Are you a good Christian?

United States
January 19, 2007 4:06pm CST
I myself and my family attend a Church of God. We have chosen this church due to the fact that I was raised a Catholic and hated it. My husband was raised a Seventh Day Adventist and hated it. I wanted to put my children in a church where they can learn religion in a fun way without being preached to. We love our church. It is a very small church and very family oriented. They have wonderful children's classes and adult classes. However it seems every week our Pastor states something to the extent that you can not really worship your god by coming to church only on Sunday morning or when you can. I have four children, I can not make it to church Every Sunday morning, Sunday night and Wednesday night. He has never stated anything directly to me or my family, but it seems to come up every week and makes me wonder - Am I a bad Christian? What do you think? Do you go to church every Sunday and every other day that your church is open for service/class? Are you a bad Christian if you don'?
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
I am a Christian and I belong to the Church of Christ founded and headed by Christ up to now - there is no human being who founded it nor is it headed by a human being. Congregations as spread throughout the world and no congregation is over the other; we are bound by the Holy Bible. We are called Christians as we belong to the Church of Christ. We follow the Holy Bible. The Holy Bible says that we are not to forsake the assembly. Congregations of this group render worship services on the first day of the week or Sundays. That is when we do the five forms of worship - singing, praying, giving, reading the Holy Bible, and taking the Lord's Supper. Some congregations have Bible studies in any day they schedule, that's up to them to determine. The Sunday worship services is not commanded by man, it's God who says do not forsake the assemly. It does not mean that if I always attend the worship services, I am already a good Christian. I have to be a Christian all my life, in all my ways in or outside the worship service. If you don't attend the assemblies scheduled by your Pastor, it does not necessarily mean that you are bad.
• Melbourne, Florida
19 Jan 07
Just because you go to church, this does not make you a good Christian. There are plenty of church going who are definitely not good Christians, and hide behind there church connections. Going to church is not one of the 10 commandments, and Jesus did not say we had to go to church. Your pastor is playing a guilt trip on you in order to get you to come more often, which in turn puts more money in the offering. I would not go to a church that tries to make people feel bad for having real lives. God will listen to you no matter where you are. Church is good for fellowship and that's about it. God can be found in the middle of the forest, or at the bottom of the sea. And a good Christian is someone who follows the 10 commandments and follows Jesus example of giving love and forgiveness.
• United States
19 Jan 07
Thank you for the reassurance. Those are the feelings that I had, but sometimes you have to wonder! Thank you
• Italy
20 Jan 07
uhhh yees!! i am a very very very good christian! i go to church every sunday and i don't do any action that cause them a problem..
• United States
20 Jan 07
wow!i really admit i dont go much on sunday mass but anyways very well said (highpriestess)and i would second the motion to that cuz it's not all about goin to church then just pray you have to be true and have a good faith to yourself and GOD
@shemb1 (464)
• Sri Lanka
20 Jan 07
what do you mean of bad Christian? how can you msure bad Vs good Christian? Can you have such a meter? Why do you hate Catholic chrch and 7 day Church? is that your thinking and did your church did bad thing for you? I think church cant to any bad thing because church is not active, sometimes I believe you may hurt someone from those churches. What ever you say think widely, otherwise your religion it is not really work for you. because religion is peace thing it dosent hurt nobody. And one thing what ever cristian or 7 day what ever religion you follow, keep in mind all religions are come from catholic, I know americans made some different cathloic realted religions because they need different. but the inside is same. So dont be spoiled others and be good human what ever your religion.
• United States
20 Jan 07
My post was not intended to hurt anyone. I myself hated being raised a catholic. Only because I feel that young children are preached at and unable to enjoy their educational time. It is hard to lean about something you are supposed to love when it seems that no matter what you do you are a sinner.
• United States
20 Jan 07
I don't think that you are a bad Christian. I believe that is it a good thing that you and your family go to church. It is good that you are raising your children to believe in God, etc..Maybe it is a coincidence that the Pastor talks about that subject when you come to church. It might not even be directed towards you and your family. I do not believe that you are a bad Christian if you do not make it to church every Sunday. Yes, I think it is good if you can make it every Sunday, but If you can't make it to every service, etc... then you should not be so hard on yourself or let their judgment of you pull you down. God knows what is in your heart. On the days, that you can't make it maybe you and your family can have a session discussing God, or teaching the children a Bible story in a way that they can understand. You can praise, worship, and thank God throughout the week. Have pray time or teach them a scripture that they can learn, remember, and use for the rest of their lives. You can teach them Jesus ways (love) and how to show love to their classmates. I believe that it is great for Christians to come together as we should, but to me it is more than just on Sundays. We have to carry God's love with us Sunday thru Saturday. And with work, children, family, college, or whatever else you are involved in - no we can't always make it to everything or every service. I try to go to church every Sunday, but I have miss some Sundays to. I am not trying to make any excuses, but it is true some Sundays maybe just can't make it. I say that you are not bad Christian (pray about it and pray for your pastor), but I will say keep putting God first, love your family and church, and ask for God's guidance - He knows what is in your heart. Blessings to you and your family
• United States
20 Jan 07
Thank you
• Egypt
20 Jan 07
hmm i'm muslim :) but i hope i become a good muslim
• Nepal
20 Jan 07
to be a muslim you have to be very careful because the muslim society is too conservative
• Egypt
20 Jan 07
i'm already muslim ..so i think that it is good for me .. i know Islam socity so i like all here
@katty0004 (386)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I go to church on sundays and I believe in what I have been taught, Some people cant go because of there jobs keeps them from going thats unstandable to me , as long as you believe in what your taught .
