Was there a time when you felt unhappy with your life?

Philippines
January 18, 2007 6:28am CST
Have you ever been depressed about your life? Well, I have.I used to feel that a lot especially when I was younger. I used to feel that I was always alone and that nobody cared and loved me. I admit to have attempted to take my life before because of foolish reasons but that's all over now. I am a lot happier now. I used to be a depressed person because I was always alone and because of that, I incurred a lot of mistakes and failures. I don't want to be unhappy again. What about you? Did you ever feel this way too? Tell me about it. ^^
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• United States
19 Jan 07
Depression is a serious matter that I never really thought about until I developed it. In 1994, We lost both my in-laws within 3 months of each other. My Mom also passed away from a brain tumor in that time and 4 months after her my Dad passed from a sudden heart attack. That same year, my husband, then 44, had a horrible car accident which left him with a severe broken arm and a shattered femur and hospitalized for 3 months. We had 3 kids and I worked. It was so very difficult trying to deal with our losses and going to the hospital several times a day and taking care of my kids and working. Then in order for him to come home our home had to be recarpeted and ramps made for his wheelchair. The bathroom had to be refitted with everything so I could take care of him as he was not able to bear any weight on his leg at all. His care at home meant lunch hour rushing home to feed him, bathroom time and settling him in till I came home. Then kids care and school work. I felt I was being pulled from so many sides I spent most of the time in tears or mind wandering to sad thoughts. His leg bone was not healing and therapy came 3 times a week. This went on for 18 months. I was a wreck by then. I tried to be strong for him and the kids but one can only take so much. I found myself at wits end. As he started to walk with a cane and went back to restricted work, it did not change much. Finally, with the feelings I was having we sought the help of my Dr. (I am also diabetic) and he said I was suffering from depression. I was put on meds and also tried some relaxing techniques and took more time for me. It did work and it was amazing how better each day felt and I started to look forward to my days again. Things did not seem so hard to take anymore. I dealt with them so much better. I was happier, he was happier and the kids were happier. Sadly, I lost my husband (49) to a drunk driver in 1999. But I used the techniques I had used before to help me through that horrible time and the depression did not return. Hang in there. Use meds, relax when you can. Take walks and smile. Ask for help. Life will get better. :)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Hmm...that's a big ordeal. I'm glad you did your best to hang in there. You always sought refuge in the thought that everything will be better soon. Yeah, you're right. People should think the same thing way that you do. I'm sorry about your husband. I know how hard it is to lose someone that you love dearly. Take care and thank you for posting! ^^
@baweja (197)
• India
19 Jan 07
I was kind of under depression only when my close friends, who were from my gym, ditched me all togethar and that too just because they all had come in the saying of my own best friend from school!!! Basically, my friend was not trustworthy which i never realised during our friendship but my mother always used to tell me to be careful with her, but i never listened to my mother and today i really regret, why i didn't? If i would have listened to her then i wont be so depressed. My best friend always used to say bad things about one or the other among my group but i never used to come in her saying and kept my friendship will all of them intact. But one day, suddenly i saw change in everybody's behaviour towards me, and they all kind of started treating me very formally so i just decided to move out of the group because i dont need such mean friends who can just change in minutes!!! Since then, i was all alone, no more friends, no happy life because all friends left me togethar and i had nobody's shoulder to rely on, not even my mother's as i was not so close to her and did not want to make her sad...Only my boy friend and time helped me come out of my daily crying and i am so thankful to him!
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Wow! great! Think of the bright side. At least you still had your boyfriend and time to heal your wounds. I've been ditched by some of my so called friends once and I was very sad about it but all those has changed now. Just live life to the fullest. Make the most out of it. Be happy! Smile! Anyway, thank you for posting! ^^
@niitesh (1655)
• India
19 Jan 07
i have been depressed with life but not to the point of taking my life. just a few months back a had invested some money on a data processing work but lost all money so was really unhappy with life and wished it had ended for i did not know what to do or were to go? i was finding it tough to face my family so at that point i wished every thing ended and i was free.but life has changed this year every thing is falling into place and money is just starting to flow(though not received it but expecting it soon)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
You're lucky to not have wanted to take your life away. Anyway, changes are a part of our daily lives and it is the only constant thing in this world. I'm glad everything is doing well on your side of the world. Thanks for the response! ^^
• United States
19 Jan 07
I have been suffering from depression for years now, I would say at least 30 years. It started with my childhood and did not get any better for me. I have attempted to take my life a couple of times, thank goodness it did not work as I was not thinking of my children. This last time through it was my hardest yet. I am getting better now as I do have more good days. I still have my bad days but they are not as severe as they were. I am on medication and go to my counseling and have completely moved and changed my friends. My life is improving and I hope that it keeps going in this direction.
