How does your husband fit into your pregnant life?

Philippines
January 19, 2007 12:39am CST
When I was medtech intern in a public hospital, I noticed a couple who everytime the wife will have her prenatal checkup her husband never fails to be with her during the prenatal checkup. Until when the wife is about to give birth the husband is there to support the wife. It is really nice to see a couple like them. I hope my husband to-be would also be supportive.
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@mommycrat (148)
• United States
24 Jan 07
My husband was incredibly supportive. He made sure I was eating and exercising properly, went to Bradley classes with me and learned all he could, and then was with me during the birth. He was OK with whatever I was comfortable with b/c it was me going through it and not him. I don't think I could've gone through labor without him there with me.
• United States
24 Jan 07
With my first son my husband was there for every appointment and would jump at my every wimp. When the second came around he would go to about every other one and with the last on he would hardly ever go, but in his defense he would stay at home with the other children so that I could do what I needed to do with out the other two children there. But at home he always took care of me no matter what it was that I wanted or needed.
@moirax23 (317)
• Malta
24 Jan 07
Really, it would be nice to see such a couple.. after all its their baby not her baby!
@crystal8577 (1469)
• United States
24 Jan 07
Well with our last baby (she is a month old) he went to the 1st appt. & my big ultrasound. He would have gone more if I had asked him. I did not see a reason for him to miss that much work. Most appts. are so short & not much happens anyway. He was with me when I gave birth & afterwards at the hospital until I went home. That is when I needed him most anyways. He was also home a few days after the baby & I got home too.
• United States
24 Jan 07
My husband was like that when I was pregnant with our first. He didn't miss one single prenatal appointment. We scheduled them during his lunch break at work. We lived in a small town so we never had to drive far (in fact the hospital was just blocks from our apartment). But with each consecutive child he went to less and less. By the 2rd and 4th he didn't go to any except the ultrasound and with our last one he didn't even come in. We had the other kids with us and I wasn't sure if they would be allowed in and the tech never asked if I wanted them to come in with us so he missed it. He also missed the birth of our last baby because we had no one to watch our 3 other children. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't assume because the husband isn't there that he doesn't care. My husband would have loved to have come to more of my appointments when I was pregnant with the last 2 but he had to stay home with our other children.
• United States
24 Jan 07
Yes you are right that is very nice. When you are pregnant it helps to have your husband there with you every step. After all it is his baby to and he should share in the birth of his child. It is unfortunate when some women go through the pregnancy alone. Having a baby is a miracle - I think. Of course, there is nothing like it. Even if it is a woman second, third, etc.. each pregnancy is different and she needs all the support she can get throughout each one. I hope in the future when you get married you will also have a spouse that is supportive, caring, and loving enough to be there as you start your family.
• United States
24 Jan 07
My husband came with me to my first OB appt & he made it to the ultrasound & the appt.'s towards the very end & of course the labor & delivery.. but, he works & he tried to be there for me as much as he could. He was wonderful. I agree, it is nice to see a husband that really cares and would do that for his wife.. because there are some guys out there that make their wives go through everything alone and I think that is really sad.
@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
My husband went to every midwives check up and ultra sound no matter what, he always wanted to be there too. i didn't mind at all. but because of work he missed all my prenatal classes, but that ended up being ok cause i had to have a c section anyways.
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
Well, good-luck. As for me, I got through my pregnancy period alone. I went to see the doctor regularly alone, I get the food I crave for alone, and yes, I had always wished my husband were there with me everytime I see couples doing the routine check-up together. It's not that my husband wasn't supportive. He was. But then during my pregnancy he was working abroad, so no matter how much he wants to share my pregnancy experiences, he couldn't. I guess that was a loss for him, too. So when he went home and I had already given birth to the baby, he did everything to make up for lost time during my pregnancy period.