When you walk into someone's house , what is the first thing you notice ?

Canada
January 21, 2007 10:51pm CST
Do you notice if the house is clean or dirty ? And if the house is untidy , who do you feel is responsible for this , do you automatically blame the woman of the house or do you blame both the husband and wife ? I find that whenever someone enters my house they automatically check to see how clean it is and if it happens to be not to their liking they assume it is because I did nothing all day . This really irritates me as I am always cleaning but their are so many of us here that it only takes 5 minutes to make my house a disaster again , and if I am at work all day , I really can't help how my house looks when I get home . My husband who is home all day during the winter does nothing and yet it is me people tend to blame . What are your opinions ?
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@diablita (22)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
as a wife, i admit am the one who keeps our house clean but my husband is trying his way also to put things in order or i will nag the whole day ending in not talking to him at all. so when i walk in someone else's house, i would always look at it if its clean or not, the cleanliness of the house resembles the personality of the owner, and for me it is true. a clean house means a neat owner. i don't believe in busy excuse also, because no matter how busy you are or tired you are, there should also be time to clean the house. with regards to husband who is not doing nothing, tell them how you feel about a messy house, tell him how depressing it is to go home and see the house so dirty, am sure he will understand and put it in his mind, and probably learned to 'participate' in cleaning the house.
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• Canada
29 Jan 07
Thank you for your respone but I would like to add that I have spoke to my husband on many occasion and have tried to explain to him . It doesn't matter what I say or how mad or upset I get because to him , housework is women's work .
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• United States
22 Jan 07
I notice if the house is clean and neat or not. If it isn't, it depends on who is in charge of the house, who's working and who is staying home. I don't judge or blame anyone. Each to their own, it's their home.
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@mnrmkr (75)
• India
28 Jan 07
I notice if the house is clean means, the people who are residing in the house are clean and neat thought people.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
The smell. The smell alone would tell me how clean the people in the house are. I am very leniet when it comes to food odor (garlic, curry, etc) but if the food odor smells old, then it's different. Physical clutter only shows that the house is occupied. As for the dormant spouse, well, I can't help you with that.
@remaster74 (4065)
• Greece
22 Jan 07
First of all I don't stare to see if the house is clean or not. But I pay a lot of attention to the way it smells. A house can be really upside down but the smell can be great and can be cozy. If the house smells like a gutter then all this disaster area means it has been cleaned ages ago.
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• United States
22 Jan 07
well i usually see if its dirty and if it has roaches becuas ethen i dont want to sit anywhere because they might come on me but if the house is clean i would sit down and feel more comfortable
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@blueskies (1186)
• United States
23 Jan 07
The first thing I notice when I walk into a home is the pets. Colors can really affect your mood, generally notice them next. I then notice the scent, and lastly, whether or not the home is reasonably clean. I'm not a snob and I don't judge people by the cleanliness of their houses.......unless there is some sort of squallor issue going on.
@shywolf (4520)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I think that I notice the smell first almost more than the sights. I'm really not the most visually oriented person in the world. *laugh* But I would defintely notice if the house was very dirty and cluttery. Our house is cluttery, though, because at least two of my family members (including myself) are packrats who don't like to get rid of much. *laugh* But yes, I think that I would notice the smell first. Almost all houses have a completely different, distinctive smell. And most are lovely smells, unless perhaps they have a lot of messy pets! *laugh*
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@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
I couldn't care less about the cleanliness of people's houses. I'm not the best housekeeper, so, lots of people come over and see dust bunnies. If that icks them out, so be it. It's not all my fault the house isn't spotless.
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@7nicole1 (1634)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
The first thing I noticed is the smell. If a person has got kids its almost impossible to keep everything in place but its not impossible to keep the house smelling clean.
