Keys to a healthy Relationships....
By mzbubblie
@mzbubblie (3839)
United States
January 21, 2007 5:56am CST
I been looking around at the different topics and notice alot of relationship issues...Well maybe we can put our heads together and make a post of differents ways to having a successful relationship.
First and foremost, one key to having a successful relationship is you got to "LOVE YOURSELF", I believe self esteem is really important for a healthy relationship. If a person truly like themselves, in spite of any failings and weaknessesses that they may have, you'll still feel confident. And when a person feel confident and secure within themselves, they can enjoy being with their partner for the joy they bring to yours. not because they feel they need their partner to survive.
**Making quality time for your partner is very important also. When the relationship starts, they instictiverly prioritise their relationshp. But as time goes on their lives get busier with work and children, time together often isn't as much as it use to be.If you don't spend time regularly together, chances are you'll drift apart.
What are some of your ingredients to having a successful relationship? Any experiences you would like to share? I just named two and explained them, but I know there alot more....
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48 responses
@cyb3rjunk13 (470)
• United States
22 Jan 07
well i agree with yoour points, i think in a healthy relationship one thing that is most important is communication, talk to each other, argue, even debate because this helps you learn each others opinons n ideas..also it would be kinda hard at first may seems stress ful but trust me in the end you both surely wil come to a solution.. my spouse and I are really good in this matter, since we communicate so much that there isnt ever a chance of missunderstanding.. Also, lisen to each other and be self scarifising at times of arguments.. later on you surely can clear it out..these thing work the best for us..and keeps us in a healthy and loving relationship
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@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
22 Jan 07
Very true, you have to be able to listen to one another feelings...Be able to talk/communication is def. a must...thank you for responding...
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
21 Jan 07
My thought about keeping a relationship alive and strong is somewhat simliar to the second thing that you wrote about there. I believe that a relationship is something that you have to work at every day of your life. Not that it should ever, ever feel like it is work. You should just wake with the desire in your heart to see happiness in the eyes of your love, and you should do little thinsg (and big things! *laugh*) to let that person know just how much you love them, every single day. In return, if they do the same for you, that will help so much to keep the relationship strong and loving! ^_^
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
22 Jan 07
Yes and to add to that, BOTH have to be willing to work at it and feel about themselves....It takes 2 people wanting the same from each other to make it work...thanks for responding..
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
22 Jan 07
1. Love yourself first.
2. Find yourself.
3. Love smart, not stupid.
@beautyoperater (1890)
• United States
22 Jan 07
My husband and I have sucessfully been together for almost 18 years now and still going strong. We never fight. We may have an agruement but we never go to bed angry. We are never apart except for work. We are always together. We do things together, whether its camping, fishing, shopping, doing karaoke, and going out with friends. Its total respect for one another and loving each other helpls to. We say I love you at least three times a day.
My best advice is never go to bed angry, say I love you alot, and just be there for each other.
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
23 Jan 07
That's wonderful to hear your marriage is going strong 18 years...that's a wonderful thing to see...you are so right never go to bed angry, it's no good...communication with saying something so simply as I love you can go along way...thank you for responding
@lifeiseasy (2292)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I have just read a book about a month ago and I found some great ways to keep your relationship on a" high ". The Five Love Langages by Gary Chapman. Learn to read your partners love lanuage and to me the book really makes sense. As for giving someone advice on their relatinship I certainly am not qualified ...lol But your advice about loving yourself is a very good point...
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@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Thank you for the book advice. It's like as I've gotten older, I've found there is so much more to a relationship than my thoughts when I was younger and thought love was all that mattered. I'm not qualified either, just passing on one of life lessons I found through having relationships...thank you for responding...
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@88caira88 (77)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
I am in a relationship right now. And there were certain things that I learned.
You should RESPECT each other. Respect each other's opinions, beliefs, and also your private things.
TRUST is the primary key to a healthy relationship. If you don't have trust to each other, then you're wasting your time being in that relationship.
LOVE. Love each other but you should learn how to love yourself first. Ang learn to love the people he/she loves.
HONESTY. Honesty is the best policy as the cliche goes. Being honest to your partner will help him/her to trust you even more.
QUALITY TIME. It is said to be the main ingredient of every relationship. Spending time with your partner will help you both discover your real personalities.
SINCERITY. Be sincere in all the things that you'll say. If you don't have anything good to say, you better shut your mouth or else this will start a quarrel.
