punishment of telling Lie

India
January 20, 2007 11:45am CST
what do u do if u come to know that ur child is telling lie 1) u start beating him 2) tell ur child that u come to know about his/her lie so he must said truth. have u giving him change a to explain himself . what u will do ??? ur opinion .
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
Depends on what the lie is about. if its a little fib then i guess you should sit them down and explain that if he lies about things you will not be able to believe him when he does tell the truth. if its a BIG WHOPPER of a lie, or about something important.. i dont know what i would do, maybe punish him by taking something away from him untill he tells the truth and apoligizes for lying. everyday that he doesn't take something else away. i think all kids good or bad lie at some point in their lives, they just dont know any better till you teach them. better to teach them as soon as they start so it doesn't become a habit!
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• India
21 Jan 07
yes i am agree with u and i gree with the point that "better to teach them as soon as " but they are very tender so giving punishment its better we talk to them.
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• United States
20 Jan 07
I think the punishment for lying depends on how old the child is. If they are under the age of 5, you need to explain to them that lying is a bad thing to do and encourage them to tell the truth about things. Once they are school-age, they should know it is wrong to lie. I would not hit a child for lying. Instead, I would punish them by not letting them watch TV, play with their friends, or not letting them do something else that they like to do. And how serious the lie they told was would determine how long they would be punished.
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• India
21 Jan 07
yes u are right too. and i like ur opinion that is good and perfect . well thanks for ur response .
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
20 Jan 07
I do not think one can achieve any thing by punishing a child. The parents should tell inspiring stories, incorporating in the story, what happens to a guy when he tells a lie. Slowly repeat different stories which should have a moral ending that one should not steal, one should not tell a lie, one should not be dishonest. This will have a long lasting bearing on child, than punishing the child.
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• India
21 Jan 07
yes this is another way to talk our child and tell the pros and cons of lie . well thanks for ur response .
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@sunny5u (2069)
• India
21 Jan 07
No,i will not beat him at all.I will talk to him/her so close and tell some story about telling the truth and also tell a story on telling a lie.Then i make him/her to know the what is power of truth.
• India
21 Jan 07
yes u are right by this way we can also teach our child . well thanks for ur response .
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• United States
21 Jan 07
My oldest son and daughter are going through this now. We teach them God doesn't like lies. Then most of the time we explain how we know it's a lie. Then we tell them no matter what a lie should never be told because they will have to be punished for the lie and what they have done. If that doesn't work then they write a hundred times I will not lie to my parents or anyone else knowing it's wrong to tell a lie.
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• India
21 Jan 07
yes u are very true , this is another way . well thanks for ur response .
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• United States
20 Jan 07
when i want to know if my daughter is lyig i ask to see her hand. i once told her that when she lies to me a line will appear that only i can see on her palm. if i had no clue wether or not she was teling the truth i would know by the fact that she will not show me her hand. if i already knew tat she was telling a lie i simply ask to see her hand an then remind her of the consequences of lying to me. I first tell her 1. lying is a very naughty thing its hurts peoples feeling when you lie to them. 2. when you lie to people the will never believe anything that you have to say so when you lie about micheal hitting you (her cousin) next time that he does it you and u tell us we will not believe you. 3. if she still insists that she is telling the truth and i know that she is lyig i give her a list of options like, taking away her gameboy for the night, 5 mnutes in the corner, bd right after dinner, or no chuckie cheese or what ever treat i promised her for the next day.
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• India
21 Jan 07
yes u answer is so good and perfect too . i like ur answer specially 2 points , it is good and if we tell our child every times than it possible he /she come to know the consequence of telling lie and don't make its habbit .
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@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
so you lied to your daughter about lying?
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• India
21 Jan 07
what u meant to say to telling how lie is bad for her and what will the post effect of lie , i am telling her lie . what is the responsibility as a parents . we have just discuss here about what are they way we use to stop lieing .
