familie's problems

June 30, 2006 2:40am CST
To begin with,as i'm an only child,i have a lot of pressure from my parents and my family in general!they are always dealing with me as they also press me for different situations.i can't stand this!i am a teenager,i know much more things than they have ever thought.another problem is with my grandma who influences with old-fashioned ideas my mum.i have talked with them,but they still can't understand me!
7 responses
@Andy77 (432)
• United States
28 Jul 06
I know what you are talking about. When a friend of mine was in high school (ages 14-18), her father walked her to school every day! And they only lived 1 block away! This was 40 years ago when nobody ever got kidnapped! Parents love to protect their children. I'm sure you know quite a bit about life that would surprise them. Try asking for a small freedom. If they say yes, be very responsible so they learn to trust you. Then, maybe you can ask for another one. Maybe they'd let you do more if you went places with a cousin or a friend with younger parents. Don't be in too much of a hurry to grow up; there are many problems that come with freedom. Someday, you will have to care for them and you'll wish they were young again. It helps to keep a journal, but don't say anything too mean in it; they'll probably read it!
@QnAQueen (555)
• United States
30 Jun 06
you know, somehow, i do know what you're going through, as i've been through the same thing. the thing is, i was not an only child, so it may have lessened the pressure on me a little bit and had maybe gotten spread out amongst the 4 of us. although, i must say, i've seen my share of pressure on different topics. and it really doesn't matter what age you are, you could be 30 and you'd still be treated like a child- because, let's face it, no matter how old you get, your parents will still be older than you, right? plus, to them, you are always going to be their "child". now that i'm a parent myself, it kinda makes me look at things a little differently, though, but you know what? sometimes i find myself being strict with my kids, too. you know there's nothing wrong with traditions and old practices, although, i know for those your age, it may be uncool to have to practice those traditions. i grew up with lots of traditions, too, and my parents and grandparents were strict and extremely conservative! but, you know what, now that i'm older, i've kept some of those traditions because now they hold fond memories of my childhood. unfortunately, there is this thing called a generation gap between most kids and their parents where both sides do not quite see eye to eye with the other. i'm sure your parents are only being strict with you because they care about you and want to make sure they protect you and teach in the way they know how.
@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
30 Jun 06
I am sorry to hear that you are having some many problems with your parents. I have not been to Greece but I am friends with someone who’s father is from Greece. His father is very strict and even though my friend is out of his teenage years his father does not treat him as such (imagine being 28 and still being treated as a 5 year old). I can imagine that in a world where old fashioned values are, people are not welcome to change. My advice to you, is to start small with things you request from your family. Try not to get angry with them, as it seems like you will just become more frustrated. Do well in school and work on achieving your goals - these things may seem silly right now, but you will be grateful that you did this in a few years. Try your best to work with your family, once they see that you are working with them as opposed to against them, they will be more willing to give in to some of your wants. Be patient, this doesn't happen over night. I went through the same thing with my family, believe me it gets better!!
@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
30 Jun 06
I grew up with older parents as well. So I understand a bit what you are going through. As an only child your parents just want the best for you and they feel like you are their one chance to get the parenting job correct. Your parents do not precive you as stupid, they probably are not sure exaclt what you really know and what you "think" you know. The first thing you need to learn how to do, is to choose your arguments with them. Part of any relationship is learning how to give and take. Sometimes you just need to give them what they want.Keep in mind that you are not the only teenager going through this! To help me give you a better answer, what country are you from? What types of ideas are they pressuring you with? What is your age?
30 Jun 06
ok!at first,i wanted to tell you that i am not a fluently speaker of english,so i didn't understand what you meant in your first question..i would appreciate it if you could explain it to me..my parents are a liittle older than they should be in a usual situation..they're 50!you know what difficulties i have..
30 Jun 06
what is gender? how old are? what is your level of education so far? where are u @
@foxmer (4)
30 Jun 06
what is gender? how old are? what is your level of education so far? where are u @