There's a lot more, but those were the things I only thought for now. Well I hope that helps! :)
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@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
22 Jan 07
To have a successful relationship then we have to let each of us still be free not tired to each other and therefore we have to have other things to keep us occupied, yes you must LOVE YOURSELF if you really want to love someone else, and quality time is very important and to show your partner that you love them,.
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
22 Jan 07
True, a couple need to have "ME" time. That is very true as well...Sometimes you can be with someone so much that you have any time to miss them..That's healthy, at least in my opinion...
@aquatic (165)
• India
22 Jan 07
As it is a pretty long discussion, much of the things might have been said already. But i cant resist myself in posting in discussions like this.To this discussion I can only add is to love n understand your partener, their time and every move. As the relationship grows older the couple cant behave like love birds, there would be something more in the world after exploring each other.
@maru_047in (1007)
• India
22 Jan 07
Ya you are true and i think the person has to love or get confidence in himself to be happy and healthy relationship with somebody cause they ll believe in u a lot cause u ll have the confidence and if u have confidence u ll do the things always right and that work ll give more confidence and then u can b a successful man and ofcourse everybody respect and gives respect to everybody.
@awesomeone (55)
• Indonesia
22 Jan 07
I'm agree for that point Love ourself.... and i didn't have this healthy relationship experience... and i try to learn...and i had read one book about Truly Venus and Mras...its about how to understand our partner and how we deal w/ it and make our relationship grow and more stronger...
@madmastmanish (19)
• India
22 Jan 07
in my opinion dear the only key is the love & affection.
this is the only way that generates sympathy 4 anyone. we should try to resolve the problem by compromise & and not elaborating it
@lelyan (6)
• United States
22 Jan 07
i believe that behind a man there a smart woman and behind a smart woman there is a strong man. be patient and listen to what each other have to say. trust one another. share ur thought w/one another, never scale what u giving or receiving. never try to change ur love. love each other top to button. like his good side and love him for his bad. giving opinions and advises are way different from pointing and demanding. there is no obeying in love but only willingness. support ur loves even u each has different path and goal. sacrificing. be creative and do activities together. go explore together.
@banta78 (4326)
• India
22 Jan 07
I totally agree with you on the first point that one of keys to healthy relationship is to love yourself. I think one should love themselves and that can be achieving when couples give each other the personal space for it. One should do yoga, meditation and chanting of prayers and deep breathing exercises i feel it helps to awaken our spirit and there is harmony in mind, body and spirit. Which helps us to declutter our mind and helps us with self esteem . it doesn't mean we become egositic. But wehen you love ourselves then only will be capable of giving or sharing the love, compassion with others too.
Besides there should be love, trust, understanding , have open communication between partners, so that there is miscommunication between couples. And one should thrash out their problems before sleeping or going to work and don't keep them pending as bitterness or tenson might creep in.
Yes i also feel one has to work on the realtionship and one should make quality time for their loved ones. And should also try to see others viewpoint, be good listener, and show that one cares through words, gestures that how much one cares, loves the other person.
@kaspyv (1011)
• United States
22 Jan 07
my thoughts on this.........you have to, among other things have lots of trust in each other, always honesty and lots and lots of communication! i also live by this rule in my relationship...LIVE OPENLY, LAUGH FREELY AND LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
I think that i will add trust because trust is always the most important part of a relationship and also the basis for love! I also think that communication is very important in keeping that fire burning bright!
@chinmaythebest (129)
• India
22 Jan 07
Righlty said dude.. i think u hav gr8 experience wid relationship an i truly agree wid u.. i do think time is really important in any relationship and even takin ur responsibility an showing commmittment an respect towrds d relatioship is as important as other things... an thanx for ur post...
@mae168 (170)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
when you two face problem, you have to talk about it with a calm mind to solve the matter..spending time together is very importnat in a realationship..you need to be open with each other..tell the truth don't you ever lie you partner..you have to support your partner in everything..say i love you alway and also show your love to your partner.
@mimicgurl (64)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
for me TRUST is one of the important key in a healthy relationship. You can't say that you love the person and not trusting him. If you don't have trust in your partner it will come to the point that you will lose your relationship.
RESPECT you learn how to respect each others decision.
GIVE and TAKE relationship. when you love the person.learn how to give in
ACCEPT all the shortcomings of the one you love. When you love, you don;t find the perfect one but accept all the shortcommings of the person you love..
