Do long distance relationship work?

picture - miss him so much
Philippines
January 17, 2007 10:27pm CST
do you think so? well i hope.. my boyfriend is studying in LA. Last time i saw him was christmas and new year. But I felt so empty, I love him and I know he does. And he wanted me to wait for him.. He gave me an assurance that he will be back, but.. I dont really know...
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
18 Jan 07
Yes I believe they can but it takes a hell of a lot of work! I am also in a similar situation and my fiance is joining me this saturday after about 7 weeks apart. Because of my work I am taking off around the world pretty much once a month at least and we are usually together for a month or so and then apart for the same. Thankfully we get to sometimes spend a few months at a time together without me having to go anywhere, but this has been the way it is for two years now. But if we were to be apart for longer? I would hope that we could survive but again it would not be easy. As long as you have strong communication, can keep the romance alive (even from afar!) and most importantly; be committed and faithful; then you have a very good chance! The best thing about long distance relationships though is that you learn to appreciate the time you have together so much more. You are certainly do not take each other for granted so easily..... Bottom line is, I love my fiance more than anything in this world and would do everything I can to keep our relationship strong. Far away or not!
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• Philippines
18 Jan 07
good to hear from you! seems that you really love your fiance. its just that im sad, because i wanna be with him. im just scared that with my emptiness i might fall out of love.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
24 Jan 07
I most certainly do love her! I would not be the man I am today without her..... The only way you will fall out of love is if you allow it to be so. You can still be romantic and nurture each other without having physical contact. It's certainly not easy! My fear was that I would get used to being apart; I didn't believe I would fall out of love, just get used to being away from her; but we always talked and texted daily and both kept ourselves busy. Sometimes we are lucky enough to find "the one". If you believe this is the case then you are destined to be together always and it will happen! Good luck.
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@nangel78 (1454)
• United States
18 Jan 07
My good friend and her husband lived apart for years and they got married two years ago. So I do know it can work.
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
You should just be patient if and only if you really and truly love and want to wait for him yourself. Any relationship can work if that is what you truly want and desire. I believe that a long distance relationship can only make one stronger!!
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
yeah maybe i need to be patient... whew.. thanks btw
• India
18 Jan 07
i thnk it does work out but it depends onhw well u want it 2 work out..... if u guys really love each othr i don thnk distances matter...
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
just had a tought of that.. thank you
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
well i think so. long distance relationship work only if both of you build that trust and honesty. being true to your feelings and actions takes responsibility. i've been to long distance relationship but it didn't work because i haven't seen the real me in him. i feel so lonely and empty. the reason i felt that way because we have no strong foundation before we were miles away. but i see some friends of mine who were able to make it through though they are far away. the reason: both of them are true to their feelings. they make sure they have their communication. they keep in touch everyday. and as much as possible, every minute. when they have their decisions, both of them must agree to it or someone will ask for his opinion before he/ she will make a move. i guess, long distance relationship only works for people who are honest and true to themselves and to their partners too.
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
and i dont think I dont have enough trust on him.. or maybe im just afraid.
• United States
10 Feb 07
It worked for me. I dated my husband for 2 years before we got married.
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
but, are you apart from each other???
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
Love transcends everything - Love transcends everything - even distance and time. Long distance relationships can work
Oh htis is so difficult for you, but yes, it can work. My best friend met her husband on board a cruise liner where he worked. They had a long distance relationship for a few years before they married and he was still on the ship for about 18 months after they married. They have been married nearly 25 years:)
• Pakistan
8 Feb 07
Yes, definetely u have to wait uptill he come back to you? regards
@ashjoe76 (1422)
• India
8 Feb 07
Why not? It depends wholly on the amount and quality of love involved. In a case where the couple are truly involved, distance can even have a very positive effect.
• India
18 Jan 07
mark as best response yes i think very so my dear. u know i was apart 4m 6 months from my girlfriend in the starting of our relation ship. i was afraid that void may result in some thing worng but on the same time i had faith om me anmy love. that's it. just have faith amd u will see the difference