Internet Love, could it be real???

@ronita34 (3923)
Canada
January 16, 2007 5:48pm CST
I met a man on the internet a while back and he just told me that he bought a house for me and he wants me to be his wife. What should i do or say to this we have never even met in person? Help me!
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@Willowlady (10665)
• United States
16 Jan 07
It could be real, however you need to proceed with caution. You know nothing of him for real. We all can say anything on the net and it could be a total lie. Meet the family with escort, leave a trail. Have him come to meet you in your area!!! It is better to be safe than sorry. Take care my friend and I hope all the best for you.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
It is hard to knowi guess. Well i have seen the guy on webcam tons of times and talked to him for a good year. He has also offered to fax his passport and all that to me as proof of his identity. i am so confused though!
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@Willowlady (10665)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I could fax you a picture of a passport. Just be careful it he is worth it he will make the effort and it will be easily verifiable. Hope is good however err on the side of caution.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
I thank you for that but i have already decided that i will not agree to marry him or even go to see him. However , i recieved an email from this man i met that lives in San Diago! We used to always talk and he just dissapeared about a month ago! Turns out he is in Germany on what you might want to call a mission and he is supposed to be coming to see me for 6 months. He is a great guy and i know that the two of us could work. So wish me luck!!!
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• United States
16 Jan 07
Beware my dear. Internet love is dangerous. Anyone can be anyone they choose. You must speak on the phone, and meet them. My sister married her husband that way. But, they met and went out after the internet. So tell him you need to see eachother. Good luck.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
I know and that is the hard part is the not knowing! I guess i will just have to think this over and do my best to figure it out!
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• Malaysia
19 Feb 07
naaaahhhhhhhhh that guy is a lier. He only said nice sweet thing just to have fun on internet and you tell us u believe him? For god sake!
@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
A HOUSE? That's it? THERE HAS TO BE AT LEAST A NICE SPORTS CAR, LUXURY SUV, AND A TRIP TO THE BAHAMAS. WHAT A CHEAP Skate!
• India
25 Jan 07
the internet love may be posses good results but the probebilty of sucess is very low ... so u can say it will not be real in many cases.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
Good to know and i now know that i will not pursue this so called internet love. There is however a special someone that means the world to me that i will and would consider!
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@Piratesware (2890)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 07
well.. u must meet him first and if ok , accepted what he want from u.
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
That is always the best i guess people have to know eachother on a personal level. I am so confused!
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@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
27 Jan 07
well i don't know about your situation but i met a guy online back in 2005 and thought he was the most wonderfulest man in the world i met him in jan of 2006 and got married that june and been happily married since then
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• United States
27 Jan 07
That's great for you. Happened to me too. I'm married to the guy for almost 9 years now. however, we met in person before we talked about getting married! And before anybody bought a house! This guy sounds like a major freak!!
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@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
27 Jan 07
oh dont i know how guys online can be weird i was talking to this one guy he really sounded nice at first. we met in a yahoo chat room and we had talked for awhile well all of a sudden one of his friends came into the room and started talking to me and told me who he was and wanted to add me on his messenger i was like yea ok np well i starting noticing how when i would come online invisible this guys "friend would be on and every time i made myself available he went off line and this other guy came on i watched this for a few days and when i question him about it he told me some strange story about this guy was dying and i wouldn't ever see him on again....later i found out it was one of his personalty. so yes there are freaky people on the net....people net to take all the precautions they can
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
That is a truly amazing and most wonderful story and i for one am glad that this worked out for you two!
@shogunly (1403)
• Libya
28 Jan 07
You might want to double-check the definition of "house" in his culture and local standards in his country (it might turn out to be a hut in the desert !)I think this discussion leads to another interesting question : IS LOVE OVERRATED AS A PREREQUISITE FOR MARRIAGE ??
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
It could very well be and nice question by the way. I haven't talked to him since this day and i do not think that i ever will!
@shogunly (1403)
• Libya
29 Jan 07
#Well I was just joking (about the house) ,I do not think it's unlikely that someone interesting would offer to marry you after an ONLINE encounter , for the following reasons : #1 you are obviously a very pretty ,physically attractive woman (important for marriage) #2 the potential of online-forums has not been fully appreciated : you can study a person's whole personality from reading their posts ,which provides a way of assessing someone with almost scientific objectivity ,before one is involved emotionally .I think that is a great environment for starting successful relationships :to start by knowing your partner .From your posts it is obvious you are a fun ,loving person and very clever and thoughtful .What else would someone need in a wife? #regarding the question about love and marriage: I really think love(passion) is overrated as a necessity for a successful marriage ,convenience among other things is much more important . I encourage YOU to start such a discussion because it is a continuation of this discussion (an abstract version of this discussion actually) and because much more people would reply if you posted it , and I am very interested in the outcome .
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• Australia
28 Jan 07
A few months ago I would have responded with a very definite NO! I believe love is not an instant happening. Love develops from so many other things. There might be mutual attraction right from the beginning, and this can lead to a very real friendship, but unless there is mutual respect and sharing with give and take and a growing together of philosophies, ideals and personalities, true love cannot develop. It takes time for love to grow, and when it does, it will last for a lifetime. I said a few months ago I would have given a definite No. I still do. There can be no such thing as internet LOVE, but lately I have found that true friendships can develop. I would not doubt that a deep friendship could easily start and that this could lead to more when given a chance, but PERSONAL contact would be vital for this to happen. My response would be that you cannot possibly, even for one second, contemplate the idea of marriage, but that you would be interested in meeting to see how things develop.
