Kids with an attitude....

@ashiflett (1045)
United States
January 17, 2007 9:40am CST
I guess I am just on my "soapbox" today...I am full of complaints, and just feel like sharing them with the entire world! Now, normally, I do not complain as much, but I understand writing is therapeutic, so, I am giving it a shot here. I am very frustrated with kids that develop the type of attitude that results in being argumentative. Lately, my oldest has started to question my requests of him. While I understand that it is ok for a certain amount of questioning by kids his age (6), I do not feel that all types of questioning is appropriate. For example, when I inform him that it is time for bed, I am starting to get the response "Nooo...Whyyyy?". If I ask him to perform a task that he normally does, I do not like getting the response "But...Mommmm", and, last but not least, I hate it - absolutely hate it - if I ask him to inform me of why he did something or something like that and he responds with "Because....". I told him " Because is the beginning of an explanation, not a complete answer". I spend a lot of time with my kids. I try to teach them right from wrong. I quit my job 11 months ago, so that I could stay at home with them and start homeschooling them. We do a lot of things together. We have game nights, family nights, and other things - but it seems as if he is getting too big for his britches, and it frustrates me! Any suggestions would be appreciated!
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@shoelover (896)
• Australia
18 Jan 07
It does get annoying. The ends of my sentences alway had "And no arguments". I found this helped. My kids also tell my I get a certain look and they know not to argue as it will only get them in trouble. I have actually heard them say "Mums got THE LOOK" lol. Mine used to say But Why? My response was always Cause Y's a crooked letter and Z's know better. No idea where I got that one from but it worked.
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@ashiflett (1045)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I like that! Thanks for sharing!
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@asteroid (78)
• Estonia
18 Jan 07
Every kid is different, so you have to figure out how and what is the best way to teach and raise your kids. Communicating with kids you have to look into them eyes, then you can be sure that they are really listening you otherwise they can say that yeah and okay mom, but you can't be sure if they really listen to you or not if you don't have an eyecontact with your children. Good luck.
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@ashiflett (1045)
• United States
18 Jan 07
Thanks for the input!
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
18 Jan 07
I'm not sure put up his something he really likes playing with. put him on restricson
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@ashiflett (1045)
• United States
18 Jan 07
Good idea...
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think you need to explain the team concept and what his role in the team is. Then adjust him when he becomes leader
@ashiflett (1045)
• United States
18 Jan 07
Thank you!
@Stijn1234 (266)
• Belgium
18 Jan 07
Kids can be quite harsh sometimes, you'll have to be mad with them sometimes when they're not polite I guess.