Sharing your home with a friend.

United States
January 20, 2007 8:18pm CST
There have been many times that I have had to share my home with other people. We have had to open our door to a friend. Would you offer a room to a friend in need? How long would you extend the welcome?
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@kgwat70 (13395)
• United States
21 Jan 07
yes, I would extend my home to a friend in need and I have done that in the past. I had a friend who was having problems with his wife and needed some time away to think things through and so they could have time to themselves to work things through. I allowed him to stay while they were taking a break from each other. He stayed for a few months and then went back to his wife and kids. Me and him are no longer friends but this was a case where I did extend my home to a friend when he needed a temporary place to stay.
@brokentia (10395)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I guess that depends on the friend. If the friend is someone I could trust, then yes, I would open my home to a friend. But I honestly do not know that many people. I have found that I offer my home to people more than I think I would though. My partner's niece called tonight and I offered that the next time she is in this area, she is welcome to come and stay a night or so for a visit. But I have also opened my home to others. I had a friend that needed a place to go with her son and she stayed with us for a few months until she found a place of her own.
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@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I've shared my home with other people lots of times. If I didn't help out a friend in need then I wouldn't feel right about denying them help when they needed it the most. One friend stayed here for almost a year after her divorce because she didn't have any place to go to. Her brother came up to visit her from Florida and had a heart attack, so I left him stay here while he recuperated for the next 6 months. If I had to do it again, I would. That's what friends are for...to help each other and be there for them.
@villageanne (8554)
• United States
21 Jan 07
We have had total strangers stay in our home for up to a month at a time. This has happened more than once so I dont have to think about the question you pose. I would never turn anyone down if they needed a place to stay. Yes, friends could stay at our home and they would feel welcome.
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@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
23 Jan 07
Yes I would and they would be welcome for as long as they needed the Help I will always help my Friends where I can specially in need of a roof over their Head It is really lovely of you to do that I had done it once many years ago and the Friend stayed a week and it certainly helped her to get on her feet
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• United States
24 Jan 07
I have never had a problem with helping out a friend. They are often better than family members who stay with you.
@MakDomMom (1474)
• United States
23 Jan 07
We have had my father-in-law living in our basement since the last weekend in June 2006. He moved in with us so that I could straighten out his finances. He was very far behind and didn't have the knowledge to get back on track. We moved him into our basement so that I could get him caught up. It was an invitation to stay as long as it takes. He hopefully will be able to move out in the next couple weeks now. Just have to find him a place within his tight budget.
• United States
24 Jan 07
Rentals are so high these days. It amazes me what they ask for rent. How do people afford these places?
@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I would personally love to open my home to a friend or someone in need. I would help them in any possible way that I could. It's just that my husband is a very private person and don't think he'd do the same; unfortunately.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
My husband does not particularly like to share things. He likes his privacy too.
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• United States
21 Jan 07
I have welcomed many people into our home. They would have to get on their feet first, before leaving. No time was put on it. Unless they turned out to be a sponge.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
With my exhusband he took in people all the time. None of them stayed long because I insisted that them move. None of them contributed to the household. I was maid to nobody.
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• United States
21 Jan 07
Yes i would offer a friend in need a room but for 3 days i will give them this right. Extended stays usually result in not too good of a friendship. It always seem to result in some type of conflict or another. And most times people have the the utmost intention but sometimes it results in someone overwearing their welcome especially if there are multiple families involved I have seen or heard of this happening over and over again. But in good faith I would try to offer my assistance in helping them to find a better situation for themselves.
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• United States
21 Jan 07
Many a good friendship has been damaged by this. He is like a family member and we are all working hard to make this work.
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@carmat (2850)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
It would have to be short term, I find it is one thing to have a friend but once they come into your space things seem to change and you get a real true picture of what your friend is like. I believe in helping people out but sometimes those situations can drag on way too long and damage the relationship.
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@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 07
I have to be real honest here, I hate sharing my home, I am too independent, set in my ways, and yes pretty selfish. I've always prefer to spend my time on my own and my door is closed. Yeah friends can stay a couple of nights, but never on a permanent basis. The worst thing I ever did was to move in with my partner in the past, giving up my flat. As soon as I get myself fully sorted I will get my own place and live alone. We're all different, it's good that you have an open door to your friends/other people but it's not something I could do.
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@ukchriss (2103)
22 Jan 07
I did open my home to a friend when his marrage broke up and he had nowhere to go... that was 7 years ago, hes still here as my lodger! we are good friends he gets along with my boyfriend so everyone is happy.
@nilzerous1 (2435)
• India
21 Jan 07
I have never mind to share my room with my friends, during my school days, college days and also now when I'm fully matured. I have also shared my small room with my friends' pets, so, it is really not an issue. I do it not for any return or for the noble thoughts like "a friend in need, is a friend indeed". This is our family tradition. And regarding "how long", the answer is as long as they feel comfortable. No issue.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Sure would if I had the room. Also would do my best to guide them to get back on their feet. Of course it could lead to us having such a good time that she/he may never leave. Hoping though that they could get a job and then when things were right they would pop off and begin anew!!! Good memories would be had by that time!!
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• Ireland
21 Jan 07
This is an ongoing thing in my home. I have a son who makes friends with people from all over the world and some of them have come to Ireland to either study, look for work or just for a holiday. One of his friends, a Chinese girl, came to Ireland in Oct 2005 to study. She had nowhere to live so she stayed with us for 4 months until she got an apartment. I loved having her and we got on great together. When she eventually got her own apartment, I was really sorry to see her go. We also had a few of his friends from the USA stay with us for an extended holiday and they only went home after their visas had expired. I would take all of his friends in no matter how long they wanted to stay, as so far, they have all been very nice.
@sunshinecup (7880)
21 Jan 07
Oh man have I! I can't count the number of friends that have lived with me for a minute or two. The longest was a friend that stayed for almost 6 months with me. She left a bad relationship and just left everything but her clothes. So she had to pretty much start over, including finding a new job to get away from him. The stay was longer than I expected, but I did not mind. Her ex was a jerk and she needed to do that.
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@ichurn (611)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
It is okay with me to share a room with my friend. There is nothing wrong with that. However, this friend should know some of the limitations, and that includes the length of stay, when sharing the room with me.
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@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
21 Jan 07
i have always had an open door policy with my friends, though i never had any that actually stayed with me, but the offer is always there. i would extend the welcome as long as needed as long as i see they are trying to better themselves and they are not just sponging off of me.
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@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
21 Jan 07
I would certainly offer a room to a friend in need, but the question of how long I would extend the welcome would depend on a few things. For one, they'd have to sleep in my sitting room as I don't have a spare bedroom. Then they'd have to abide by my house rules. Not that I have very many, but one, for example, would be that I'd rather people didn't smoke inside the house. Then, if they were staying for a while, I wouldn't expect to be keeping them for nothing. They'd have to offer something towards their keep or help a bit around the house. It's only fair. It depends on how comfortable we all are with the situation and how we're all getting on together. I know I have some friends that I'd want out within a few days, whereas there are others that I'd gladly have around for ages.
@fox2965 (65)
• Russian Federation
21 Jan 07
I think any person will share his home with a friend if it's realy good friend...And for how long?....I don't realy know...it depends on his appearens and on my family relation with him...may be my wife dislike him very much or something like that...
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