How do u keep ur relationship with ur partners interesting?
By sechsey
@sechsey (1831)
Canada
January 18, 2007 10:15am CST
Ok this is different. I know at some point u feel that u have been with ur partners for years and years. Some are very lucky to keep it going , some are still trying to learn how to keep it up. How do u keep that relationship exciting and interesting? Keep away from routines and boredom. What do u do to spice it up??? (",)
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@shobasvk (787)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
If you really love your partner,you won't feel bored being with him/her all the time.As for me,i've been in love for 2 yrs...and I still love my boyfriend like the first day I loved him...He touch my heart a lot that makes me loving him forever.We will discuss so many things..During our leisure time,we cook together and planned to go outing together.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
well, maybe ur husband is also waiting for u to surprise him. There are times when we the wives just have to do it on our own and plan things. Like in one reply here, an element of surprise might be helpful. i know it would be annoying to think when it seems its only been you who start everything nice for him or ur partner and that he never makes an effort for u ( i felt that before) but its also about the giving and making people happy and making u happy in the process when u see them happy. Get my drift? Lol(",)
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
Of course all relationships will change over time and this is because after a certain amount of time we realise that there are other things in life than continually partying, going out etc. That doesn't mean that they are no longer enjoyable, but there are other things to do. For example once a couple get married, their priorities change in that they also realise the necessity to save for their future and also plan for children.
When children come along, they need to be considered in all that we do, which is only right. They do not stop us from enjoying life but our enjoyment comes from a different area and as everyone with a child will know, a child provides so much entertainment and joy in our lives that we do consider them before other things. Then as the child grows, we need to spend time with them, encourage them and also help as and when needed with the education, teachers etc. Also around this time, many people are settled into their jobs or at least progressing with the same company.
This means that there is an element of repetitive things occurring in our life and some would say that it is boring, but everyone should realise that we cannot have continual excitement either. For us, it is about communication when we talk about a whole variety of subjects that interest us. Our son is all grown up now and is an independant adult, so we no longer have concerns about children, although of course we still do worry, but that is being parents. Now that my husband and I are retired, we no longer have work to talk about but there are other things.
Our conversations might include something a friend has told one or the other of us and so we share the news and discuss it. We will talk about what we need to do this week, this month or whenever and also what our long term plans are. Sometimes one of us will suggest we go away for a couple of days to see friends, have some time away, go fishing, camping or whatever it is we want to do.
There are times when we will go out for a meal, buy the other something small "just because". It is all about keeping some measure of interest in the relationship although of course no relationship of a long term can ever return to those days when we were young, first met and were learning about each other. However, that doesn't mean we should take each other for granted either. To spice it up means doing something unexpected, and each person and/or couple will have their own unique way of doing that BUT I am not going to tell you all my secrets. LOL
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@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
You certainly have been through alot of years with your spouse Ossie! But maybe you can share a few tips here and there for a newbie like me?:)
In my 25 years, i have only been in 3 relationships and the last one was whom i got married to last August. Its only been 6months and we still have alot to learn and go through with together. Our situation is a little unconventional since we have spent most of our time oceans apart but online every night with each other. We do more talking than people in normal relationships he always teased me. We talked basically all day, everyday almost. And that's how we started too!:) So there are certain times when we do run out of things to say apart from the usual day to day things. We resort to playing games online together. We do quizzes and tickle exams together and find a way to have fun with all of it. Those are just some of our ways to keep the fun alive in our relationship away from each other. And i know we have so much to learn still. We keep teasing each other that itl be a whole new world for us when the time comes we start living together, finally i might add.:) But i believe we have a strong foundation and have survive and tackled some difficult situations with ease even when apart. I just hope we still get to have that excitement we now have for the next years, through thick and thin indeed.
@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
24 Feb 07
My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Our anniversary was last week. I haven't really gotten bored with our relationship. I always look forward to him coming home and the weekends when I can spend time with him. We do tell each other "I love you" often. We argue but get over it pretty fast and even in the middle of a disagreement I will sometimes say "I love you" just so he knows that I do even if there is something he is or isn't doing that I don't like.
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
When you love your partner you will not get bored about her/him no matter what happens. When things get rough between me and my wife, I always remember how I court her and how she was so special to me back then and what made me fall in love with her. Then I will encapsulate that characteristic of me before to my present and do some reminiscing and bring back that old spark to our present situation.
@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
I kind of like the way it goes when ur partner kind of go out his way to make u special u know. It makes u love him more because it makes u feel important and special still to him. and I think that is one reason as well why we shouldnt forget to make our partners special. All of us like the way it feels. Compared to the feeling of being "neglected" because we got carried away with our lives and other things we do. U know, show them u still care and u still remember how she/he looked that night u first met and fell in love. Remind them how beautiful it was and that the honeymoon never has to stop just because it was 2 or 5 or 10 years ago.
@cutekristine (526)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
i have a boyfriend for almost two years now andi do agree with you that in someways things are becoming a routine. watch movie, stay at the house, go malling and etc., though its fun because you're together but in a way its getting really kinda boring. in my relationship ryt now, my boyfriend and i are having fun going to the gym almost everyday and after that we try dining in diffrent restaurants to try new food. still we watch movie but we always see to it that we find time to really have a talk. we also spend time with our friends whether go to the beach or go to different bars.
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@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
I know. Sometimes it becomes the same things over and over. So its good to make it a point to spend a different kind of quality time together. Like one minute its being with friends, hanging out together and then suddenly surprise each other with something different, do something that both of u are interested in.
@mimicgurl (64)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
we always make new exciting ideas such as going to the hotel again, going to the beach and spending time together. We play board games or sometime playstation. We also make surprises to each other and do things that we haven't experince it yet
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@liciagomes (452)
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18 Jan 07
It depends on what your relationship with the other person is.
But the main spark into keeping a relationship going would be to introduce an element of surprise sometime during your relationship period. An element of surprise at the most opportune time helps in reviving the vibes between you and your partner.
