Happily married people: Would you do it again?

@kbkbooks (7022)
Canada
January 22, 2007 2:26pm CST
This is for people who are happily married. I don't want to hear it if you are in a bad relationship or single for any reason. Married people: Assuming you are really happily married, would you do it again? Say you go back in time and know your future...would you marry the same mate again? I am very happily married, but I am not sure I would. I love him and we have a good life together. However, if I have known the pressures of step children (from both sides) and dealing with ex's... I don't know if I would remarry again. Obviously, in spite of the probs in my first marriage, I thought it a good enough state of being that I chanced it again. I do love having someone to talk things over with about life, having someone to share my good times, etc.
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• United States
26 Jan 07
I love my husband more than anything in this world, and I, like you would have to say that I am unsure if I would make the same choices if I had it to do all over again. This is my first marriage, his third, and talk about a lot of extra baggage. As I said, I love him, we are happy, and our marriage is wonderful, but I honestly don't think I would do it over!
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Honest and interesting. By the way, I love your nickname.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I have been happily married for twenty years and hoping for many more. I am 19 years younger than my husband. My husband is kind loving and we both had bagage that we had to over come to get to where we are. After saying all that yes, I would marry him again knowing what I know now. We have a good life and worth all the hard knocks getting here.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Wow, congratulations. I am 13 years younger than my husband. Your story is beautiful.
• India
25 Jan 07
My answer is straight , YES I would marry the same woman who is my wife right now and my reason are also very straight, I cant afford to experiment with marriage any more. After being married for 20 years nad looking at thousands of couple whom I been in contact with, I can safely say that their is nothing called perfect marriage and perfect couple, its all an illusion, one can only hope for and strive for that but no one have a long long honey moon, as Marriage is not suppose to be one. You got to work it out despite loving, fighting, cursing, financial trouble, work stress, bad relationship in family and in work place, growing up kids and finally ill health and disappointment of lost chances. I will marry the same woman again and try to do better next time, instead of taking another chance and falling flat.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
26 Jan 07
That's an interesting view. You have a lucky wife. :-)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I would marry my husband again, we have been married a long time it isn't always a picnic but seeing what my single friends go through my life is perfect. I must say if somthing was to happen and we weren't together anymore I would not date or get married again.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
Having experienced a total of 19 years of married life and 36 single...I'd rather be married anyway.
• United States
24 Jan 07
I am married and i would do it all over again! I have a wonderful husband who i love dearly! I couldnt see myself being with anyone else besides him for the rest of my life....
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
Bless you. That is so beautiful.
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
I'm happily married for almost 3 years now. i'm with him 24/7 since we work in the same office. we go to lunch and all ... everything! we do have our downs though.. specially if he is having this road rage. i'm having problems also dealing with his lesbian daughter (my step daughter) and her sister. but if you ask me if i had a chance to go back in the past knowing what i am right now...will i remarry the same man and experience all this? I'm very willing to do so! :)
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Congratulations. That's beautiful.
@claudia413 (4280)
• United States
23 Jan 07
My second husband and I have been married for 28 years, and I think it gets better every year. If I could choose to do it again, I definitely would. He's everything I wanted years ago and everything I want today. We've had our ups and downs, like most couples, but I can't imagine life without him by my side. I'll have to ask him tonight if he'd do it all over again if he had the choice. It'll be interesting to see what he answers.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
Let us know. I am on my second marriage too. With all the distractions aside, like stepkids, money, health, etc. it's been really wonderful. Thing is...those are the things that make up life aside from love...LOL.
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
We've only been married a little over a year, but i'd do it again, no doubt in my mind. We have our ups and downs, like everyone else, but i always told myself, why risk losing what you have when you could end up with worse?
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
It's certainly important to appreciate what we have.
• United States
22 Jan 07
We have been happily married for 12 years, and yes i would do it again, my wife is my perfect match because we are so opposite, I love that she is so different, she keeps intriguing me. But if we got divorced, that would be it, i would not marry again. One time would be enough
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
That's a good honest answer. I like the way you think.