A Desparate father...can he do anything??
By ArienKing
@ArienKing (4647)
India
January 20, 2007 1:46pm CST
Im asking this for a friend.....it came out just before xmas that his wife of 15 years had been spending hours chatting on computer with men, meeting up, and making contact through mobile phone. they have 4 children under 11, live in a housing association house and struggle to live comfortably. the police became involved but didnt seem to be interested and took no action. friday before xmas she disappeared and took children transpires they went to a safe house. she let them ring their dad xmas day but thats all hes heard from them. she seems to be unanswering his solicitors letters, he is out of his mind with worry for the kids and seems helpless, can he do anything???
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5 responses
@sahil49 (28)
• India
21 Jan 07
i am too small to answer all this but still i will suggest the father to go and ask her wife the cause behind hwer unusual behaviour he must talk to her frankly. in my opinion the man spends less time wid her wife for which she has diverted her mind towards the other way . in marraige all this happens but the plus point is that they are maarried for 15 years and now after such a long time there is very little chance that the wife will be angry for longer time . LOVE NEEDS TIME AND UNDERSTANDING AND REST ALL IS LIFE.
@sylvrrain (658)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Why would she go into a safe house, was your friend abusing her or the children in any way? If not, wouldn't that be considered fraud on her part?
I guess the first thing your friend needs to do is go to social services and the court system to find out what his options are. As soon as he finds out where the children are, he needs to file a petition for custody.
I know it is too late for this little bit of advice, but when he first found out about all the chatting and phone calls with other men, he should have had a heart-to-heart talk with her. That way he would understand what she was missing in her life. There may be things that they could have worked out together so all this mess could have been avoided.
Sorry to hear about what is going on in your friends life. It is great that he has a friend that is concerned about him. He probably really needs you at this point, even though he may not say so.