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@sunrisekn (1467)
• United States
22 Jan 07
When I walk into someone's house, the first thing I notice is the smell. I honestly could care less whether someone's house is clean or not. I understand what it's like to not have enough hours in the day to get things done. Even though I work very hard on keeping my house clean, I have a 10 month old that can't wait to come behind me and mess it up. I'm tired of worrying about it and apologizing for it. If they don't like it, they don't have to come into my house. So, I truly have no problem going into someone's house that they think is dirty.
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
22 Jan 07
I agree with you. Most people notice how clean a house is and I think that many do judge the woman if it is not clean enough. I have the same situation as you, my husband did not work for a number of years, I had 2 jobs and he did virtually nothing to tidy the house or even to keep it tidy after I had cleaned it. I hate people coming to my house if it is not sufficiently tidy but his attitude is that if people are coming here they are coming to see us not the state of the house and nothing I can do makes him understand that having an untidy house is embarassing.
• United States
22 Jan 07
I do look to see if the house is clean or just messy. It's a habit I've had all my life. My mother taught me to always keep things clean to keep germs down especially when children are in the house.
@mobyfriend (1019)
• Netherlands
22 Jan 07
I notice the atmosphere. Is it sterile or do you get the feel that someone lives there? Do you sense what the persons living in this house are about? Do you see plants and pets books and music? (Cleanliness is not my top priority.I'm not on on the best housewife list more on the desperate ones when cleaning is concerned).
@brihanna (381)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I think the first thing I notice is probably the lighting. To me, is really sets the mood of a place. Is it bright and cherry? Dimly lit and dreary? many sources of light? I think that it is directly related to the house though. For example, many people who have dirty houses tend to dim the lights so the dirt doesn't show up (I see this in the elderly) If a house is bright and cheery, usually is is a sign of a well functioning household-messy perhaps, but clean. And, I tend to find that a mulitude of light sources creates a warm and comforting feeling, so even if it is messy or dirty, the light plays with all of it. Makes it nice. My own home usually has many light sources, is clean, but can be very untidy.
@XxAngelxX (2831)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
Usually the first thing I notice when I walk into a person's house is the smell. I don't care if someone's house is messy or not. As the mother of three kids, I realize how little time it can take for things to go from tidied to a complete tornado zone, lol, but there is a difference between toys on the floor and dirt. If the house is "dirty" i definitely notice that. But having things out of place to me doesn't mean it's dirty just that mom is obviously busy :)
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@Miriel (1043)
• Norway
22 Jan 07
I dont care if the house is messy or not. But I will notice if the house is clean. Also it is importent to me that the bathroom is clean so that is one of the first things I notice (If I get a chance to see the bathroom though ;) ) Also I notices if there are any pictures or items on the wall. I think that what you hang on the wall tell much about the person.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Oh this is true about husbands I have on that does nothing too. When I go to someones house no I dont look to see if its clean or not. But if their house is noticably dirty then that is another story. Im constantly cleaning my house too but some days you would never know it.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Thanks for the best response.
• India
22 Jan 07
yes ofcoz if a lady in a house & still the house is dirty so that responsible of the lady. Bcoz to keep clean the house the lady thats the duty. if she doesnt do that that mean she is not intrested for her inpression of her home.
@bonbon664 (3470)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
Why is it the lady's responsiblity? We both work full time, why do I have to do all the work?
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
4 Mar 07
When i go in to ones house and i notice that it is messy i do not mind at all or judge for that matter as i too have children and sometimes 6 kids at a time if friends are over! Alot of times too someone comes here and i can immediately tell that they are scoping but alot of times i like to get the kids in bed so that i do not have to clean the entire house 3 times in the same day. Besides that there is a difference between a messy house and a dirty house and a dirty house is disgusting where you can see mold growing in the corners .... LOL! You know when someone constantly cleans as there house is messy and not dirty and who cares what people think of us as we have a hard time too!! Take Care and God Bless!!!
• China
4 Mar 07
I don't notice if the house is clean and neat or not.Usually the first thing I notice when I walk into a person's house is the smell.i think that the owner of house should responsible for this if the smell was terrible.
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