Can you keep a SECRET?
@western_valleygirl (1363)
United States
January 21, 2007 12:33am CST
I am the type of person that pretty much talks a lot. I usually talk about myself (instead of talking about others). I also, tend to discuss the issues going on with me, and how I feel about certain things. Sometimes, I like to bring up the people in my life, how I feel about them, and what is going on with all of us. But, in general, secrets I don't tell. People come to me with their secrets, and even though they know I like to talk a lot, they trust me to never tell their secrets. Being trustworthy is a rare thing, and finding people that are trustworthy is even more rare. Are you trustworthy, or do you tell people's secrets to others?Or do you know people that are not trustworthy. Who do you trust the most?
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@simplysue (631)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I trust my husband the most. My friends know that they can tell me anything and it won't be repeated....even to my husband.
If one of his children come to me and say "don't tell Dad but"......I tell them don't tell me if I can't tell your Dad.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
8 Feb 07
That is a good idea, and it really helps build trust, between all of you. I have the same relationship with my husband, and his friends tell him everything also. And, the same goes for me.
@cuddleme01 (2725)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
yes definitely. My friends or anyone for that matter can entrust their secrets to me and i can guarantee them a 101% that their secret is in good hands and will never be exposed. I value it so much that people trust me with their secrets. There is a responsibility and a moral obligation which i feel i must do everytime a friend tells me a secret. In the same way, i want my friends to keep my secret just as i keep theirs. I seldom tell my secrets to anyone because i fear of it being exposed. I know those who confess their secrets to me have the same fear yet they trust me enough. I should keep their secrets.
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Yes. I agree with you, it is a moral obligation. There is a line that just cannot be crossed, sometimes, people take their moral obligations lightly in life, as if they can do anything they like, but in reality, it makes a difference. This is what separates those that are inherently good from those that are inherently bad. Thank you for such a philosophical response. It leads to so many other issues, that have deeper meaning and value.
@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
8 Feb 07
It is very easy for me to keep secrets.Always was, since i went to school.All my friends trust me them secret.But for me is very difficult to trust my secrets to other people.the truth is i met some people that really wasn't trustworthy.Now i trust only some good friends of mine except my family persons.
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Yes, it took me a long time, to really trust others, as I have learned that there are really dishonest people in the world. Now, I want to build the trust level between my husband and I, since I have found close friends and family members also.
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
21 Jan 07
As far as keeping secrets, I trust myself the most. I don't like talking about others and making assumptions when I don't really know what is going on. I never tell secrets. In fact, I mostly forget them after they are told to me...which is rarely nowadays.
I don't know the purpose of telling secrets in the first place. If I know something and I tell you, what does that mean? Maybe it depends on the secret. Maybe people like to tell secrets because they are insecure with who they are. They tell their secrets to get verification from others that what they are thinking is real.
Trust goes way beyond keeping a secret.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I agree with you. It annoys me immensely when people tell their secrets thinking that they can trust the person that they are telling them to, and then come to find out that their secret has been aired. I cannot believe the nerve that some people have, talking and laughing behind the backs of others, especially when they claim to be friends with the people that they are betraying. I have a friend who trusts so many people and I am always telling her not to, and she tells them all the details of her life, and they share her secrets behind her back. It is sad that she thinks of them as her friends.
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@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I understand that, but one thing I have learned growing up, is if someone confide in me about something, being a friend I keep the secret and vice versa. I have one best friend who I talk to about everything..I trust her as she trust me. I believe trust, or keeping a secret is important. It shows your true colors as well..
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Exactly, you are very lucky to have that one friend, growing up, I did not have one exclusive best friend...and then, as I got older, I narrowed it down to my close few. And since getting married, my hubby has filled that place for me, of always wanting one best friend.
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@poohandchocolate (348)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I don't trust many people. I trust my family and my friends who are like sisters to me. I've known them for a long time now and have gotten to know who they really are so I know they can be trusted. I don't trust people I haven't known for a long time, because I think it takes more than a year to know who people really are. If anyone comes to me with a secret I keep it a secret to respect what that person wants. I don't believe it's my business to talk about someone else's secrets.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Yes, I feel the same way. It truly makes a difference who the person is that you are telling your secrets to. And sometimes, it is nice to share your deepest thoughts with those you trust the most, because it can take a load off your shoulder, other times, if you have shared the information with the wrong person, it can make you regret ever saying anything. I have a close circle of friends and family members that I talk to, and then, there is my hubby...who sometimes tells me, that I am sharing TMI, and that is really funny, because, as I say, "If you can't tell your husband, Who can you tell?" But, sometimes, it is also better to just keep things to ourselves, and let time solve them.
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@Sawsen (793)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I think for me it depends on the person and it depends on the secret. Like if it's a family secret, I probably wont tell anyone. But if it's a secret that is about a person I rarely know, I'll probably tell a close friend knowing that she wont tell anyone. I usually try to keep secrets, but sometimes I can't lol. I really think it just has to do with how major it is, and the person.
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Well, that is a different point of view. Thanks for being honest. I believe, though, that if someone trusts that you will not tell anyone, then that is different. But, if they know that they are not going to be harmed by your telling a few people, then that is different. It is best though,to try and keep people's secrets a secret...or then they might not find you trustworthy...or maybe they will anyways.
@CinderInMySoul (4717)
• United States
21 Jan 07
i can certainly keep a secret. ive never been an overly talkative person as it is. and anyone that knows me, knows that i can be trusted with a secret to the grave.
in my opinion, sometimes keeping a particular secret isn't really a good thing, but that doesn't matter. since it's not my right to tell it to others. especially since im not the one that would feel the impact of said secret getting "out". my friend would, and that would just cause them pain or embarrassment, which is something i woulndt want a friend to do to me; so i wont do it to them.
being a trustworthy person in todays day and age is rare just as you said. sad thing to say, but true.
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I too, prefer not to get a secret that is not easy to keep, but I would still keep it. Although, I do worry about talking in my sleep...I have too many secrets that I have kept for others. :)
