My Grandmother is Dying this weekend, what should I do?

@dmillman (2273)
United States
January 19, 2007 3:58pm CST
My grandmother has been fighting ovarian cancer for months. She is ready to go. We want her to go, for her sake. We don't want her to have to deal with anymore pain and suffering. Last weekend she had the best weekend she's had in ages. Both my mother and I were concerned that it was her "last hurrah" so to speak. It looks like that is going to be the case. Has anyone had to deal with someone dying while you're near them or in the same room as them? If so, do you have any good tips, like "I wish I knew this when I was going throught it"? I'm just looking for tips and advice that will be able to help my family through this time. Thank you in advance for all of your help.
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5 responses
23 Jan 07
i feel your pain and hope your grandmother passes over as peacefully as possible she will choose her time and you will know when shes ready kiss her tell her you love her and she will always only ever be a thought away from her family she wont be afraid and she'll be waiting for you all when your time comes to be reunited bless you al tc xx
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
24 Jan 07
Thank you TaurusGirl, that's what we're trying to do for her. There's just been so many ups and downs. We all thought that she was going to leave us this past weekend, but she's still here. One day we have to drop water into her mouth because she doesn't have the strength to sip it through the straw, and the next day she's guzzling it. It's just weird.
@smbilalshah (1316)
• Pakistan
19 Jan 07
well i feel sorry for you and her but what can one do? infront of God's will? but still pray to God for her forgivness and may God bless her, you and all of us
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Thank you smbilalshah!
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@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
2 Aug 07
my condolences to you and your family. having someone die of cancer is never easy!
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Thank you cher914!!!
@bigstret (484)
23 Jan 07
ASk her what she would like and respect her wishes.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Thanks. We've done that already. I'm heading there soon, so I'll know more then.
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
We lost our Grandfather to Cancer also just over 3 years ago now. We will always miss those that we love it is human nature. At the same time we know that trying to keep them with us is only causing them to suffer. Just pray for her and know that this is for the best. Think of all the good memories with her like last weekend and always hold them close. Take it how she would like know that she will be free!!!
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
22 Jan 07
Thanks Ronita34! Well, it's Monday now, and she's still with us. Now we're all scratching our heads and trying to figure out who she may have not had the chance to say good-bye to. The two people we thought, spoke with her this weekend, so now we're trying to figure out what's keeping her here. We just want her to be peaceful and happy, with no more pain.
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