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Good for you. I hope your progress grows through time. Thanks for the response! ^^
@subha12 (18452)
• India
19 Jan 07
There are many times in my life that i felt unhappy.It is the moment when I was unhappy with my appraisal. It was also during my not getting onsite opportunities. I felt very unhappy when my best friend did not contacted me.Again just a few days back i felt so unhappy when another friend told me that friend not even consider me as friend. But please don't do anything like taking your life. our lives are full of ups and downs.
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Yes, I know. Taking one's life is bad. It's against God's will. I will never do it again. It's normal for one's life to have ups and downs. We just need to do something about it. Let's make our existence unto this world worthwhile. Thanks for the response! ^^
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
i had my share of depression too. i guess were just human and we had emotions that sometimes we cant control. but it didnt come to a point were i will take my own life. no way...life is full of adventures and reasons to take so why would i do that? now im a lot more happier every now and then i feel depressed especially if you are disappointed of something or havent done what u think you should have. it will pass and you will regain your self esteem and confidence after that.
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Yes. Everyone has had their experiences regarding depression. Life is unpredictable. We should make the most of it instead of doing nothing to make our life worthwhile. Thanks for answering! ^^
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
I think everyone experiences depression or loneliness at one point in their lives. When I was a teenager, I would always feel unloved and insecure, maybe because I was a product of a broken home. I was seven when my dad left us for another woman, and my mom struggled to make both ends meet. Because she couldn't feed me and my younger brother, she left me to my maternal grandmother while my brother stayed with her. I would say I was not brought up the right way in a surrounding where there was no love. So I felt insecure and lonely growing up. The feeling did not go away even when I got older and found myself a job. Oftentimes, I found it difficult to nurture relationships with other people. I would always retreat in my little corner and feel sorry for myself, thinking that nobody liked me to be their friend. Would you believe I was already in my mid-20s and I would still find myself crying a lot at night? I had no real friends to speak of. It was only when I met my future wife was I able to overcome all the negative feelings and emotions I was harboring almost my entire life. I guess the most important thing when we feel depressed and hopeless is to talk to someone you can really trust about how we feel. It's amazing when we find that there are people willing to listen and help. Then there's also the power of prayer. Remember, no matter how bad things might turn out to be, life is still beautiful.
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
You're right. Life is beautiful. ^^ Life is what we make of it. To regret about the things that we've done and to dwell on the bad things that happened to us in the past will just make matters worst. We should learn to be more positive and try to move on. It will make us feel much better afterwards. Yes, prayers are really helpful. It is said that they can even move mountains. I'm glad everything is going well for now. Keep it up! Stay happy! Thanks for the response! ^^
@jayarajgr (818)
• India
19 Jan 07
I have been unhappy throughout my life, simply because of the loneless I felt in the family. But now I have learned to live with that. None of my family members are understanding how I think, instead they want me to move according to their plans. Sometimes I feel alienated in this place, but as I said, I dont think about these issues nowadays. I always try to look at the nice things I have and that makes me happy.
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
There were times when I felt alienated too because of the same reasons and for other reasons. I've always blamed myself before for being that way. I've always thought of myself as being special but there are times whenever I feel alienated, I just feel so different from the rest. It's like I can't go with the flow of what's happening around me. I felt terrible. I felt like I was really not part of their world and that I have a different world that I live in. I'm glad you've done your best to cope up with such things. Besides looking at the nicer things in life is better than dwelling on the ugly ones that long that sometimes we forgot that we have a whole life ahead of us. Don't waste your time or your life. It's too short to go to waste. Live life to the fullest. Thanks for the response! ^^
@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
I had been depressed when I was in college. I used to stay alone in the dormitory because I kept thinking about my studies. We had ups and downs with my family and went to the point that they were not able to give enough support for my studies. I don't like to talk someone that time and I became a so silent. I also tried to take my life because I think no one cares for me. But I was so thankful that hope dominated me that time. I don't want to be unhappy again too.
