Would you tell your problems to family or friend?

@hopeful28 (1439)
Singapore
January 21, 2007 7:32am CST
Most of the time I find it easier to confide in my close friends rather than family even though one would expect family members to be more accepting of oneself. Which would you go to?
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• Philippines
21 Jan 07
Though i know my family's there to help me in times of difficulties, just like you i easily confide to my closest friend. Maybe because my friends are my same age and they can easily relate to me as compared to my parents who i think will have difficulty relating to me. Its maybe because of the gap between me and my parents.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
22 Jan 07
I know what you mean. Sometimes, I just feel that my parents will not understand if I share with them or I know that all I will get is negative feedback or criticism, so to avoid that I still prefer to tell it to a friend who is more objective and accepts me as I am.
@rainbow (6762)
21 Jan 07
I have a coyple of really good friends I can confide in gut I never tell my family anything if I can avoid it, most of them except my dad and step-mum I'm ashamed to know anyway.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
22 Jan 07
I am glad you have someone to talk to outside your family. Sounds like you didn't have a happy family life with your dad and stepmom. But I know you have many friends on MyLot so hopefully that will help you too.
@pillze (118)
• Romania
21 Jan 07
well, i think that your family members should be your friends too. You can be sure that they want the best and only the best for you! And even if you think that they won't understand you, be sure that they will! But of course, that doesnt mean you don't have to have any other friends except your family! I mean that if you have a major problem you should always count on your family!
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
22 Jan 07
I do agree with you that for some of us, we know that our family will always be there supporting us no matter what happens. However, sadly, this may not be true for many others because in some families, the members within may be like strangers to each other because of lack of bonding from young or due to other factors. You are blessed to have a supportive family.
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I tell ym husband EVERYTHING. Even if the problem is HIM (best way to solve it is to talk to him about it) Other than that, I don't talk to the rest of my family. So I go to my friends, for sure. They know me best and understand my situation and point of view better than anyone in my family ever could.
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
19 Feb 07
Well find it easier to talk to my Friend, as you say Families just judge and don't really help much at all, my Son and Daughter do as we are always there for each other but when it comes to other Familie Members they really do not help cause next thing you know you hear about their Problem instead. So forgotten is yours and you try to help them which was not the Idea.
@samehmam (56)
• Egypt
24 Jan 07
hi Iconsider friend are more important than relatives as in my lifemy friends are close to me very much
• Romania
24 Jan 07
i would prefer to confide in my family because i know that they would help me and they don't want bad things to happen to me . the real friends usually don't want to happen bad things to me but never say never. so in conclusion better confide in your family if they are good listeners
@angelco (345)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
usually i go to my friend because i know she understands me and she also gives me advices :)
@7nicole1 (1634)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
Yes if I got a problem I will go to family or my best friend for advice.
@vicky19810 (1601)
• China
23 Jan 07
For me ,i often tell my problems or trouble to my friends for more,as they all understand my matters more than my family. i always talk about our matters and troubles togather with my friends ,and do not often tell them to my family,on side,i do not want them to be worried me ,another hands,i believe there is a gap between us ,and they maybe can not understand my thoughts.so i think i will tell them to my friends when i have problems .
• United States
22 Jan 07
I find it easier to tell things to friends rather than family. It just feels strange trying to tell things to family members. I gave up on that a long time ago. I feel they have some preconcieved notion of how I'm supposed to be and what I'm supposed to do and feel so I'd rather not bother with telling them things.
• India
22 Jan 07
i will tell my friend
• India
22 Jan 07
I would tell both of them friends and family. The reason is my family is a really very supporting. They would always co-operate with me whenther I am in hell or heaven. And friend because friends are for that purpose only You alwasy look towards to your friends when in need or in trouble.
• Andorra
22 Jan 07
I agree. Alot of people find it easy to talk about their problems to friends other then family. The reason for this might be that they feel more confortable talking with someone who probably shares the same kind of problems.
• India
21 Jan 07
i would prefer to tell mostly to my fnd bcoz their used to be some thing which cannot be brought in the view of parents and ofcourse their is a proverb friend in a need a frnd should be in deed
@18111983 (66)
• Bangladesh
21 Jan 07
i always share my pain & joy with my some close friends because they really care for me.so when i really get upset then i talk with my close friends it helps me to get rid of my problems which i cant do with my family member .
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
I think it depends on a given situation Coz there are some things that is easier to tell your friends And there are some things that is easier to confide in with your family Like for example if it is family problems, i'll go and confide it with my friends because i want to see our situation through the points of view of other people someone who could understand both our sides.
@nadh1981 (75)
• India
21 Jan 07
Will share with a friend. cos i share it with my family members, they get worried and tensed, and i don't want them to be worried. If its some thing i should do, sharing with family members may worsen the situation, while a friend helps to come out. But i would be nice if parents are best friends and can share any thing with them Very few parents have such kind of attitude.
@edelweiss (1929)
• India
21 Jan 07
I share my problems or discuss solutions with my parents. They are the only people who stand with me and help me make a decision. They are more experienced and have been through a lot of situations in life and know what will be the right thing to do. With friends, I find that they can only advise, they cannot be persuasive. Its my parents who can be persuasive. And even if something goes wrong whether I do what they have told me or my own, they slways stand with me and give me strength to face the situation.
@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
I would definitely not talk about my problems with family or friend. Most of my problems are trust issues from growing up in abusive foster homes so you couldn't pry anything out of me if you are family or my best friend. I know in my mind that they may be able to help me with a lot of baggage but my heart says keep your mouth shut. So I will just hold it all inside until I explode or die which ever comes first. :)