What to do with MyLot Friend Requests
By Ashida
@Ashida (1370)
United States
January 19, 2007 9:05am CST
I've gotten quite a few friend requests and it made me think of how ways to choose who to accept and who to deny.
My rules for this are pretty simple:
If I receive a friend request and the person has not responded to any of my discussions, I reject it immediately.
I always check out someone's profile before approving or denying the request.
I always check to see what this person has posted or what other discussions they have responded to. If a person posts a bunch of "Wats ur fav color?" discussions, I will deny the request. Or if they answer a bunch of discussions with one word answers, I'll deny it as well.
If someone has a very low number by their name, but has 128 friends, I will almost always deny the request. It just seems to me that they are trolling around for friends and didn't bother to pick me because they liked what I had to say.
If someone posts interesting discussions that intrigue me, I will almost always approve the request.
If someone responds to one of my discussions with an intelligent reply, I will follow the steps above, but typically approve them.
Anyway, this is getting a bit long -- how do you pick your friends, do you do anything in particular?
This is how I do it, but I don't know if this is the best way.
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66 responses
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
19 Jan 07
i am going to be completely honest and i will probably get called naive about this, but i rather have people on my friends list that are from the USA or cananda or austrailia. I just find that i have more in common with them. i laso look at the type of discussions they posted.
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@MakDomMom (1474)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I tend to gravitate towards those same countries. Unfortunately I have found too many people from other countries that do not seem to want to post well thought out replies and also create simple discussions that require only a yes/no answer. I do not have time to have them filling up my inbox! SORRY!!!
@sumitvella (379)
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19 Jan 07
I guess what is important, like when you become friends with people in person, is that you have common interests and you can hold a conversation.
Thus I pretty much follow the same criteria as you. I haven't had too many requests but I think it is based on discussions are they intelligent discussions or not.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
19 Jan 07
This is a very sensible list and it's much the same as I do. While looking at their profile, I try to check one or two of their responses as well as their discussions. They may have posted in a discussion that I have also posted in and may have even left a comment, so not having responded to one of my discussions is not such an important criterion.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
19 Jan 07
Interesting post. I do follow some of your guidelines in order to accept friends. I hate it when people send you a request and never bother to participate in one of your discussions.
@web_runner (37)
• Finland
19 Jan 07
7nicole1, are you a man of your word? ;) I expect that you guys who have been long online get more requests than you would like to handle, but for us who are in the beginning getting friends seems like a lot of fun :)
@Randync (544)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I have gotten one request that I accepted before I even knew what it meant lol. I have sent one to a fine upstanding member of Mylot whose posts I tend to agree with. That are the only two I have. I am not overly interested in accpeting any just to have friends here. I don't really post enough to help them much anyway.
@Ashida (1370)
• United States
19 Jan 07
That was my experience as well. When I first joined I got this friend request and I thought -- Wow! Someone must like what I have to say! And then I noticed that this person had a few hundred friends and hadn't even responded to anything I wrote. So I started to become a lot more picky about it.
@Gruzzle (294)
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19 Jan 07
I've only had four requests. I accepted the first three straight away, ditching them soon after looking at thier postings and replies. I have only one now but I may drop them as well as I don't feel I check his stuff enough. I consider requests but If their postings are juvinille or spam like I will ignore.
@Ashida (1370)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I've had to do that too sometimes. No system is perfect I guess, and there are times that i will go through and clean out my friends list. I hate doing it though, but then I suppose it's rather silly to take anything on here too seriously.
I just really like this forum and want to maximize my enjoyment.
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@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Good post. I generally follow the same kind of format as you do. Basically, if you are on here to make friends all over the world, that's great. But I'm not. I'm here to fill up my spare time with interesting reading and posting, and make a little extra cash. I'm not looking for a pen pal. So I'm limiting my friends to a very small number.
@rahuldmhatre (736)
• India
19 Jan 07
i always accept them, its a good way to make friends while you make money, money dosent last for ever but friends do.........
@bubblefish (164)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I accepted every of the friend request i received. Making friends is fun! There is no reason for me to reject. ^_^
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@JCarroll5781 (79)
• United States
19 Jan 07
you're better than I am....i have gotten numerous of requests but delete them all. Whats the point? is that going to help build up my earnings?
@ownado (1679)
• Portugal
19 Jan 07
I usually accept all friend requests I receive, sometimes when the person who is requesting it has few posts I go to his/her profile to see if he's making quality responses but normally I accept everybody because if they added me to their friends list, they may have any reason to do so, isn't it?
@teufelskind (813)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I tend to look at there profile as well. I had this one person who sent a request to me and they didnt have any number they where at zero it was like why would I say yes. when I send a request it tends to be people who I answer their post all the time and have formed a bond with our topics we have answerd all of each others and some others that I can relate to with in their post we talk it helps some if they are going through a hard time but I agree no to the one word responsis and no post.
@dradelelassy (1208)
• United States
19 Jan 07
your rules are ideal and you did not foreget any and your system of approval is fair
@lauriefnp (5111)
• United States
19 Jan 07
This is the most intelligent and reasonable method that I have seen here, and it is a good policy to adopt. I would add that you will also review your list of friends as you respond to discussions and will delete any that "turn to the darker side". That's what I've been doing. I made a few wrong choices, but I've corrected the mistakes. You know what they say: "you are who you associate with".
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I too have been getting alot of friends request, If there are no posts from them--I deny, If they never posted anything on my topics--I deny, If they have the "what is your favorite color, mine is blue" those type questions--I deny..From being here only a few weeks those are some of the things I look for when accepting friends requests..great topic....
@HighPriestess (739)
• Melbourne, Florida
19 Jan 07
My goal in life is to touch as many lives as I possibly can. I will accept a person as a friend unconditionally. I expect nothing in return.
