what if you cant get married? would you continue to love?

Philippines
January 18, 2007 7:29am CST
i love this guy so much.. we have been together for almost 5 years now.. too bad we cant get married coz he was already married to someone else. everytime, i get to think that i woul not get the chance to marry him, its hurting like crazy. what would you do if you're in the same postion as mine? would you still continue to love him??
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• Romania
18 Jan 07
i didn't understand very well .. he was married or he is married... if he is married, then i think you should give up, becouse you don't get the love you deserve, if he would really love you he would do anything for you, he would do everything to make you happy, to give u his name if he was married i don't understand why you can't marry now, but in this situation i think if he it's all yours it's ok... if you don't have to share him with nobody
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@msqtech (15075)
• United States
18 Jan 07
One should not chase that which is unavailable to them for they will always want for what they cannot attain. One should depart and find a new love so that they can have the family they deserve full of love and warmth of family.
@andre3a (85)
• Romania
20 Jan 07
hi suzanne.i didn't understand why can't u get marry:he is still married?if you love each other someone else doesn't matter.when u are in love u get the strainght to pass all the test that life puts u.i love to and i fought for my love,i wouldn't give upfor no reason at all,maybe for one:if he wouldn't love me.but that will never happen.until then i have the courage to face anyone.explain me if u want why can u get marry pls.bye bye.kisses
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@dellion (6704)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
Probably not as if am sure it wouldn't be any possibilities to be together at all. if you can't get rid of it you probably will end up your sad story for the rest of your life. We all need loves and why we need to make our live so hard and sad just for the love that matter? Am sure it will be hurts but always remember time will make you recover sooner or later.
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27 Jan 07
yes, i would continue to love my boyfriend if we couldn't get married. marriage isn't the everything in a relationship. its only a piece of paper i guess. so as long as you love each other so its only important thing :D
@sanjayko (339)
• India
25 Jan 07
I think i will keep loving him but donot meet him.
@shywolf (4519)
• United States
20 Jan 07
It depends. You didn't explain every aspect of your story. Is this guy still married because he refuses to divorce his wife, or is she refusing to give him a divorce that he wants? If he and his wife are seperated and she is the one keeping the divorce from going through, then yes I would say that I would continue to love the guy. You can't just turn love on and off like a light switch, and if he loves you back hopefully he will find a way to get a divorce and be married to you someday. If he is sitll living with his wife, I would not trust this at all. I know that it is so hard to leave someone that you love, but if he is just stringing you along you would be so much better off with someone else.
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
question is will he think of marrying you if he can? if i were at your shoes i will leave the guy even if i love him, it is not because he can't marry me but the fact he is cheating to his wife, what do you think will happen if his wife finds out? can you take it that there is a family getting ruin because you love someone it is not love it is greedy. if you love him advice him to let you go and as for you find someone who can love you forever, a person can bring you to church and exchange i do's. please think about it there are so many guys available in this world just let him go. give a little respect for your self and to his family too.
@swatig (1187)
• India
18 Jan 07
What ever happens, good for both of you. Its time to think about your life. Romance Mathematics Smart man+smart Woman = Romance Smart man+dumb Woman = Affair Dumb Man+smart Woman = Marriage Dumb Man+dumb Woman = Pregnancy
@msqtech (15075)
• United States
18 Jan 07
You need to find someone who is available to love and cherish you for the family you two can have together. You deserve this happiness and to give it to someone who can return it. To parent and be family is what you deserve not waste time on someone who is not gonna be true to you.