January 18, 2007 8:35am CST
if you already had children that were in their teens, or even fully grown and left home, would you consider having more? it is something i have often wondered myself, as i don't want more children now (i am only 26) but my son is already 8, if i leave it too long, his siblings will be much much younger than him. i personally am the third child of 6, my 2 older siblings are 2 and 4 years older than me, so we are very close in age, yet myyounget siblings are 8, 12 and 13 years my junior. i had problems with my brother being around (he is 8 years younger) but no problems with my younger sisters. but i feel that when they are my age, they will have missed out on having younger parents in the way that i have had them. another thing is, if you have grandchildren from your older child/children, do you still think it's good to carry on having more of your own? my niece is only one year younger than my youngest sister, they even went to primary school together... this hasn't posed any problems for my family, but surely it must for some people?
18 Jan 07
No, I didn't. I took a bit of time to myself, doing some of the things I couldn't afford to do before my boys were grown, until my grandchildren started coming along. Then, of course, I spent time with them... they used to look forward to spending the weekends and holidays with me, and staying over with me for a few days. It was great for me, and I think, important for them, not to be wrapped up in their parents all the time, without any other outlet. It teaches them to get to know that everybody doesn't have the same routines, and also, that they need to learn to mix with people outside their immediate family... who they can trust, etc. etc. No, I'm quite happy as I am, but I'm sure there are some who would argue, because some people can't live without kids being around them.