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
You are right in each and every aspect that you went through here and i know that this guy in no way is for me. I do have a friend well so i call him a friend that i have been falling for hard for some time now. This guy is great and he is young , mature, funny and successful and he would never dream of asking me something like this before meeting me!
@biratm (162)
• Nepal
28 Jan 07
ya when people get started chating in internet then thay slowly start to think about them and they get started talking in phone and they willingly met each other and they may move to stage of marrying each other so in my view it can be real abou internet love
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Yo are right but this is not the right math for me this guy has officially creeped me out!
@addy4all (638)
• India
27 Jan 07
welll yes...it can b real...if u r truthful and the one u r chatting to is turthful then obviously yes....u ca
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
That is always the biggest issue though is can you really and truly trust the person on the other end?
• Singapore
27 Jan 07
You have to be very very careful when it's online, my friend! you have to chat with them on the phone, see them through the webcam or meet up with them before you can trust their words....be careful. but i can tell you that it can indeed happen...i met my bf 8 mths ago through an online website, we chatted on the phone, video conversation in msn and finally met up..i've moved to singapore to be with him now...and we're planning on getting married next year :D
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Congratulations and i also fully agree with you. I have not talked to this particular guy since this time and i do not plan on talking to him again he gives me the creeps. There is a guy however that is living in San Diago but is in Germany working right now and he is great!
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Well, I'd just stop writing to him. Does he have your phone number? Your address? If he has your number, I'd suggest changing it if at all possible. If he's really serious, and he has bought a house he thinks you're going to share with him, he's psychotic. I'd seriously just block him from your buddy list or whatever, change your email, and just forget about him.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
No he thankfully does not have my number or my address and i have yet to talk to him since he asked! I do not think that i will either he creeps me out!
@TerryZ (22082)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I dont think I would trust him. If it sounds to good to be true then it probably is. I have heard of only acouple of these really working out. But it cant hurt to try.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
I have decided no way. besides that why would i leave everything here behind just for a house and i believe that one should marry for love and i do not love this man!
@edigital (2709)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I do not say internet love is not workable but workable internet love need to check true passion, give one phone number and address and ask him to send a gift to your address, talk with him, call him to visit your city and meet him with your parents or friends and guardian. If he can buy one house for you, it is not a matter for him to meet you and give you gift, call as I described above.
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
I would not marry just because of a house and i know that this guy is not for me and i will not pursue this matter any further and thank you for yoru advice here!!!
@not4me (1711)
• United States
26 Jan 07
This guy sounds just a little obsessed/crazy. Since it's the Internet, you are not obligated to do or say anything if you are getting bad vibes. If you actually gave him your home phone number I would have it changed. If you think you have his first and last name as well as where he is I would run a full background check on him, both criminal and personal to see if he is married, in debt or whatever. While there are people who have met online and have fallen in love, I personally believe that true chemistry can not be gaged until that first live meeting, and not just for superficial reasons. Pheromones are very important in chemistry and you need to see them in the light of day - check out his personality to see if there are hints that he has an abusive personality, like if he is too abrasive or reacts differently than you would to a situation. I would stay away from this guy. This whole situation doesn't sound safe.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
You are right and i have not spoken to this man since and to be honest i will not be checking on him as i do not feel that i love him and i do not to even want to speak to him again!
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Be alert & be careful. It can work out but it can be a disaster too. I met my husband online almost 8 years ago. We have been married for over 4 years. I have run into some crazies online though too. You can never be to sure a person is who they say they are.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
I am glad that you found and still have your true love and it is hopeful knowing that you two met on the net. I will never speak to this guy again as i know that he isn't for me!
@reezluv (377)
• Malaysia
26 Jan 07
The best way is, knowing your couples 1st..don't so easy fell in love with someone with that kind of offers..Internet as you know have many scams and spams..you don't like it at all..I do not believed at all this kind of relation
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Yes i know and i thank you for your warning! I will not rush into anything drastic though so no worries here!!!
26 Jan 07
in that gass stay clear of him he sound like a nutter... block him and stop talking to right now his not right in the head
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
I have stopped talking to him and haven't since this day he was really beginning to get way creepy!
26 Jan 07
yes it is real i met my boyfriend on an adult website we have been 2gether for 2 half years and getting married next year where even now trying for a baby... but u must also beware ofwho you meet,
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
You are absolutely right about needing to be careful and congratulations on your inernet loves success!
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
26 Jan 07
LO BEHOLD, ronita - stay AWAY from this dude. he probably is old, or is a rich lesbian girl, or ugly - gosh -- or just a jerk having fun !!!! My advice - stay away !
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Thank you for your most wonderful advice and i believe that you are right! I ahev not talked to this guy since and i do not think that i ever will!
• Canada
26 Jan 07
I believe you could meet your mate on the internet but you always have to be aware of the dangers . A friend of mine met a guy online that told her he was rich and they started having conversations . They spoke online and exchanged phone numbers . He was a really nice guy or so she though . He asked her to marry him and she said yes . He came down and picked her up and they had a quick wedding . She moved up with him and found out he was not rich and he was also not who she thought he was . He tried to kill her one night when they got in an arguement . I haven't heard from her in years so I don't know what is going on in her life . When she moved up there she lost contact with all the friends she used to have . So all I am saying is , that this guy could be exactly who he says he is but I wouldn't rush out to marry him until you saw him in person and got to know him a lot better .
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
I agree and this is something that i have decided not to pursue. However, i do believe that tehre is such a thing as internet love and i believe that it can in fact be real!
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