez-faire and them turning out spoiled rotten. However, it should be borne in mind that spanking has rules - only the flat of the hand can be used and never on the face or where it can cause real hurt and damage. At the right time and for the right reasons, it can give the child a good differenciation of what is allowed and what not.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
5 Oct 06
I think there are so many other different ways to punish a kid now days without spanking them I mean they have games,friends,phones,televisions,computer,radios,toys,etc... that we shouldn't have to revert to spanking them when i was growing up the rule was spare the rod spoil the child. So i was a very good kid unless it couldn't be helped. like being a few minutes late. I had very strict dad he say jump you ask how high and how many times. He has changed now he isn't nearly as strict since since we have grown older .I guess time softens all things. His grandkids are thankful for that lol
@mohit2006 (793)
• India
5 Oct 06
if the child is small say upto 10-12 yrs the parent should spank the child because no parent his child for no reason and this is the best time to inculcate good habits in ur child and if the child is older then it is very odd to spank a child they should now only and try to make him realise his folly