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
Wow! We shared the same experience huh? That's nice. At least, someone emphatizes with me and not sympathizes with me. ^^ Anyway, I'm glad that's over now. I never want to be unhappy again and so do you, right? Good luck to both of us. Thanks for the response! ^^
@pyadiki (306)
• India
19 Jan 07
yes when i saw my results for the college studies i reallly felt sad , unhappy and lost.
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@mae168 (170)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Yes! Actually nowadays I used to cry for being alone.. I felt so depressed when I am alone..Especially when I have problems and no one will listen to me, to here my problems..sad to say, because of this, i felt unhappy with my life.. :'c
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
I think that it is very common for people to feel sad about something that they think they are lacking. You should never be unhappy with your life. I realized that being unhappy just restricts you with the things that you can do for your future. If you don't have hope and faith in yourself, that's because you can't see the good things that are already in front of you. Be thankful instead of being in despair. There are good things in your life afterall. Think of yourself as someone who is blessed. Don't forget to think that there are some people who more unlucky than you. I'm sure it will relieve you. Good luck with that! Thanks for answering! ^^
• United States
19 Jan 07
Silver Lining Cloud - Hope
I have never been unhappy with my life. Life is what you make of it. Some people have tried to bring unhappiness and therefor perhaps depression into it but I choose not to let them. I believe every cloud has a silver lining
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Good for you then. Yes, I think depression is all in the mind but since there are times when I think a lot, it gets into my system which makes me want to cry sometimes. I'm a lot better now. That is why I could never ask for more. Anyway, thank you for responding to this topic! ^^
• United States
19 Jan 07
I get very depressed when my husband and I argue and I have no one to talk to about it. I miss my mother and I feel cheated since she didnt get the chance to see me grow into a woman and a wife...
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Oh no! How sad?! Are you feeling much better now? Or are things still on the rocks for you and your husband? What about your mom? I hope you'll get over such depressing things sooner or later. Thanks for the response! ^^
@dracone (125)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
there are a lot of occasions when i feel like 'depressed'... these are not mere occasions okay? i mean, it's like every holiday seasons and i feel bad about it..
@srlxmi (253)
• India
22 Jan 07
yeah..many a times actually..nw i'm happy tho..i hd a very lousy time at school...i jus din take the time 2 get 2 kno pple..n i din give othrs the time 2 get 2 kno me eithr...well i hurt pple i shudnt ve...many mistakes...i earnd lot of hatrd..tried correctin them..guess there r lots of pple out there who messd up their school life wen they cud've hd fun...well..me happy nw..!;)i make sure i dnt hurt pple...n try n 4give those who hurt me...works.!
@csenguler (243)
• United States
22 Jan 07
there are many times that i felt like that. But everytime that i felt like that it was all because of a relationship that i ended prior to that unhappiness. I don't know but whenever i end a relationship i feel terrible, and trust me in neither of them i am the reason for the break up. but i think they have been cruel on me all this time...anyways take care...:)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
There were time that i feel unhappy!...But those time were gone already!...Now, i want to live my life with full of happiness and energy!...I know its difficult but i believed that nothing is impossible in this world!...Being happy everyday could help your health from any illness!...To stay young just be happy and enjoy life to the fullest!...lolz
• India
19 Jan 07
I was in depression when i lost one subject in s.s.c, every one started scoulding me. Then i use to think that no one is understanding my situation, later i come to know how foolishly i was thinking
• Nigeria
19 Jan 07
yes and no. sometimes yes, sometimes no. just curious -- on both sides. what will you do with the answers. it all depends this famous questions of happiness and unhappiness. yet, most of that stuff is personal -- no one can make life miserable or happy for us -- except us. and how to do it..is the key to all...hope your survey and the answers will give you and us a clue.
• India
19 Jan 07
I don't think anyone can ever NOT go through a similar phase in their lives, however long that phase may actually last. Of course, the depression does vary by degree, and also by the individual's reaction to the situation. I've been through difficult patches in my life, too... although now that I think about it, I believe I've been luckier than many other people. I was not doing well with my relationships, neither with my work, I was steadily becoming unpopular and unwanted with my workmates as well as my friends, but every phase of life eventually comes to an end --- and so it was. Today I consider myself much wiser and understand that such phases may (and probably will) come again... but then, everything happens for a reason. Each phase of life teaches us something, be it good or bad.