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
my, husband, my son and I went to church every sunday, how great is the feeling when we are there, listening, worshiping GOD, and praying.
• United States
20 Jan 07
I wish I was. I always try but I always fail.
• United States
19 Jan 07
I am a single mother and me and my 2 kids only attend church on Wednesday mornings. I work full time and I am so tired at the end of the day I really don't feel like going anywhere or doing anything other my down time things. I have taught my children to love and remmber God throughout the week even though we only visit church on Sundays. I don't think we are bad Christians because we don't go to all the church functions.
• United States
19 Jan 07
I am glad that I am not alone. Thank you
@ghalayini (122)
• Australia
20 Jan 07
I don't think there is anything such as a good Christian or bad Christian. We are Christian or not. To be a Christian means you believe in Jesus Christ as your Lord and that he has forgiven your sins.
@justreal (2364)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
I am Christian, but don't really practice my religion much, but do believe in it. I go to church on occasions like Chrstmas, Easter, Palm Sundays.
• Romania
20 Jan 07
no, defenitely i am not a good christian i don't go to church, i don't believe only the half bible, i am really not a believer, so...i am out of discussion...
• United States
20 Jan 07
I have not set foot inside of a church building for nearly 5 years now. My spirituality is just that, MINE. Just as your spirituality is YOURS! Not one person on this earth should ever dictate what you feel, think, believe or love. Yes, parents, peers, family, trusted friends, etc can give you advice or guidance, but it is up to you to sort through that advice or guidance and choose to follow what works for YOU! I was raised Methodist, when got married the first time was to a Lutheran and then we got 'born again' and attended pentacostal churches up until just before our split. My ex hid his horrible behavior in the church, he acted righteous, 'godly' etc while doing unspeakable things that were actually crimes. He is now paying for them in a state prison. I was ostrasized afterwards, now tell me, does that make sense? Anyway, not trying to take away from your discussion missy, just want to share that your beliefs need to be your choices not someone elses expectations of you.
@scalpelo (270)
• Bulgaria
20 Jan 07
Just you go to church this does'n make you a Christian.More important is to believe in God.
• United States
20 Jan 07
I am a Christian, I am a born again Christian. I think what your pastor is trying to say is that just because you attend church on Sunday does not make you a Christian. Being a Christian means having a personal relationship with Christ. Have you invited Christ into your life, is he your best friend? Being a Christian is living for Christ 24/7, 365 days a year, the rest of your life. Just invite Christ into your life and let him use you to show the love of Christ, make him your Lord and you will see amazing things happen in your life. Christ will guide you better than anyone on this earth.
@blubbla (193)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I think it goes back to the basics. "Believe and be baptized and you shall be saved." Obviously, just going to church doesn't accomplish this... after all, I've seen people there just for a Sunday morning nap. You have to truly believe and be sorry for your sins. As I once heard in the question and answer session on "The Lutheran Hour", "We don't need a religion of rules and regulations, we need a Savior."
@craftwave (1338)
• United States
20 Jan 07
No your are not a bad Christian if you don't attend each and every service. My husband is a preacher and when he says something like that it is referring to your daily walk with Christ. some people think that if they go to church on sunday then that makes them a good Christian. It is a DAILY walk not just sunday or when the church doors are open. Your pastor just might be trying to get everyone to think about the daily walk with Christ.
@Kayzzaman (173)
• India
20 Jan 07
These days people have become more concerned and more fanatic about their religious identities. Religion is still playing a big role. I think it is because of life has become so much vulnerable and unpredictable that people have fallen victims of fear psychosis. Is there any malady? Religion here is playing panacea and its placebo effect is standing in good stead - something of a faith healing of sorts. But it is far from reality, it is out and an illusion. Will you like to live in illusion?
• India
20 Jan 07
NO I M NOT .I M HINDU .SIR ITS FUNDAMANTLISM THERE IS NO RIGID CRYTAREA FOR BEING A GOOD CR
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
I guess for me that is a NO.Before i used to be a good Christian. I go to church every Sunday. Read bible stories to little children, but as i grew older i had some doubts with some priests in our community. I begin to doubt their credibility and sanctity. Instead of elaborating the gospel through the homily.They have cited their opinions instead. They intice the public to agree with their opinions. Where for me is totally WRONG. Since then hearing mass for me is not a habbit worth forming. I am not saying this to invite other christians to do so,but I am saying this coz I want others to act on issues like this. ACT - meaning escalate concerns to higher church leader within the community. Priests are there to encourage christians followers to live and do good, not to invite them to go with his own opinions and own causes!
@mobyfriend (1017)
• Netherlands
20 Jan 07
I think you have to define for yourself what a christian is? You can worship God all by yourself. If you have a living relation with your God you don't need to go church on a regular basis.And your children need to learn about God from you as the first person to tell them. Don't let anyone pressure you into more church attendance. Not the amount of time you spent in church but the quality time you spend with God counts. And that could be in your backyard spending time with your children and telling them all about the wonders of nature that God has created.