up to a good start
By rking247
@rking247 (65)
United States
January 16, 2007 9:30pm CST
i've got married just last year on april,thi is my second marriage,my wife has two kids,wich i love very much,a litle girl,4 years old and a son almost two years,but when they are around her they are so spoiled and she does not show them any education at all,she really gets mad when i tell them this is wrong or that is wrong,it makes me sad this kids are growing up without any education at all,what can i do,
2 responses
@jenalyn (675)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I agree with Craftwave. You could get her to watch show like the Super Nanny show, and get books or any material that will show her how important discipline is. Saying "well, they are just kids, let them have it, or let them do it, or it is not big deal" those comments and ways of thinking does not provide children with guidance so they can make it in the real world. That is what your job is as a parent, prepare your children to become adults and live in the world independently. If there is no discipline, then you aren't being fair to your children. The real world doesn't accept or reward bad behavior.
Wait until they get in grade school, and teachers and other parents start telling her how they behave. I bet she wouldn't want to hear that they have behavior issues. No one will invite them to parties or to their houses if they have no idea how to behave. Being 2 years old doesn't entitle you to get your way and act up. They need to know what boundaries are at all ages.
@rking247 (65)
• United States
17 Jan 07
i thank you guys for your advises,they are great,in fact i always try to watch that Super Nanny show and i think is exelent,and couse my wife works in the afternoon this show is always shown aroun 7;00pm wher i live,anyways,she has thurdays and fridays off,sometimes,not to long ago she was at home on thurs.and guess what,that show was on,i try to make her see this show and she totally ingnore me,and i think she got upset,she didn't say nothing but i could see it ,i don't understand,i believe this is a great show,the kids on that show behaved just like her kids,and it just frustraste me,i stronlly believe in God,all i can do now is ask for pacience,but its hard couse i have no one to actually talk about this,i feel sorry for this kids,they are good but she's ruin them
@craftwave (1338)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I feel sorry for the children because she is not doing them any favors by not discipling them. She needs to find out that kids love structure and that they do better knowing what the boundaries are. They feel safer that way. True they will test them from time to time to see if you still mean what you say. The question is whether she loves them enough to tell them no. Not disciplining your children is only telling them that you don't care what happens to them. Have you ever watched the Super Nanny or some such show. There are also good books out there if you can get her to read one of them.