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@jaganpro (29)
• India
21 Jan 07
i would go for the second option.. beating a child will no way help you.. make him/her understand that you always teach good for him... that would really help your child to become more mature and he/she will start loving and taking your words
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• India
21 Jan 07
that nice , i too prefer the second option
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@arunk7319 (1281)
• India
20 Jan 07
Iam following the 2 options, that is whenever my child tell lie I will ask him why he has told and advise him the impact of telling lies. Nowadays he has minimized telling lies and hope he will continue the same in the future too.
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• India
21 Jan 07
yes ur view is again good . telling him impact of lie is good . well thanks for ur response .
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@wasim989 (2298)
• India
21 Jan 07
I will explain to him that he should not lie but if he is still lying then I will take a step further and I will say to him that he is grounded for 1 week and that he will not be able to play with his friends or able to watch any tv or games for the whole one week.
• India
21 Jan 07
yes this is one way to teach him . well thanks for ur response .
• India
21 Jan 07
yes this is one way to teach him . well thanks for ur response .
@anil_762001 (1636)
• India
22 Jan 07
i think we had to explain the child not to tell lie and also give him warning to not do so in future ....
• India
22 Jan 07
yes i am agree with this point too. well thanks for ur response .
@adnan82 (672)
• Pakistan
22 Jan 07
i will bring my child into confidence. .that i wont harm u . tell me the truth .. beacause beating a child is not the matter of the solution ..
• India
22 Jan 07
yes u are right saying ,i am agree with u . well thanks for ur response .
@katenkim (238)
• Singapore
21 Jan 07
first of all, beating wont do any good if child do a lie. you should better tell him in a somewhat alibi manner that you know about his lie. dont pinpoint him. cite an example what would happen to a person who lies and tell him some good-to-believe happens when they caught lying.
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• India
21 Jan 07
yes u are right saying , this is another way to teach him . well thanks for ur reply .
• Pakistan
20 Jan 07
The first thing I would do is that I would give my child a chance so that whenever he sees a good situation he could come to me and speak the truth and if he doesnt that I would emotionally blackmailed him that "I trust you alot and you broke my trust if you did something more bad than that and if you told me I would definitely help you but you broke up my trust" and stuff like that.
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• India
21 Jan 07
emotional balckmail is one of the good way to know the truth whether why and for what ur child is telling lie . well thanks for ur response .
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• India
21 Jan 07
I would talk to him why he did and tell him not to tell lies here after. At already I am doing to my son who is 4 yr old. I found that instead of beating it better to go and talk and warn him that better
• India
21 Jan 07
yes i am agree too with ur point of view . well thanks for ur response .
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@adnan82 (672)
• Pakistan
22 Jan 07
i will bring my child into confifence.. that dont tell infront of me .ever tell the truth i wont harm u .. beating a child is no that solution of the matter..
• India
22 Jan 07
yes u are right . well thanks for giving me nice opinion .
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
21 Jan 07
My personal opinion if my child told me a lie, I would explain why lying is not good and why. And my form of punishment would be taking away things that means the most to him such as his game systems, pc etc..In order to get them back, I would have him earn them back one by one...More chores, more reading, and more communication. I feel if my child lies to me about something we need to find out why he would ever think he would have to lie to me....
• India
22 Jan 07
yes i agree with u . thanks for ur response .
• India
21 Jan 07
i would tell him that i know about his lie so he must said truth if he repeats it i would tell him again then also if he does not listen me i would beat him
• India
22 Jan 07
so nice and perfect answer . well thanks for ur response .
• India
21 Jan 07
Well it depends on person to person, but first i would like to give my child a chance to improve himself/herself and if he repeats this again then i would beat him/her and will teach him/her a lesson that what should be the punishment if he continue telling lie.
• India
22 Jan 07
ok it is ur point of view . well thanks for ur response .
• India
21 Jan 07
one thing that we can do the that thing that can he/she can not be told lie
• India
22 Jan 07
oh so nice , can u tell me that one thing . well thanks for ur response .
• United States
21 Jan 07
If i found out my child was lying i would tell him that i know he is lying and give him 1 chance to tell the truth and then we have a talk and then he would be grounded
• India
22 Jan 07
yes this is one of the nice way of teaching . well thanks for ur response