The forgotten victims of depression.
By TheNack
@TheNack (140)
South Africa
October 6, 2006 4:11am CST
Depression is all in your head, a disease in your head (-;
While I really have a lot of sympathy for people who get depression, in whatever form, I have just as much sympathy for the people close to them. (I have lost a friend to suicide, and my wife has depression that comes and goes but can get quite severe)
I feel very sorry for the people who love the depressed. Depressed people are so damd difficult and suck my own will to live. Even if I understand it and sympathise and won’t tell them personally, I wish somebody would tell them. There are degrees of control you can have (depending on the case). Also, if you have depression, eat right, exercise and friggen at least try! For the sake of the people you love. I have lots of patience but I came to a point where I almost lost it. Then you’ll get a depressed person and a loon and that won’t help anyone!
Just at least keep the hope alive!
My deepest sympathies to everyone suffering directly or indirectly form depression
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10 responses
@konsou (6)
• Finland
16 Oct 06
Both me and my wife have been suffering from depression for the last year or so, on and off. So I think I know exactly how you feel... It's really difficult when your spouse is feeling very depressed and tries to tell about how she feels but just manages to spread the depression around. Sometimes it just makes me feel like my head is going to explode, even though I know she can't help it most of the time.
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
10 Oct 06
Depression affects so many people, and it not only hurts mentally, but it hurts physically as well. While I battle it, I do eat right, exercise and do try to be happy, but it's just not working. I greatly appreciate my friends and family that still stand beside me and walk through it with me.
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
11 Oct 06
It's a long and hard battle, but like you said God is always there.
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@Lackingstyle (7509)
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6 Oct 06
I don’t ever consider I touched even the faintest sense of depression in a period I went through, I agree with your points, everyone raised including exercise and eating right. It’s easy to forget about the family and friends.
All the best.
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@Lackingstyle (7509)
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10 Oct 06
It does, I don't quite understand why either, you're post was insightful to the side of the as you said, lost victims.
You must have alot of patience.
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@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
10 Oct 06
People that are depressed need lots of prayer. If you love a person dealing with depression, keep praying for them that the Lord will intervene for them and draw them nearer to him through everything they face. Depression is horrible and a person in it can't bring themselves out of it very easily. KEEP PRAYING for them anyway. The Lord will help them through it.
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@katyzzz (2897)
• Australia
11 Oct 06
Very good analysis of the situation. Good luck with your life and you are not always the cause of someone else's problems. Too often you're just expected to wear it and depressed people can make use of their illness by putting undue pressure on others. THEY KNOW! and for some the only answer is to let them go, if they seem desperately unhappy and don't respond to help and treatments. My sympathies to all involved. Don't let anyone send you on a guilt trip, I take it you are a reasonably loving and caring person??????
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@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
7 Oct 06
It's quite obvious that you don't understand depression, so for the sake of your wife, don't act like you do. In a way, telling a depressed person to basically snap out of it, is like telling a cancer suferer to tell the cancer to take a hike. When your brain isnt working the way that it should, you can't tell it to "friggin eat right and friggen try".
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@TheNack (140)
• South Africa
10 Oct 06
you will be amased at the power of positive thinking, Dr Deepack Chopra has cured cancer by it! That said, I really think you misunderstood me completely and that you probably have a very limited knowlege of depression. Please read the comments I supplied to the other people who didn't read the post properly above
Keep Well
thenack
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@srinathakarapu (3093)
• India
10 Oct 06
thanks for ur concern pal....
have a nice day!
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@DRoddy77 (1776)
• United States
6 Oct 06
Depression is a chemical imbalance and sometimes it gets to a point where it just cant be controlled. Obviously you dont understand it so I hope that you never suffer from depression or never have anyone close to you suffer from depression because you will just make it so much worse for that person.
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@TheNack (140)
• South Africa
10 Oct 06
Did you even read my post. I probably know more about depression than you, for instance, it is not always a chemical imbalance, that is just one type. Besides, I never said anything negative against depressed people, I just gave my sympathies to the people have have to live with someone who has depression, because that is pretty tough too and I think a lot of the love and care given by these people goes unseen. I just wanted to encourage them, so perhaps you can read my post properly
Thanks for the reply
keep well
thenack
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@wahmoftwo (1296)
• United States
16 Oct 06
I used to think that depressed people were just whinny and needed to toughen up. Then I found myself expiereincing it. I didn't even realize it until I started having heart palpations and went to the doctor. He asked me if I was under stress and when I said yes and fell apart in his office he suggested I might be having panic attacks. What a slap in the face. It took that for me to admitt it to myself. Now I totaly see how some people could go so far over the edge. Anyone suffering from depression has my sympathies. It is hard on the family as well. Thank God I am blessed with an understanding husband.
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@jaimee (97)
• Philippines
14 Nov 06
Thanks for your sympathy to people like us. We wouldn't have made it through our lives without people like you who understand, care and support. On behalf of all clinically depressed people, I apologize for the crazy things we put you through. I hope things get better for you and your wife! God bless you for that1
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@jaimee (97)
• Philippines
14 Nov 06
Thanks for your sympathy to people like us. We wouldn't have made it through our lives without people like you who understand, care and support. On behalf of all clinically depressed people, I apologize for the crazy things we put you through. I hope things get better for you and your wife! God bless you for that1
