giving part of urself

ending... - something to ponder on
Philippines
January 18, 2007 8:25pm CST
it is a full time job loving someone, you give yourself, the whole you, and yet sometimes they fail to reciprocate the love you show to them. it is sometimes unfair to the other party because there is no assurance that your love will be returned. you cry you laugh you smile and all, but sometimes it isn't all about that.. have you watched the movie If Only? that movie really moved me, because i am in the same situation as Jennifer. sometimes you give your all and when you fall, you fall hard. and it is such a sad feeling not being able to feel loved in return..
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34 responses
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
isnt it when you love someone you're risking everything for that person...when you love someone you dont have to expect that s/he will be reciprocating it in the exact way that you want it to happen...in every relationship there's a give and take, understanding, and patience...in each of us we have differences, each of us has different way of showing love and affection, but dont you think that its best for you to let them feel that you have love them in the best way you can, than to have a regret in the end that you dont give your all?
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@yorgaki (678)
• Romania
19 Jan 07
the regret is that they did not return your love as deep as you offered it to them. To say "we are different" is like saying that in a loving couple there are 2 siblings ( a brother and a sister - which is wrong). I understand your saying of "being different" as the loved one would tell me "we are different, so that just leave me alone, don't bother me, I don't care so much that to return to you so much love you offer me. You give me, it's your problem, you shouldn't offer so much and make me feel embarrassed that I owe you so much" When the excuse of a not loving part is the "difference" then already there is no love between them, sadly !
@deepuj (591)
• India
19 Jan 07
I can understand what u feel, but we shud push ourself harder and harder to make ourself stronger, if we dont expect anything in return, or any kind of affection or care ,thne nothing can make us sad, any this behavoiur (true ,infinite selfless love) will definitely move the person u love, it may take time , but it will happen for sure, then u can be sure his/her love for u will equal to how much u love her/him. Again this puts an expectation for the love to return, no need if someone comes back, good for him/her n for u, even if not ,then be glad coz good loves you, as u love all other as he has asked us to.
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
it always happens to us women. we always love whole-heartedly, giving our 100% and most of the time taken for granted. maybe we should sometime think of ourselves.To leave some part of us to ourselves. Giving 100% percent love doesn't mean we'll be loved, too. But if you really love someone that you would risk that 100%, then go, because you can never tell , that with the help of prayers, you'd find one day that he love you more than how much you love him.
@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
19 Jan 07
well, may be that's what it is called unconditional love... you do something to others and you don't expect anything in return... hope that only God can repay your kindness...
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• India
19 Jan 07
ya.... It's true... It's a kind of denotion to ur loved ones......!!!
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@patrice7 (1192)
• United States
19 Jan 07
well it is sad sometimes that we give all we can to this other person and we find our love unreciprocated and all our efforts shrugged off. it is really painful to continue loveng a person you know doesnt love you back. i am actually in the same position as you are way back. but then again i never asked the guy. maybe you never asked the guy?. or did you just assume that he didnt like you?. are you in a relationship and feel unloved and uncared for and neglected?. sometimes men have a hard time showing what they really feel because unlike women they do not show their emotions that often. so mayve you should ask him..
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@neon2000 (2761)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Expecting is what makes you fall. If you love someone unconditionally you won't fall very hard because you be expecting. You will accept the fall when it comes. It is not your giving your all that makes you hurt but your expectation.
@runsgame (2032)
• India
19 Jan 07
you also thing in the opposite direction . if u do some job and totally devote your entire life time for that that means you are sacrifycing your own interest and taking pain of the others and telling others that u are enjoying love. how is this possible to act at different side in one time . either u r fooling the other or you are fooling your self. love is a required one and without that any thing is not possible in life it is also agreed but it does not mean that u should sacrifice all for love. then this will become one sided love is it not . how ever , glad that u r thinking in this line . all the best
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@jody451r (36)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Giving of yourself and loving someone does not mean it will be returned. All those songs and poems about unrequited love wouldn't exist if it were. Love also exists in caring for others, especially those who cannot take care of themselves, in these cases a return of love may be ther at times, but again may fade as the other becomes less aware of surroundings in the case of those with a mentally diminishing process. Volunteers, helath care professionals and others give of themselves daily expecting no love in return but freely giving love nevertheless. I don't think in any cse that fair or unfair enters into the process, it simply is.
@opinder (420)
• India
19 Jan 07
well said. why feel sorry for not getting as much in return?
@aalekh12 (111)
• India
19 Jan 07
It sometimes sad that your partner who would share with you day and nights after sometime even doesnot get time to talk to you.. One always feels lonely and depressed when such situations come.. I feel you should always sought out the problem with your partner and let him / her know about your feelings and even you can know what he thinks about you.. !
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• India
19 Jan 07
this is such a wonderful post.and this is actually true to a very gr8 extent tht howevr we love someone to the maximum extent psbl but smwhr we donot get the equal return. we try to overlook the other person's mistake and cntinue to love him fully but i guess thy donot understand it and is the most hurting thing just hurts it to the bottom f our heart. i just leave it and try forgetting things by just saying tht" we r 2 diff individuals" and mite be tht time wud heal our differnces!!
@tokster (165)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Go Jenny Go!
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@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Sometimes we love someone and they do not feel the same way. Thsi is sad for us, but you cannot have a relationship with someone who does not feel the same way. The best thing to do is move forward and look for a new love.
• India
19 Jan 07
donot start loving a person till you know he is trust worthy of your love... the life with the people who loves us will be better than the life with the people who we loved... so choose your love befor loving... have a good day...
@Xtauseef (158)
• Singapore
19 Jan 07
there is no assurrity that your love will be returned...hell no...but sometimes you are so deep in love that you cannot help it knowing that your love is not being returned but you still keep on giving love...i have not watched the movie...
@kabella50 (309)
• United States
19 Jan 07
you are right to a degree.If you love someone and you treat them as you love them then giving your love feels good to you no matter.If you are giving your love expecting someone to love you in return then you are bound for disappointment.There really is no pleasing man and the more you try the harder the outcome seems to be.When you give to others the feeling of giving has to be your reward for others usually don't appreciate what you do all the time.If you are loving a person who isn't loving you back then your love should diminish, for love has to be cared for like a garden and without careful tending the love will wither.If you are loving someone who isn't loving you back and you stay in the situation,then that's your choice and the feelings that come about are what you want to feel.Life is not a movie and you have realities that you must deal with and that reality is what it is.
• United States
19 Jan 07
Love yourself
I have been there and done that so many times but what I have learned is that before you can love another you must be able to love yourself. If I give you love an you dont return it then in a sense I am ok with that because no one can love me more then I love me.
@arwenrey (316)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Spare some love to yourself don't give it your all so that you won't get hurt in the end. Guys love it when a girl is strong willed and doesn't fall easily try to be a hard to get kinda girl even if you are in a relationship already. Love is like a hard earned money you don't save it if its easy to gain.
@lastwish (779)
• India
19 Jan 07
YEH!!! i agree with you .
• United States
19 Jan 07
If you don't give things your all it seems like your failing. Giving it your all it makes you feel like you don't have to look back and and say what if.