does age gap plays a vital role in relation ship

India
January 20, 2007 2:06pm CST
me and my parents have a conflict ..i asked them to give internet facility but they were not ready..i thought that they didnt have money so they are telling then ..one day my father gave his card to draw money from atm..but i stunned to see his bslsnce..ok then i asked him to give internet connection but he reffused.he thinks i will be addicted to net but i know i can not get addicted ..he thinks i will have habits wat he had in his teenage how to say tat i am dfferent..wat shall i do?
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@Poison86 (121)
• Bulgaria
21 Jan 07
This depends on the people.
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• India
21 Jan 07
yes age gap plays a vital role in relationship because thinking changes with time and ideas also change with time..................
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@xiaomei (61)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 07
i think thats not because age gap, thats just because your parents dont understand that internet important for you, and they just scare you will be addict. that was reasonable, coz there are so many teenager in this world have been addicted, although they say, they can not get addicted.. hehe.. you just need to explain to your parents why internet was important to you, and when they give what you want, prove to them, they can belive your words...
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• India
21 Jan 07
To a great extent Yes it does. People who have grown up forget to understand how they were when they were young and expect them to be what they want them to be.
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@jimotman (633)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 07
this is common.. parents who are still old-fashioned do this because they still don't know the use of internet. I think you should convince your parents what you will use the internet for. Make them sure you won't get addicted and that you won't do bad things with it.
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• United States
21 Jan 07
Maybe you should try to convince them and tell them the benefits of the Internet. Show them myLot.com haha, maybe they will see the goodness of the Internet. Haha, just one of my suggestions. I agree that age gap plays a vital role in relationship, it might make or break a relationship. ^_^
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@spreadout (127)
• Nigeria
21 Jan 07
My young friend the internet is certainly addictive,even as adults,we have to force ourselves to shutdown the computer sometimes,i think your father is right,but you should explain to him politely that you will not abuse the previledge and please stick to whatever timetable you guys draw as regrds the use of the internet.GOODLUCK
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@neon2000 (2758)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
In some way, I guess you are right. Age gap really matters in different areas where you can argue because the way you think is not the way your father and mother thinks. They have their own reason why. DOn't worry, i think the situation is not about age gap.
@katenkim (238)
• Singapore
21 Jan 07
then if they are not willing to give you internet facility due to some reason, maybe because of what internet does with child like you. if they are quite suspicious, then they can block sites that is inappropriate for you
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@cuhkiz (568)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
sometimes, Gaps occur and is in line with being protective inside a relationship. Gaps are inside of what they believe is right and true and what theyre used with. Like You and your parents, They just want the best for you and for you, you want what the easy way then. MAybe you should just pleased them of what is the use of what your asking them like that internet connection. You have to ellaborate with them why you want it. If theyre really unpleased, thats fine, maybe in other matters you'll have their yes.
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@kritipen (4082)
• United States
20 Jan 07
This happens with all parents and children. There are hardly any issues that parents an children agree on cordially. Age gap and generation gap play a vital role in misunderstandings, but on the other side what i observed was if it was age gap that is the reason for all the differences between parents and children, why is it that there is better relationship between the grandparents and grandchildren.
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@raveena (1353)
• India
20 Jan 07
It is not the age gap. You will need to explain to your dad the advantages of having an internet connection. As you youself are aware that he is scared that you will get addicted so you should promise him that you will use the Internet for a certain period of time and keep up the promise. Then we will be convinced and will believe and give you the things you want without. But be sure to keep up the promise.
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@tomoe_spy (260)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
there won't be any problem if your partner is older or younger than you, your love for each other is important
• India
21 Jan 07
Did you read the post before you scribbled? what a shame to make such posts without reading what the other person has raised?
• India
20 Jan 07
well its all abt exp..ur dad has an exp n if she tells tat u ll get addicted then surely u likely to b addicted...
• India
21 Jan 07
Sure parents do know their kids, if they both agree that u will get addicted than u must be liable to the same
@soob78 (76)
• Pakistan
22 Jan 07
hmm ofcourse it does... it might not do at this time but in couple of years it will. 2 big age gap will def. let the relationship fade out... if the age is the same i guess the couple will do better.
• India
21 Jan 07
u r right in a way but i don't fully agree with u as what we see is only our side of the coin like for eg. ur internet connection,it was not there in ur parents time when they were young,and what thet know about it is what they read in newspapers or hear on television which most of the times ll all the negetive aspects of it.i feel after few years when u ll ve kids u also might ve the same protective behavior towards them which they might not like.just talk to them with a kool mind ask for a temperory internet connection and them decide its benifits once u ve it
• Pakistan
21 Jan 07
I think that is upto you to sort it out.Your parents seem to be having a "persecution mania" syndrome i guess. Well sit down with your father and have an open discussion with him. Tell him how you want to handle the internet, what rights he have to supervise you if he thinks its offensive to open up a window for outside world in his home privacy. I hope when you will show how much responsible you are in its usage, how much beneficial it is to your age of knowledge, how much viable it is for this age of information and facility, how much control he would be having on to its working in your home , then he would be able to understand the practicality of it. And i hope your problem will be resolved.
@sarithagp (238)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I don't think age gap makes difference in a relationship.It all depends on heart.
• India
21 Jan 07
well to a some extent it does matters.....for a gud relationship0 u need to hv very less age gap!!!!!!!!!
• Pakistan
21 Jan 07
First of all it depends on the situation that what relation you are having with anybody. well the situation is that you can make your father a friend and then let him know your all schedule and discuss your problems with him separately and take him in confidence then he might understand your problems and help you in your life for positive things.