what do they mean when they say it is "unconditional love"?

@nishanity (1651)
India
January 17, 2007 6:02am CST
i always hear people saying that the love that our parents and relations have for us is unconditional love... i have never got their point till now... in what sense is their love unconditional? i mean they wont love if we werent born in their family right? would they love us if we were someone else's kid? no right? so wont that make their love "conditional"... can someone clear my doubt???
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• Philippines
17 Jan 07
unconditional love for me, is loving someone without conditions, without asking him to love you back in return, it's giving your ultimate love & care for someone without asking anything in return.
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@nishanity (1651)
• India
18 Jan 07
so tht neednt be from parents alon right?
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
unconditional means no ifs and no buts. please don't confuse yourself, don't take it literaly. you'll know if it's conditional or unconditional, you will feel it..
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@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I don't think that it is something one inherits. I think it depends on the person who is doing the loving, how big theri heart is and how forgiving they are.
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@nishanity (1651)
• India
17 Jan 07
well so u r saying tht unconditional love depends on the person doing the love??? now thts something i havent thought about... u think i am genralizing stuff?
• Italy
17 Jan 07
for me the love incoditional is the love which the animal give us
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I always thought it meant no matter what life has in store Two people can stick it out. it means you would sacrifice what you can if you would have to. FOr instance. A young wedded couple who has only been together a few years and a wreck happens leavng one paralized. Unconditonally speaking, if you loved them you'd stay by their side and help each other through it. It means sticking things out and not giving up.
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@Junig1 (301)
• Barbados
17 Jan 07
I see the point you are trying to make, they love us because we are their children but it is unconditional love really. That is getting too much headache over it..people really say that your parents are usually the only ones who will love you regardless of who you are or what you do. Most other people in our lives will want to be with us as friends or lovers for specific reasons, you are who you are and your parents don't put specifics on their love.
@nishanity (1651)
• India
17 Jan 07
oh thanx for understanding my point!!
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
17 Jan 07
you are very true with this, but i also come from a family where my brother and mother do not talk, I do not think my mom stopped loving my brother but my brother has done some hurtful things to my mom that she got fed up with him and jump to conclusions before getting his side, so i really do not know how to answer your question, because i don'tknow the answer all i know is that i would never turn my back on my son.
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@glummy (193)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
By loving one person without expecting anything from him/her.
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@nishanity (1651)
• India
22 Jan 07
thanx for replying!!
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think that the reason a parent's love is unconiditional has something to do with why you are doubting. Parents love their children unconditionally BECAUSE they are their own. If we weren't born to them, then no they wouldn't have the unconditional love that a parent has for their own children. Also, what about adoptive parents? Some of their children aren't biologically their own but their love is unconditional as well. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you can't use something's reason to disprove it's existance. For instance, the reason parents love their children unconditionally is because they are a part of them...biologically and in other ways. That statement is true for most parents. If a child were born in another family, that "unconditional" love of a parent doesn't apply, does it? So a PARENT'S love for their children IS unconditional.
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
17 Jan 07
"So a PARENT'S love for their children IS unconditional. " I have to disagree completely with you...I know that my mum doesnt love me unconditionally (I'm adopted) nor does she truly love my brother and sister unconditionally (her biological kids)...I know a few other biological parents who dont love their kids unconditionally either....beign a parent doesnt automatically make one a good parent or a loving parent unconditionally or otherwise... "If we weren't born to them, then no they wouldn't have the unconditional love that a parent has for their own children" and I fully disagree with this too....I love my very close friends and their children just as much and just as unconditionally as I do my own flesh and blood kids....relations has nothing to do with it at all IMO
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@raveena (1355)
• India
17 Jan 07
No one else other than your parents can give you the unconditional Love, which means not looking forward to anything in return from their child. Children can be the worst or the best but the parents always stand by them. Yes they may feel hurt and neglect you for somtime in the beginning if you have done something wrong but later will come back to you.
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@nishanity (1651)
• India
22 Jan 07
well thanx for replying!
@deeble (102)
17 Jan 07
I agree with ernst on this one. Unconditional love, is love without conditions. Like the love a parent would usually have for their child. It's to love, despite the things that the person you're loving, may do wrong. It's to love, no matter what.
@nishanity (1651)
• India
17 Jan 07
oh i understand a little now... thanx for replying!
@nhingneng (131)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
i believe that a good example of unconditional love is the love of our parents for us specially our mother. because whatever we do or we may always hurt them in a way we never knew they are always there to understand us. and help us in any way they can.
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• Australia
18 Jan 07
i think unconditional love is the love that someone give it to another person will bond together or stay there all the times no matter what happen (even though in the worst situation in their life) and the love is not limitation to related person. for example like parent and daughter or son no matter how big the mistake the kid make in this life they as a parent still treat the kid nicely and still patient with them give them the best support in the life
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• Pakistan
18 Jan 07
According to me the word unconditional love applies in the love relationship between a boy and a girl I mean in the case of love when they love each other. There you can apply this word and it means that they love each other without knowing and accepting any condition. Hwat ever will happen they want to be of each others. They can do anything for each other and they can face or accept any condition for each other.
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@jenbatres (800)
• United States
18 Jan 07
Your parents and spouse -- if you have one-- love unconditional. That means that no matter what you do they will still love you. They won't hold wrong doings against you.
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• India
18 Jan 07
Unconditional love is loving without conditions. Our parents love us unconditionally means they love us for what we are. They do not expect anything else in return. Unconditional love is without any returns from the person u love, without any expectations etc. Parents have a natural bonding with their children. Whatver u do in life, good or bad...ur parents always welcome u with their arms wide open. this is unconditional love.
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@wdiong (1817)
• Singapore
18 Jan 07
Unconditional love to me means to love someone without any strings attached. To love the person for who he/she is. It does not mean only between family members or relatives.
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• Singapore
18 Jan 07
I just can say "Always be a person who can be trusted, who is faithful then you will be someone who can be loved unconditionally". Unconditional love is what most people want to get it. Perhaps, our parents did it, they raised us without expecting anything from us. That is unconditional love all about.
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@omarboy (22)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
I think unconditional love is loving without expecting in return.
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@berry9 (590)
• India
18 Jan 07
it means that they love you as their kid without any limits.if you are good or bad they still love you.when it comes to relationship and marraige,when you are not good,your partner wouldnt accept you.here your parents wouldnt mind it so.
@aroraasr (428)
• India
18 Jan 07
Unconditional love means you are not expecting anything in return and love the other person without seeking anything from his/her end.
• Canada
18 Jan 07
Unconditional love is simply the ability to love a person not just a family member, and that love does not stop or die and does not change depending on the mood the giver is in. The person receiving it will always have that love whether they are good or bad, because the giver does not pick and choose when to give love. Believe me it is the ultimate love and for those who have someone who loves them this much treasure it and the person who gives it.
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@freesoul (3023)
• Egypt
18 Jan 07
Parental love is "unconditional" because they don't wait for something in return, there's no profits or lust in it, parents tolerate their kids mistakes and errors and also tolerate their insolence and bad behavior most of the time, we can't think if anyone else can keep caring for and financially providing for a terrible person no matter what this person do but parents just do that therefore their love is unconditional.
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